hey all my bloke has walked out on me and 3 kids with the stupid reason of i dont love you and cant be bothered to have petty arguements anymore. im totally gutted i thought he was a bit bored of day to day life with kids and me being pretty much house bound since feb after my accident never thought hed be quite this cold because we had a great thing other then the one arguement we had a month up until our last fall out he was telling me how happy he is and he loved me all the time getting involved with wedding planning my head is so confused stupid man he seems annoyingly cool about it all other then he says its so tiring juggling work with seeing the kids and trying to have a life whilst sleeping on his dads front room floor. now ive got loads of wedding stuff to get rid of the stupid dress being in my wardrobe under my nose is not helping so if in any one wants anything from my photo album let me know im selling all of it as im left with £47 a week to live on until they sort my money out thank god my dads my landlord is all i can say. also huge thanks to marialouise for looking me up on facebook, she talks alot of sense lol xx
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorstarlighthunny
Oh chick, im sorry to hear this. Is it not something you can sort out? x
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CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
Hun hold off on selling you never know it may get sorted. Then you'll be in a postion with nothing if the wedding gets put back on track again! xx
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CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
to me yes so ive told him i think hes making a huge mistake to lose us and a family for a few silly arguements hes only seeing the bad things right now i think, and im going to let him have as much time and space as he needs until he realises he was a idiot he says hopefuly he will but right now hes not sure if he will its only been 100% over for a week now
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorstarlighthunny
I agree with Kempy, dont make an rash decisions hun x
Years from now, I'll want you years from now, and I'll hold
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I'd def hold off on selling your things hunny. Its still a year till the wedding date. Give it a few months before doing anything you may regret! xx
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CommentAuthorClairebear67
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So sorry to hear this Hun this is an awful thing for anyone to have to deal with, hope you dont have to cancel everything, maybe after a break he may look back on how he has been with regret and come back.
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
really?? you dont think him saying he doesnt love me says it all? i asked him how one week he can say i love you and i want to marry you and the next say he doesnt even love me and his answer was i thought i did because when its good its great. doesnt make any sense to me :-(
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorJill
So sorry to hear that hun, you're a lovely girl and he's an idiot x
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CommentAuthorstarlighthunny
It sounds like he is the one that is confused, men dont really know what they want sometimes , they go through stages.
If you think its not going to work then chick, im so sorry for you and the kids, but make sure that its defo over before you sell anything x
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CommentAuthorClairebear67
Men can say stupid things, they seem to open their mouths without engaging their brains. I dont see how he can go from being in love with you to not.
CommentAuthorAurora
aww no! is there no way things can be made better?
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CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
i think if he does realise what hes lost and come back the wedding will still be a long way from happening anyway so the dress should proberly still go as much as it sucks to get rid of it :-(
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorAurora
aww its sucha beautifull dress! Can you not keep it at your mums or somewhere just incase?
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CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
dont know how long you can keep a wedding dress? im thinking 5 years maybe before id ever need it lol xx
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorKaz
Sorry to hear this hun, but the girls are right make sure it's definately all off before you get rid of your stuff!
The dress isn't going to go off so that's not a worry until you're totally sure, ask for advice on wrapping it properly and it can be kept!
Give him a bit of space and then ask to meet up and have a talk about it, it's better to know one way or the other, rather than be in an odd limbo! Good luck hun, personally I think he's a right eejit if he gives up on your beautiful family! xx
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CommentAuthorEnny
Hun so sorry to hear it has come to this :(
guessing I'd do the same and would try to sell everything as quick as possible... and being honest i wouldnt actually keep the dress coz u would feel always reminded of it... especially if u really do find mr right... big hugs xxxxxxxxxx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Really sorry to hear this hunni :-( I hope you find happyiness soon where ever your path lies.
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CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
aww sorry to hear this, i hope it all gets sorted the way you want it to x
CommentAuthorAbbey
I'm sorry to hear about your situation! I hope you find the love that you deserve in the near future. xxx
CommentAuthorSimmo
Oh no! I'm really sorry to hear this :-( I agree with the others, put your wedding bits and pieces away in your attic or ask a friend to keep hold of them for a few months until things settle down.
