After all this crap about OH's stag do, in which he is really starting to pee me right off, I have told OH that I am not allowing his "best man" to make a speech.
Not only has this man tried to come between us for 12 years but all this stuff with the stag do has really got me at the end of my tether.
My Dads not with us anymore which really limits the speeches to OH and me, our wedding is late 4pm onwards, food at 6pm. I want to use the time scale as an excuse but OH thinks im being unreasonable.
(If you read previous posts you'll understand why I cannot stand this mine)
Any advice??

It's yours and your h2b's wedding day, anything you want to do should be up to you. I think it would be lovely and something a bit different having just you and hubby do the speeches.

One thing I have come to realise throughout this whole wedding planning process is.... sod what anyone else thinks/says, have it your way! you pay all this money, put up with all the stress and ultimately you should get what you want from the day.

The best man has been a right pain for you and I would just be brave and make it clear that it's only gonna be you two standin up to talk. Put a positive spin on it by saying "at least you won't have to worry about speech nerves" :P xx

Don't have any formal speeches during the meal as such. Maybe something during the evening do both of you take the mike to say aquick thanks to the guests and bridal party.

Thanks girls, defo going to take your advice. The more I think about it the happier I am to just have a few words from us both as Mr&Mrs :-)
My foot will be firmly down.

good on you stephanie, i wouldn't want him to do a speech either if i was you, that man gets on my nerves and i don't even know him We are not having speeches (as such) either on our day as my dad has passed away and i don't want someone else to take his spot (if that makes any sense) i think my h2b is going to get up and thank everyone for coming but thats it

Think I would feel exactly the same way TBH. so don't think you're being unreasonable at all. Besides, it's yours and H2B's wedding so do it they way you're both comfortable with. A simple thanks from you both to your family and guests and bridal party would be nice but you don't have to do speeches if you don't want to. If I were in your position I would be worried about the content of the BM speech.

ha I hate when they pull the tradition card, hardly any weddings are traditional these days! I agree with you Stephanie, he's lucky the bloke is even at the wedding in my eyes. I feel for you I really do, reading your posts I just think thank goodness my OH's friends aren't like that. I hate that you're in this position.

they do say weddings bring out the worse in people, i hope he sorts himself out when he gets back and you can get back to how you were. i would be frustrated too your doing a fab job at keeping it all together though hun x