Me and h2b are on a budget, we are yet to buy our wedding rings and in all honesty im not too worried about the wedding ring, as I'll probably just have a plain wedding band...but im already unhappy with my engagement ring. When my h2b purchased it, I went to get fitted and my hands must of been warm because I ended up with a size k... but as times gone on... its just too big..and it always swivvels round to the palm of my hand and it irritates me like hell...basically I want a new one...one that fits me better...

H2b is moaning that he wont get me one until after the wedding, but I feel a bit rubbish about it, because its this period of time where people go ''ohhh lets see your engagement ring'' and im embarrassed to show mine... im not a materialistic girl and would never spend hundred and hundreds like some people on a ring...but its the fact its too big that im embarrassed about... It annoys me so much that I dont want to wear it, but I want people to be able to see im engaged...thats the whole point right..

I feel like i may have to compromise and say ill have a dead cheap wedding band if I can have a nicer engagement ring... just feel a bit :/ at the mo!

because it would probably cost the amount of the ring ive got in the first place.. lol it was only a cheap argoooose one..

Mine is the same and it is really ANNOYING. I'm waiting till after the wedding and getting it resized. Mine didn't cost millions but it's the fact that it's the ring he picked for me, I wouldn't want another x

It only costs about £20 to get a ring resized hun - I got a ring (no ER) caught on a door handle and it bent out of shape (as it was too big and did what yours did) and I took it to a jewellers and got it back the same day and it was good as new!7

You don't sound like a brat hun! It is something you have to wear all day every day for the rest of your life, you need to be happy with it!!
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its annoying that its too big, because it really is...and thats no excuse to try get my h2b to buy me a new one..but Its made me dislike it massively..its nothing special, and I dont mean that in a horrible way to my h2b because bless him we were having a rough patch with our money when he proposed to me..but I just want to be proud of it when people ask to see it.. the stone in it is so tiny aswel...it may aswell not be there lol xxx

Just like to add, its not really my h2bs area of expert knowledge 1) he doesnt care what ring I have, he couldnt care what it looks like aslong as I like it 2) he didnt choose the ring ive got now because he liked it...he chose it because the price was right lol...

My issue is..he told me it is a 'that will do ring' im struggling to see how people cant understand why im unhappy with that? I dont want him to spend hundreds...but to get it just because it was only £60 and no other reason..is pretty depressing...he didnt go out skipping along the streets thinking about what ring can he get his lovely gf, it was the first ring he looked at...lol He knows how I feel, more so because of how big it is however..and thats a reason why I hate this ring even more...the fact I hate looking at it from the palm of my hand rather than the way its supposed to be.. but yes ur right....the issue is, he doesnt care I want a new one..thats fine, its that he wont let me have one now..but im so unhappy with it..so thats why I dont appreciate being told ''ohhh dont hurt his feelings'' because hes already said I can have one..because he doesnt quite frankly care lol xx

And I agree, I would be a bit unchuffed if my h2b told me it was a 'that will do ring'...

If its something to where for the rest of my life as a symbol of our love and intention, I don't care about the cost but I would want him to put some thought into it!

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thats my point LauraJo...its not that he chose it and I just dont like it...its that he chose it JUST because it'll do... thats not a symbol of love lol...

I understand where you are coming from Hun as you say you feel that he didn't put any thought into it. If you can afford to why don't you look at upgrading - could you consider it as part of your Xmas present from him? In the meantime you can buy ring silicon from bay of e for a couple of quid. I found this to be the most effective temporary resized before I had my ring resized.

I understand what the other ladies are saying about it being the ring he put on your finger but he can put the next ring on your finger. You are going to wear it for a long time so you need to be happy with it xx

I think it's a matter of personal opinion to be honest, I can understand that people are attached to their engagement rings and see it as a statement of love from their h2b, but that clearly isn't the case here. I can see where you're coming from, if it was him doing his best to find you something nice then that would be a little different, I wouldn't have chosen my e-ring, but my h2b spent a lot of time in the jewellers finding something practical and pretty, even though it isn't the most beautiful ring in the world, the thought that went behind it means I could never change it and would never want to. But the fact that yours was always a stop gap means it's only a couple of steps up from proposing with a Haribo or a plastic ring from a funfair or something, it was always something temporary that was going to get replaced with something permanent. And as people have already said, it's something you have to wear for the rest of your life, if you don't like it you have to look at it everyday forever, that would really drive me nuts! And if the sentimentality of having "the" ring he proposed with did mean something, you'd still have it, even if you didn't wear it!

The issue here doesn't seem to be so much that you want a new e-ring, but that you want it now and h2b wants to wait til after the wedding. I'd try and make him see how important it is to you hun, you should be able to spend your engagement being happy when you look at your hand, not miserable! IMHO if you don't buy it before the wedding why bother buying one at all, you'll have a wedding ring by then, why get another ring to celebrate the period of time that has been ended by the receiving of your wedding ring? If he's worried about the budget can you do some rejiggling to eke the cost of it out elsewhere? Good luck hun! x

At first, I thought you were being unreasonable; now, having read your follow-ups, I don't think you are at all.

The cost of my ring didn't matter to me; in fact, I wanted something reasonable as we're saving for a deposit on a house, so while I might quite have liked a £5k ring in an ideal world, in reality, that would have set us back a couple of years saving. I wanted something easily affordable instead, so we could get married sooner lol.