Big hugs xx
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
I feel like a right idiot telling him I'll wait and hope while he goes out and meets other girls that he's going to change his mind but I feel so empty like there's a huge hole all I want is my family together I don't even care about getting married anymore. I can't get my head around him telling me he can't feel something for me anymore when the last few months we were so happy :-( x
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorGembo
Sorry to hear that hun - sending hugs your way xx
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CommentAuthorkatie1991
Aww bless ya hun so sorry to hear this xxx
CommentAuthorTinsel
So sorry to read this. You need to put yourself and your family first now x
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CommentAuthorkimmy
Fingers crossed for you hun, stay strong for you and the kids.xx
CommentAuthorMummy Geri
Thats soooo sad. What is it with guys? You open your hearts and let the wall down brick by brick and then they go and do something that makes you build it again! I agree with the others, dont sell your stuff, keep it. Saying that I would hold off the wedding for a couple years, instead of a year, if yous do get back together just so yous are certain. He's a guy, they all say hurtful stuff. My H2B was never going to get back with me and here we are, engaged TO BE MARRIED!!! Just wait and see what happens hun xx
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
My fiance said that to me once! I was blissfully unaware anything was wrong and was so happy in our relationship, then about 3 years in he said he didnt think we had a future etc! i was so shocked and devastated! I didnt really know what to do, but i understand the feeling of getting rid of everything and carrying on cos u have to with kids, i have 4, 3 then. Anyway after a couple of days at his mums house he came round for a chat and said sorry and that he was so stressed with work/money etc that he couldnt think straight. Life just gets on top of us sometimes and men tend to bottle it up more and then explode with it so i hope this is what ur man is thinking and getting a clear head so u 2 can have a chat about things 2, whatever happens i hope u get it all sorted and ur happy. If it isnt 2 be then there will be someone round the corner waiting, there always is. as for ur wedding bits i would keep hold of it somewhere for now x
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CommentAuthorJacs
Sending big hugs to you and hope it all works out for you both, hopefully he just needs a little time to sort himself out. Hang on to everything xxx
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
ive changed my mind hes being bl00dy horrible today all because i booked my mum to babysit halloween weekend so i can go have a night out hes threatend to drag me to court if i dont ask him things regarding HIS son. i just dont get it its like im nothing to him x
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorKaya
Ooooh hunni. Big hugs xxx
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CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Sorry to hear, hope all improves for you soon...
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
He sounds like he is behaving like a right a**e. It sounds as if he has dumped on you and now cant stand the idea that you might go out and have some fun. Ignore his petty threats. I have been there and it is maleness being pathetic and controlling. Even if he TRIED to take you to court (which i doubt as assuming he works he would have to pay fees) a solicitor AND judge would laugh it out (a solicitor would advise against it but ultimately do what they are paid to do... a judge wouldnt even look at the case) You are entitalled to trust your mother with the care of your child, the only thing that a court would really get involved in would be going abroad etc... So long as you are not stopping him have contact etc then he hasnt a leg to stand on, you could always offer for him to have the contact and care for his child while you go out, bet he would change his tune about your mum then!
Sending you big hugs xxxx
CommentAuthormaryannt
awww hun sorry to hear this!! his loss hun and by the sounds of it you are better off with out him he has a cheeky to say he will go to court when he was the one who walked out on his family you are wanting ONE night out. dont let him saying this stop you if hes that bothered tell him to babysit!!!!!! keep strong hun for you and your kids and I no you might not think it now but I truely believe everything happens for a reason send big hugs xxx
CommentAuthormadison_uk
tell him to take a run and jump if he cared that much he wouldnt walk out on you and 3 kids go and let your hair down and have fun, im sure your mums looked after them before so he no grounds to be a p***k. i would get hold off the csa and see if they can get some money for you, that and tax credits sooner you start the sooner you will get some help. call his bluff tell him to take you to court he wont hes all mouth i would see someone to sort out visitation rights if hes going to be nasty you wont want him near you. best of luck and you will meet some one who will treat you right x
CommentAuthorjanetx71
he can not take you to court for allowing your mother to babysit as long as she is a responsible person eg not drink or drug problem no other serious issues i would get the phone book out go to a solicitor who deals in family law and just get some advice if you want they can send a letter to your ex outlining contact arrangements might be enough for him to realise you wont be bullied by him if he is no longer in your life he no longer has a say in what you do regarding going out as long as you make sensible arrangements for the children and no you do not need to check every thing with him only the things relating to travel get some advice hun xxx
