Aggghhh another day, another problem. This one has me in tears.
The church say that the chairs at the wedding must be in a circle facing inwards - despite the fact I am getting married at the altar at one end of the room. They wont change it so its in rows looking forward.
Might be an over-reaction but I'm now crying. I want to walk down the aisle in my big dress etc, not through a middle of a circle. The guests will be facing each other and not us getting married! My family in the front row? Technically the front row extends in a circle so the front row includes the back of the room.
I'm so upset, I want to walk down the aisle, not though the middle of a circle - what the heck am I going to do cos at the moment all I can see is my dream of walking down the aisle ruined and on the day, me crying and not wanting to do it.
18-09-10
Now a married lady :)
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Have they given you any reason why you can't change the layout?
CommentAuthorPossum
What a weird layout! Why do they have it like that? x
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i'm with jo have they got a reason for it? aww hun big hugs lets see if we can sort it xx
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CommentAuthorMrsMac
Thats crazy sweetie... you arent over reacting.... when you have a lovely traditional church wedding you want all the bits as they should be. Any room at all for negotiation? Have they given you a reason?
because apparently thats the way it is. There is another wedding that day so they want change it especially for us. Its ok for sunday service cos they do it in the middle of the room, but the wedding wont be in the middle
18-09-10
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
If you are paying for their services then they should cater to your needs. That is crazy. No wonder you are upset.
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
I have left a message with the vicar crying. But the church administrator said theres nothing they will do and doesnt understand why Im upset. To which i responded "have YOU been dreaming of walking down the aisle since you were a little girl?"
18-09-10
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Just a thought could you get in touch with the other bride at all? Ask her about flowers etc and see if you can join together to save you both costs? You could also ask her if she likes the lay out and if you both want it changing they haven't got a leg to stand on.
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i'd be really unhappy and having them change it as jo said ur paying for it! xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
I have no idea who the other bride is and they wont give me her details
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Ask them to pass your details onto her. I can understand them not giving you someone else's details as it is data protection but that doesn't mean you can't have your details passed on. Tell them you want to share the cost of flowers and decs etc.
CommentAuthorMrsMac
Would they allow it if you got someone to do the work and put it back as it was afterwards so they didnt have to do anything? xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
nah, the church do the flowers for you, its all included - its not an "optional" package lol
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CommentAuthorGoff
This is a crap excuse. You need to DEMAND that the chairs are set out how you want them. Your paying for it - your way x
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
Mrs M - my mum suggested that but after the chruch is cleared out of the first wedding, its 15 mins before mine and my guests will be there and I dont want the guests re-arranging the chairs
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CommentAuthorMrsMac
You poor thing they sound very unco-operative dont have any other ideas sorry xxxxx
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
The vicar just phoned me. I cried my eyes out down the phone at him and he was pretty harsh to me actually. he said thats the way they worship there and they will not be changing it for me.
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
whoa thats harsh!!! i'm so sorry hun xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
What are the chances I can find another church in 8 days.......?
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CommentAuthorPossum
What's the point of having an altar if they don't use it? Do the chairs move? Tell all your guests that when they go in, they're to move their chairs to make an aisle :)
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
We will be at the altar, its just that the guests wont be facing it
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CommentAuthorPossum
That is so so ridiculous. What did he say when you asked what the guests are supposed to do to see? x
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
he said that guests prefer to look at each other. WTF?
I actually dont want to get married there now. Its ruining my day
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
it is madness! u would think they would the alter where the chairs are facing! x
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CommentAuthornickers
that is ridiculous hun what a bunch of s**s being like that surely its not that hard to turn them around for u thought vicars were suposed to be reasonable people xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
I dont know what to do. basically my options are to cancel the wedding or just deal with it. I'm going to be in tears outside the church on the day dreading walking in
18-09-10
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
whats ur h2b said? x
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
He said "does it matter, its just chairs"
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
oh ffs men! thought he might have a lil to throw in! get ur mum to call the vicar mums r gr8 and being pushy xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
The only thing you could do is ask another church in your parish boundaries. If it isn't withing the boundaries though they will not allow you to get married there. Another option is to find a church willing to do a blessing for you and see if you can get a registrar to marry you legally in the church. It can be done by all accounts. I'm just not sure if they will have any free to do it though. It would also cost you more as you would need to pay not only the church but the registrar as well. The only other thing is to continue with the church you already have. Remember though that you are not in the church for long and the rest of the day will not be affected by it. It does sound crap and the vicar doesn't sound too helpful either but its not him that you are marrying its your h2b. Just keep looking at him and the rest really won't matter by the time you see him.
CommentAuthorPossum
Agree with Jo - ask another church if they have a space. It is useless to have the guests all looking at each other whilst the wedding is happening outside the circle! What a load of rubbish :(
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
Can you get married in the centre of the circle instead of at the alter?
Got married 11/11/11.
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I was going to say, maybe a pretty table / alter in the middle of a circle could be lovely. Im sorry, i know your upset and i am also looking forward to walking down the aisle and would be upset if my plans were spoilt, but i cant help but wonder why you didnt know about this sooner. Did you not visit the church or speak about chair layout when you booked the church?
CommentAuthorsbride
Oh nic how awful. I cant believe how unreasonable they are being! How can it be such a problem? I think you should see if u can get another church in your parish if thats possible. Keeping my fingers firmly crossed you get it sorted x
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CommentAuthorMrs Buzzlightyear
Just reading this now! have you sorted it nic??
Cant wait for my Tiffany & co, wedding - July 16th 2011
CommentAuthorJane
Not very Christian spirited is it????? Go in and ask them if Jesus wanted to move the chairs would there be a problem?!
CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
OMG i can understand why your upset hun. What a nasty little man.
im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
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3 words hun : name and shame
phone the paper, radio etc to let them know how unkind and thoughtless bastards they are lol
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