So I'm staying at our venue the night before the wedding and when I booked a room for moh and me, I had a vision of a peaceful relaxing night before our wedding with my moh.

H2B's parents, sister and her hubby and baby (who live in Turkey and are flying over), brother and his gf, aunt and uncle (who are flying from Canada) and another uncle are all staying at the hotel the night before now!

It would feel wrong to me to spend the night before with them and frankly, as it's his sister's birthday the day before, I don't want to as she will be being a spoilt brat anyway!

I would really love to see my nephew tho (SIL2B and her hubby and baby live in Turkey so we last saw them at Christmas) but don't want to spend the night with them.

To me, it should be a night I spend with MY family.

I plan on going out for a meal with my moh and my grandad (who's also staying at the hotel).

Am I awful that I dont want to spend time with them? Especially as so many have made such a big effort to come to our wedding?

No you're not awful, I'd feel exactly the same. You'll see them all the next day, it's your last night with family before you're married and become part of another family too, I can understand wanting to keep that special.
I'm even worse! Some of Mum's family - probably about eight in all - may have to stay with my parents before and during the wedding and I've said I'd rather not have them there the night before the wedding. In my head it was just my parents and me and my two BMs! So am sort of pulling the spoiled brat thing....don't think it's working though, Mum said I'll just have to put up with it!

Where will your H2B be? Won't they want to spend the night with him?

I think you're right - it will be a special time for you and your family.

Xx

I would meet up with them very briefly to say hello just shows your grateful for them coming. I wouldnt feel obligated to spend all night with them though, Id stick to your plans : )

I would continue with your dinner plans, which sound perfect ans explain that although they are in your hotel you won't be able to spend the evening with them and blame tradition! Xx

No you're not awful. You'll need the time to relax and collect yourself. I've seen weddings where everyone gets together the night before and the level of stress and aggro is not worth it. I'd be honest and say you've already got something planned and any changes will just stress you out too much.

I'd personally ask if they could book a room somewhere else!!!! I'd feel strange if my OH's family were sleeping under same roof as me the night before my wedding! I think it's fairly inconsiderate of them tbh! X