with the wedding in two months im so excited! however my brother just dropped the bombshell hes proposing to his gf in 3 weeks!!! im so upset he always tries to take my thunder! i know what you'll say wont take anything off my day but her family will want to be excited wont they and so will mine! and my OHs brother proposed a few weeks ago!! im like jeez will everyone just wait!! think im a little brat! just soo upset!
CommentAuthormillz090
I cant see the issue, sorry! Surely you should be happy for them and of course people will be excited for them but they know its your day too. xx
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I can kinda see it, I think h2b's sisters boyfriend is gonna propose but think he's waiting til after our wedding...I said I'd rather him do it soon the at least it can be exciting now then the shine comes off for our wedding,the everyone can get excited about their wedding,... Because urs is so close,a lot of ppl could be mentioning the engagement at ur wedding when it's supposed to be ur day!x
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CommentAuthorNevlar
im happy for them dont get me wrong i love them all to bits!! but why not wait its two months theyve been together 8 years surely two months wont hurt! xx
CommentAuthorKirsty
I can see your point, but it depends on how the other coupld handle the situation. We got engaged just 2 weeks before a family wedding, and although the family was excited, i made a concious effort not to discuss 'my' plans when enjoying another family members wedding. Maybe the time is just right for them. After all your wedding day is very special for you, but to the rest of the world (including family) its just a nice party (well in my family it is).
I dont think you are being brattish, but i would not have asked them to put it off or anything.
I do think you are being a bit bridezilla... if its in 3 weeks and you're getting married in 8, then a whole month will have passed by your wedding and the focus will be on you again anyway.
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
I get where you're coming from, everyones going to be congratulating you and them, taking about their wedding at yours.. It's quite unthoughtful of your brother.. My brother and SiL decided to get engaged for the 2nd time last month and have booked their wedding for Feb next year, but they were going to book it 3months to the date before my wedding ! I was furious as my wedding would mean diddly squat until there's was over ! But I'm ok now it's next Feb as we're not sending the StD's until June next year xxx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I too can see where you're coming from, and I think I would have a moan to myself, but at the end of the day, excitement over engagements doesn't really last long, particularly if they are not in a position to start planning immediately xx
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CommentAuthorNevlar
im so happy for them but hes never being bothered before! hes never changed hes always done this to me! its bad enough hes barely interested in mine i cant even get him to a suit fitting, but he'll expect everything of me! cant tell him its bothered me he'd love that! xx
CommentAuthornatalie2614
I cant see the issue, its not like hes getting married before you, shes going to be on cloud nine which will have probably died down by the time your wedding comes around. I dont think you have anything to worry about, perhaps now he'll make the effort and stuff for your wedding though if hes got a badgering fiancee on his back? x x
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I don't think it will be a problem. Your wedding will still be your day. My brother is getting married three months before me, having got engaged me. I compare notes, both with him and his fiancee, but on the day of their wedding, where I will be bridesmaid, I will be making sure that I focus on Emily and Iain, and if I am asked about wedding plans I'll change the subject asap. It will make life easier for the couples in question; they are bound to be asked when they are planning to get married, and if they have already got engaged it's easier to answer the question.
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
I can see where you're coming from an maybe your brother has just got caught up in wedding fever! Yeah maybe he could have waited until after yours but he isn't so it's just one of them things you just have to deal with and accept x
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CommentAuthorbrilly
I can see where your coming from hun but unfortunately these things happen. I would just let them know when the time comes that your happy for them then concentrate on your big day. There will be a 5 week time gap by which time everyone will know their engaged and be like "ok" and it will have blown over I think if they were announcing a wedding it would be slightly different but I doubt it is going to take the shine off your wedding x
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CommentAuthorclive
I can see both sides to be honest. Bear in mind that they are getting engaged, and not getting married - you are. By the time your wedding comes around, the dust will have settled anyway *deep breath!!* ;-)
CommentAuthorRennie1989
Like the others have said, they are only getting engaged, not getting married. Some people don't start properly planning their wedding until a while after they get engaged, I didn't properly plan mine until six months after because we needed to save money and get an idea of what we could afford. People will talk to them about their engagement and what they want for their wedding but the attention will mostly be on your wedding.
