hey girls

ive been looking at wedding rings recently but the OH isnt interested what so ever he even said he might not wear his ring at all which upset me alot

now ive been showing him rings i like for me i want something a bit unusual and as its a Halloween wedding it would be expected would it not!?!? but he keeps telling me there horrible and to go more 'traditional' (aka a boring silver band which just isnt me!!) but when i showed him 'traditional' rings he told me he thought id want something abit more blingy GURRRRRRRRR

its a bit more of a deal as i cant wear my engagement ring it keeps breaking and im fed up paying to have it fixed n coz i have HUGE MAN HANDS i have to pay extra to get rings made to my size or have to buy a mans ring :(

I wouldn't be overly bothered if my other half doesn't wear his ring, mostly out of practicality. Also, the ring you where should be a token and symbol from him to you. So whereas he should try and account for some of your taste, hes probably lookign down the line and how you'd look at it in years to come. Also, some of the fancier rings tend to be more brittle or delicate and a wedding ring, if like you imply, you intend to wear it all times, a plainer more traditional style in a more durable metal probably is what you need. Larger rings only cost more because they use more material which is fair enough, but even men's palladium rings are not that expensive. I spent £233 on my man's palladium 5mm court ring and its elegant and punchy because it's elegant and plain. In addition, it looks like and is very similar characteristics wise to platinum but at about 1/5th the cost. Silver rings are ok but I wouldn't reccomend it as a long lasting every day ring.

Other things you may want to consider with a fancy design.

Does the design reflect you, or your relationship which it is a symbol of?
Practically speaking is it a good design? I have a paloma picasso olive leaf ring and it often catches on things... including my own skin if I forget to take it off when washing my face... something i probably will never do again I hope!
Does the metal it's made of suit the ring mechanically/structurally... i.e, taking in to account the above, if it got caught, would it be likely to break or get bent/become brittle?

Also, and you may or may not care, but future employment may allow you to wear a plain wedding band and nothing more... I've heard of some jobs where people have had to buy a plain ring in lieu of their normal ring. I understand this as sometimes people have stuff theat's whacky and may be offensive to others. It may not seem like a big deal now, but think of all the issues with wearign the smallest of religous jewellery at some places of work!!!

If you're engagement ring keeps breaking, the design is probably not suitable for you if it isn't a faulty design. In addition the metal may not be strong enough. I suggest a low carat gold alloy for durability of you can't afford platinum or palladium.

my engagement ring is white gold which has been strengthened and double dipped to make it stronger but im to scared to wear it as last time it was Strengthened it lasted 2 weeks and broke again its just a simple ring with an eternaty style design with dimonds but its the actual underneath of the ring that keep breaking n for the price we paid im kinda put off white gold now

the ring i like is titanium with skull designs etched into it (halloween...) it wouldnt get caught on anything i dont imaging and it reflects my character perfectly :( im not a traditional bride in anyway and he liked that about me n loves the fact were going in a totally different way with the wedding

as for the job aspect i run art workshops... i also have purple hair i doubt they would notice some little skulls in my wedding ring lol xx

just showed him 3 more n just got the 'hmmmmm' face (the face he pulls when he dosent like somethin but dosent want to say he dosent like it)

You get whatever you like!!! I am!!!

I want a blingy ring and the OH was like "why do you need that when you have a blingy engagement ring" (which it's not that blingy at all) he wants me to have a plain band but i dont want a plain one. He wants me to wear it all the time too and he knows i cant wear a ring with stones in it for uni/hospital (Maybe ill buy 2 and have one for work and one for normal lol). He is excited to wear a ring which i think is lovely of him.

Keep on at him, he'll give in eventually! ;) OR just buy it! Then it's done and dusted!!

xxx

Id just get it, its your finger afterall!

Mine has a ring his dad gave him (it was his wedding ring, not his original one I don't think but his ring anyway) he hurt his finger at work so it's swollen at the top now and the ring doesn't fit.

Anyway he said he wouldn't wear it for work, at first it upset me as I just thought he would wear it, but if he doesn't then he doesn't. He's a chemistry teacher so doesn't want it getting ruined when he's messing about doing experiments which is fair enough.

I understand men(and women) not wearing wedding rings at work for practical reasons like as clairenina said her fiance is a chemistry teacher but I would be hurt if my fiance didnt want to wear a ring. "This ring is a symbol of our love" goes both ways. It should mean something to the man and woman. Obviously I understand you can love and trust someone whether or not they have ring but if only one person is going to wear a ring, why not stay engaged? Sorry if thats harsh but it is just my opinion. I do get that theres more to it than that, marriage is a big commitment. I just believe the ring is an important symbol. Laurak7 I like your attitude about your H2B wearing it whether he likes it or not haha

Although as katielea pointed out years and years ago it was common for men not to wear wedding rings but then men fought to wear wedding rings during the war as they said it reminded them of their wives and children back home. Back then it was also common for men in the royal family not to wear wedding rings either. Prince William doesnt wear an engagement ring today. I guess if your H2B doesnt want to wear one and you're comfortable with it then thats right for you.

I don't understand women who get upset that their h2b doesn't want a wedding ring. It is a personal choice wether or not a person wear jewelry of any kind. I don't understand the point of getting worked up about it.....the only bit of a wedding ceremony that is actually legal are a very small amount of the spoken vows and the signing of the register. A legal weddign can take place with out rings x

Sorry clairenina, I misread it was DonnaH39 who said her husband was a chemistry teacher. I know a wedding can take part without the rings but in my opinion I feel the rings are an important symbol. This is why I would feel hurt if my fiance didnt want to wear a ring as its an important symbol which he should be proud to wear. When a man doesnt want to wear a wedding I feel almost as if he is hiding that he is married. As MrsThomson2B said the ring exchange a tiny part of the ceremony so why is it so difficult for a man to make a tiny sacrifice. Once they wear it for a little while they wont feel it any longer. Most women don't wear rings on their engagement finger until they get engaged and at first an engagement ring feels uncomfortable but we don't take it off, we get used to it. Its fair enough to say that an engagement ring is sparkly and women are more comfortable with jewelry than men but an engagement ring is still a commitment. It is a symbol that says I am taken as does a wedding ring and don't understand why it wouldnt bother people if their H2B refused to do the same.

I think thats lovely, at least he'll always have it on him :) and the reason he doesnt have it on normally all the time is because of practical reasons and not just because he doesn't want to. I just don't understand women who don't feel hurt or annoyed when theyre H2B says he doesnt want to wear the ring but for no good reason.