But, I also wanted a ring I loved. And I LOVE my ring. I've been engaged for 21 months now, and I still catch myself staring at it in wonder (especially when it's all sparkly, like in the sun or certain light); I adore it. However, I am thinking about having it remade in platinum or palladium, with better quality diamonds; this doesn't mean I don't love my ring, but because it is white gold, it will need re-dipping every couple of years, and because the diamonds aren't the best quality, they might look greyer over time. It is precisely because I love my ring so much that I want it re-made, because I want to be sure it will last.

If I were in your shoes, I would be upset that the ring was always just a stop-gap, with no real thought put into it. Yeah, I don't have the best-quality ring; but I love the design and style, it is perfect; and, it was actually me who showed it to my OH, and he remembered and bought it, despite a few people telling him he shouldn't because it isn't a 'traditional' e-ring. I'd have been gutted if my OH had picked something purely based on price, and not put thought into the style; even £50 can get you a lovely ring that's meaningful.

I think that because it was bought purely for the price, and was bought as a stop-gap and not the 'official' e-ring, and because you don't love it, then it's not unreasonable to want another ring before the wedding; and I'd sit down with your OH and explain this to him.

This is why im getting a bit offended by other members telling me im being unreasonable..Im not bothered how much it cost, im not bothered that its not a huuuge rock on my finger..im bothered that he told me ''it will do'' thats not heart warming... he told me this, its not just me thinking this is what he did...he bloody told me!

For all the ladies that are saying ''ohh I love my ring because my h2b bought it'' yes thats lovely, but I assume your h2b whether its what you wanted and whether you 100% like or not, actually chose it with great thought..but I know my h2b didnt choose it with me in mind..he chose it JUST because of the price and I think some of you are missing that vital bit of info for why im unhappy..I couldnt care less If I have a ring for £50 or £200, its the fact my h2b just got it because it will do and told me that..so thats why I would appreciate it if some of you read my comments before telling me how ungrateful I am!

Im okay lilmisschuckles..I think some people have just got on their high horse because their h2bs have actually thought of them...few people are missing out the reasons why im not happy...if my h2b had of bought me the ring ive got and had said nothing about the fact he only got it because it was cheap etc... then I would probably feel the same as the other ladies who disagree with me..its just im a bit upset that he made it very clear hes not bothered and didnt put any thought into it..

You have to be careful how you word things on this forum sometimes, if you don't explain yourself well enough in the first post people will jump on it and tell you how unreasonable you are without reading any of your other posts and you end up feeling ganged up on (been there lol)

At first I thought it was a bit unreasonable too, it looked like you were saying you wanted a new ring because it didn't fit, but obviously there's more to it than that. I would explain to H2B you don't want anything expensive, you just want a ring you're happy with, I mean, he got you a ring to propose with, and that's great at least he bothered, but if the intention was to get you a nicer one later on then really you deserve that before the wedding, not after it.

and yes LegoBride..so I've found out! But even after id explained myself more..I was still getting told what a bratt I am....helps if people read first..

Sorry for jumping in so late on this hun, can totally see what your trying to say! its not the size or the price but the meaning behind it, and the fact he has said it to you and also admitted that it was a 'it''ll do' ring...it may have come across unreasonable if it was something you were just thinking yourself but the fact he's said it out loud no wonder your feeling the way you are! and totally understand how must be feeling about not wanting to show it off etc! I can also see that if he hadn't of said it you would more than likely be thinking otherwise too!

My ring swivels round all the time because unfortunately for my ring i lost a load of weight since he proposed so now its a good 1 size at least too big! and will be getting it resized - doesnt cost that much btw, also if you go and ask and find that its only half a size too big dont get it resized (as when warm you swell etc) you can buy plastic/metal things that sit in the base of the ring to support it and stop it from swivelling around. and im sure bay of e and rainforest, places like that will do them at a decent price... for the time being!

The fact you have found a decent priced ring that you love and that your OH has agreed is nice, and not a 'no' response to the idea of Xmas pressi - which btw i think is a fab idea - well done Lala!! I think is great.

Yes i'm one of those b2bs where OH picked my ring and i love it and wouldnt change it for the world, but it didnt cost the world and it was the sentiment/meaning and proposal behind it that means so much to me..what the proposal means for the future and what it represents!...it may not be as big as the other girls around me or anything like that, but im proud to wear it and wouldnt change it for the world and nor would he - sorry to be one of those!!

BUT if he had turned round and said like your OH oh stick that on, itll do type of thing then yes i'd feel exactly the same as you and the fact your OH is agreeing with you then i completely understand where your coming from...

Get hinting to your OH to look at this ring again and get on the telephone to Santa!! Good luck hun and chin up :D xx
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Thank you it will prob be my only good idea this year lol ..... Lala

It sounds like maybe because you're settled with h2b and have a child etc he's thinking a bit too practically and has lost the romance a bit :( Hopefully if you explain to him he will understand where you're coming from. It's such a shame he didn't put any effort into choosing a ring for you. If he just wanted to propose and didn't have any money he could have done it with a haribo ring and chosen one with you after you've saved a bit and it would still be romantic, lol. I get it's not about cost or anything. When I was pregnant I wore a £13 ring from that place which looked similar to me original one for months. It looked ridiculous but I wasn't ashamed to show it to people because it represented that first one h2b put so much effort into choosing for me.