CommentAuthorLauraM9144
wow you must be making this wedding malarky look easy! my sister recently told me if its so blooming stressful getting everything right and costly then she thinks she might get married on the 4th of never!!! but i can see where your coming from but i think you may be over thinking it of course people will be excited for a minute but engagements happen all the time so people rarely get excited for more than a few weeks they wait til the date is set and its actually going to happen! i have been engaged for 4 years and although we had an engagement party nothing more was said about it really til planning happpened ! people may well say to the other lady look at this bit that will be you or thats a great idea you might want to use that but it really wont make any difference to you on the day as thats only complimenting the hard work you have put in . i really wouldnt worry to much your wedding day will still be totally focused on you!! oh and one extra bonus i bet she asks for your help with plannig as you will have done it all which mean no post wedding no planning blues!!!
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I don't think this will affect your wedding in any way hun! If anything, I feel sorry for your brother's girlfriend as they will be getting engaged so close to your wedding and everyone will be concentrating on your wedding and getting things sorted that your family will probably lose interest in their engagement very quickly! Stop worrying, it wont take anything away from you or your day xxx
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CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
I see why you would be upset but then again I don't see how it would take the shine off your day. It isn't like he is going to propose at your wedding. I personally would even congratulate them in your speeches, saying a big congrats to your bro and the next wedding everyone will be celebrating is theirs... kind of stop it from being a big deal by making it a big deal on your day... people will congratulate them then it will be done with lol
CommentAuthorAna40
I would be really happy if my brothers or sisters got engaged as it would mean they were happy. If it gets mentioned on my wedding day or not would not bother me. The wedding day is a chance for all the family to catch up so surely it will get mentioned. But to be honest the wedding day is mostly about my h2b and I making our vows to each other, not everyone only giving me attention. X
CommentAuthorVelcro
I don't really see the issue, even if people do discuss their engagement at your wedding, I doubt you will even know anyway. its 2 whole months off really, so its not like its round the corner to anyone but you really.
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
I had a similar situation! I finally got engaged then a week before our engagement party my sis announced she is pregnant! I was thrilled but suddenly all talk changed to her and the baby, and all I could help but think was 'you had your wedding and engagement hype but now u've stolen mine too!' but after a week or so the 2 celebrations and occasions split themselves, now people ask about both, and its all happy and no bad feelings, its just waiting for the initial WOW phase to die down so no1 feels neglected (i dread to think how my eldest sister felt with no wedding or new baby to give her the focus!) its silly, but human :) xxx
CommentAuthorAlexK
Why is he proposing in 3 weeks? Is it an anniversary or birthday that he wants to mark by using a specific date? If so it seems a bit harsh to expect him to wait. At least he's not planning to do it at the wedding!
CommentAuthorsarah
Nothing wrong with being annoyed, but don't tell them as that would be very bridezilla. TBH if I was in her shoes I'd be so pleased not to wait another day for an engagement, after 8 years I wouldn't see the point of waiting any longer.
CommentAuthorTanya83
My fiance proposed on holiday 2 weeks before I was to be MOH at my friend's wedding... My friend made no mention of it annoying her and I was careful on the day to not talk about mine... When we were getting ready, her mum said congratulations to me and asked to see my ring, which I showed her, then said thanks and changed the subject back to my friend. I had a couple of "Ooh, you next" comments, but just smiled and then the day carried on.
It was all about my friend, as it will be on your day. If anyone does say anything to them about their engagement, I expect it will just be conversation filler whilst photos etc are being taken or when something else is going on that they are not involved in, and certainly not while you're stood right there in your wedding dress!
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CommentAuthorMrsMoran
I am sorry, you're probably not gonna like my reply but I think it's very bridezilla-ish, so what if they're getting engaged two months before you're getting married? Yeah they'll be excited for them, but the excitement is likely to have calmed down by the time of your wedding anyway and everyone will be excited for you on your day. You can't expect people to hold off from proposing because you're getting married in a couple of months. xxx
