Not sure if this is the right place or not but here goes.

We'd love to have kids but there's a few potential sticky points:

1 He already has 2 children from previous marriage

2 His son had a little boy a few years ago so he's now a grandad

3 My fertility isn't great

4 I have CFS/ME and having a child could cause a major relaspe and he'd have to look after me and the baby full time

I'm in my late 20's and I always thought that I'd have kids and be married by now, but life doesn't always work that way and now we may not be able to have kids for medical reasons so my question is:

'Is it selfish of me to want to try when he could end up having to care for me and the baby full-time?'

There are a few other potential health problems (mainly mine)

Hubby to be keeps telling me that he loves me and we'll have a wonderful life together, and I know he's right but I've always wanted kids. Am I being selfish?

i think you need to discuss it and make sure you both know the potential risks etc.. hun but ur not being selfish xx

Jen - ur entitled to want kids, ur a human being, its part of our genetic make up being broody!
You know what the complications could be should you proceed to have a child/children, but if u want to make that choice then so be it. It's ur life and only u can make the decision.
As for him being a grandad, I have a friend who has a son, her brother has a child n her mum has a young child, these 3 kids r all within a couple of yrs of each other and causes them no problems :)
Have you ever thought of adoption? I know its not the same as giving birth (but im sure omitting that pain could be a bonus) plus ul be giving an underpriviliged child a fresh start on life. I have a friend who adopted a little boy a few yr ago he turned 4yesterday and is one of the family and is treated no different by his grandparents/auntie n uncle as his uncles biological son.
Sit down with H2B and weigh up the options, should he not want a child either biologically or adopting, you could look at fostering? which I know isn't the same as having your own but ud be giving something back to your community.
:) good luck xx

Ok so we've had the talk (again) and he's willing to try once retired or if he's offered redundancy and can work for himself.

I'm fine with either and I'm trying not to plan nursery's or buggies etc. I'm just so happy he wants to try :)

I think he probably always had it's just he's worried about my health and risks etc.

But we're gonna try :)

Sorry I'm just so excited! :)

Depends on soon. It will propably be about 10 years or so, but I don't care at this point :)

I can't stop smilling about it. I may try working on him after the wedding for a compromise on sooner.

I don't want to push to soon so to speak.

Thanks.

I've always wanted a family and I know I'll be a step mum and grandma once we get married but it's not quite the same and his daughters a teenager already so not much for me to do really.

We know there are a lot of hurdles and my health is deffinately a big one but like you said we're going in to this with open eyes and hopefully the outcome will be a pleasant one.