Right, so recently i have put up with so much rubbish involving the 'in laws'
First it was, certain members of the the family (my oh step sisters) werent invited to the wedding as they cause alot of trouble within the family. It was put to them that they were on a probation period where if they could get on with immediate family (my oh mum etc) that they could come to the reception. Within a week, a full blown argument over facebook happened, started by my oh step sister, over something totally irrelevant. Anyways she started on my MIL2b and then me. I tried deleting comments from my status to cool things down got accused of taking sides with mil2b and all hell broke loose. I then got told my my h2b step mum that i was no longer 'allowed' round her house as i called her & her son disfunctional (a status i put up after this stupid arguement - which was aimmed at all people included in the argument, no one innocent)
So that was 2 weeks ago.
Then ive had an on going problem with my oh cousin who months ago tried to steal our limelight, by announcing that she was getting married to her bf a month apart from ours. Shes constantly trying to rub my nose in stuff.
So today comes along, my sil2b (shes 17) is sorting out her wedding (she propsed to her bf bk in feb) So she messages me on facebook, asking about my hen do, we was talking and she asked what my dress looked like as shes seen a simular one she likes but doesnt want us to wear the same (at this point im thinking hen do still) She sends me a message saying, shes not on about hen do, she meant for the wedding (im now thinking MY wedding) she sends me a picture.....of the SAME dress as my wedding dress but in white & purple. I say to her erm you know this is exactly the same as my wedding dress dont you. She goes oh yeah i thought it was, do you mind me wearing it?! Erm well yeah how can you be wearing the same dress as the bride to the brides own wedding!!! So at this point im thinking is this girl high?! LOL
Im kinda brewing thinking wth is going on, so i ring my sister who thinks ive read it all wrong, and thinks my sil2b is on about HER wedding and not mine, but i re read the message three times, and sure enough it says MY wedding not HERS.
So then i remember that shes one of my BMs, so why would she wear the dress she showed me....now even more confused i text her.
Hour later she messages me to say that she meant HER wedding. & it would be weird of her to wear it to my wedding. So ok i get that bit, it makes more sense now. But then im thinking out of all the dresses in the world why choose the exact same dress as my wedding dress knowing full well what dress i have?! So i ask her, why are you copying my dress. Her reply was her & her bf wanted a blue & white theme and she even wanted MY dress, but thought it was bad of her to copy us.
So i tried nicely to suggest to her that she have a white dress with purple accessories instead of copying my dress.
Am i being unreasonable to suggest this, i know her wedding is a year after mine, but i feel as if she wants to be centre of attention and cant think of an original idea.

Hi Valerie,
Yeah pretty much everything has been thrown at us lately. And my poor h2b has had the brunt of most of it. It turns out that now his dad isnt allowed to our wedding bcoz the evil step mum has forbidden it. Needless to say the step sister isnt coming either. Thank god!!
I was thinking the exact same thing, hence why i was trying to suggest to hers different things. I hoping too!!

I know it must be annoying that she wants to wear the same dress as you but perhaps you should be flattered,she obviously cannot find anything more beautiful than the dress that you will be wearing.If she was going to get married before you,yes i would be furious but as she is getting married a year after you then its not like she is going to upstage you.In fact you could turn it to your advantage if you were planning on selling your dress afterwards you could suggest that she buy it off you.Bear in mind as well she is only 17 and her wedding is over a year away,she could have changed her mind about the dress and the boyfriend quite easily by then xxx

Hi Valerie, Shes a witch. Ive never got on with her ever since her lovely daughter got me jumped and beat me up in front of my son. Sometimes i feel sorry for myself for even marrying into the family, but i just remind myself that shes a step sister and she doesnt live in the same town as us. suits me just fine if they dont come, but i do feel sorry for my OH if his dad doesnt come, to me surely your kids come first.
Poulton bride:: Hiya, Since sleeping on it all, i can clearly see your point entirely. I know it sounds bad but i can honestly say i dont think it'll last.
Hiya Joanne, im not even sure uno?! But its not a secret - my dress. Everyone knows what it looks like and for the sheer fact she said to me, oh i think its the same as yours. Even if she thought, why would you?!Really.
Ahh nevermind.

Hiya Rockabilly, my little sister in laws is yes, well at least thats what shes planning. I cant see it happening myself. but hey ho. This is what i was thinking, not very original is it. -_- I mean theres so many dresses out there why out of all of them does she want to choose mine, and i mean my dress (AA1516) has many different dresses which have the colour back but arent the same, there difference, and she went for the exact dress as mine. Oh i have said to her. I asked her what she was thinking. I was she was high!!
Oh yeah joys of getting married. Sometimes i wish we up sticks and went abroad to do it.

The word obsessive comes to mind. I feel sorry for my oh, im a right Bridezilla at times lol.
I know i wasnt thinking about marriage at 17, ok i had my son, but i was just getting into the habit of being a parent. I wasnt bothered about weddings etc. I still think its all attention seeking.