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Wedding Stationery > Invites: AHHHH where does it stop!!!

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- CommentAuthorNevlar
oh dear god!!!! where does it end!!
i have such a big family on both my parents side!! atm the guest list is up to 130 in the day!!!! and an extra 60 on the night!!thats without most of my cousins..... if i invite cousins and some of the older ones are married etc its going to add 20ish on... if i invite one ill be excpeted to invite the rest!!! i drew the lines and uncles and aunties and even some of them i could of done without ( were not exactly close) parents insisted i invite them!
where has everyone else stopped!! x
- CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
We had close family and friends and our cousins and their children all came in the evening, along with friends that we wanted to share our day but perhaps arent as close to. We had 50 to the daytime and 100 to the night time

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- CommentAuthorNevlar
thats what i wanted a nice small wedding and now its turning in to this circus full of people i either dont know or arent over ly fond of! theres only about 7 of my close friends coming in the day that arent related to me!
- CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
My family is huge!
It got to the point where our day list was reaching 200 guests :-(

We decided in the end because of budget this just wasn't gonna be possiable no matter what we did so we decided we would find a venue first and then work with their min numbers!

We found it and now we have 60-70 guests with 30-40 extra guests in the evening. Basically if we havent seen or spoke to them in the last 6 months to a year your not coming. We also did aunts and uncles to the day and then cousins to the evening so far so good :-)

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- CommentAuthorNevlar
i have family coming whom ive never met! and some of my aunties whom ive not seen in 10 years! i cant really moan and momma and pops are footing the bill for this!! but how do i say that i dont want them there .. feel so guilty and rude

- CommentAuthorRachaelC80
I have a big family too!!!
But, am only inviting Aunts and Uncles to the evening and no cousins??
I don't really see them that often and we decided to have our friends who we see on a regular basis there.
Why spend your day(and money) on people you either don't see or don't really like??
:-)
- CommentAuthorVelcro
toms got a big family, and its non-negotiable apparently, they are all coming. Its him doing all the overtim for it though lol!

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- CommentAuthorJennyHeather
Both our parents have split so 3 out of 4 of them have remarried etc, so it gets silly with inviting people. Since the one side of my family I have cousins that have got married and have children and have auntie and uncles have a few kids I've stopped at the auntie and uncles for the main event and then my cousins and there family can come to the evening do, otherwise paying out for the meals in the day will just be too expensive, plus I don't see my one lot of cousins that much.
- CommentAuthorElinor Claire
We've got 120 at the day and an extra 60 at the evening. I basically have my immediate family, grandparents, and my mum's sister and husband. I don't really know my aunts, uncles and cousins on dad's side of the family, so they aren't invited. My OH has drawn the line with aunts, uncles and cousins invited. We've then included close friends that we feel strongly about. We just accepted from the start that it would be big. I only have a small number of evening do guests, but OH had to cut his list dramatically.

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- CommentAuthormym72
I'm an only child - but my extended family (aunties, cousins etc) are all around the country - so if I'd have invited all of them it would've been a very big wedding.

Instead, we only invited very close family (parents, husband's brother, gran and close cousin (his gf was my bm), and I had my parents, one close aunty and three close cousins with spouses.

We had a party once we were home (got married away from home) and back from our honeymoon, and invited everyone else (extended family, friends and colleagues).
- CommentAuthorGillianE
we have a really big family, however there are only about 40 of us who are very close. So it is only these close family members who are coming to our wedding. lol otherwise if we invited the rest of the family (who we don't really know) we would be looking at around 200.

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- CommentAuthorsarah
Wow! All I can say is at least you're not paying.
- CommentAuthor*KelBel*
We went with close family we've seen in the last six months then with friends (same rule) then we set an amount of 75 for day and 100 for night so with whatever space we had left we invited friends/family we've seen up to the cut off point x

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- CommentAuthor*KelBel*
This is only because my mum has 3bros and 3sisters, then parters(another6) from those I have about 40 cousins in turn which have between them have 19 kids, then my dad has 2bros (plus 2partners) and that's another 6cousins so 72 just there without my h2bs family...it's just be ridiculous if we hadn't cut it down x

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- CommentAuthorLauraJo87
We were in the same position.

My dad was saying 'why don't you invite so and so?' and I was like, 'erm, who?'

Fortunately because we are paying, it's been a lot easier saying no.

Some families see weddings as an ideal chance for a reunion...

We are having fifty day guests then double that on the night. Our venue is quite small though, which we're glad about and was one of the reasons we picked it xx

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- CommentAuthorNevlar
its just crazy! theres invited been sent to Australia..and you can imagine how often i see those family members!! i dont want to look back on my day and regret not having people there that i want!! sounds bratty i know but i should at least get some say in it! my mom wanted to cut the friends i have coming to make room for more family xx
- CommentAuthorJEm1905
We went with the rule if you havent bothered with us im not bothering with you. My mother didnt attend for this reason. We has a big fall out and she refused to come, she since told me she will never accept me.

This time we will be again following the rules of if you don't bother with us we are not bothering with you. I have just found some sisters and a brother and now have extra 20 nieces & nephew so i want to make space for them and cut out the drig drag that expect to attend :)

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- CommentAuthorb2bnicola
I have a big family too hun but my h2b has a small one. I dont overly get a long with maj of my family or see them at all (bar weddings and funerals) and ive had to sit my mum down and say "this is who im inviting to the wedding out of the family and THATS IT!"
If she had her way our whole guest list would be my family!
We've got 50 day and 100 evening. None of my extended family r coming to the day and only 12 are coming to the night time rather than 58!!!!
Just gotta be tough sometimes! xx

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- CommentAuthorKarenP75
For the same reason you are having problems we decided just to have parents, siblings & partners and their kids during the day. Everyone else is coming at night, even the pushy aunty who has to be part of it all!!

We sat for ages trying to work out the day guest list and eventually thought stuff it, it's our day & we can have who we want for the meal. It is now cut down by 40 in the day and that was not even all the cousins!!

It is so frustrating, x
- CommentAuthorJodyx
Wow you have a big family, we have 70 on day and 180 for night xx

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- CommentAuthornatalie2614
We have a huge family on both sides too. For the day we are limited by the registry office to 50 seats, I have 47 at the moment and will probably ask his aunties if they want to come to the day. For the night time i have 260 but i dont think we will get all of them turning up, plus we're in the same situation, invite one cousin you have to invite the other. Ive got two female cousins around my age that I speak to regularly and know their partners. Got a text saturday night asking if my Mums cousins daughters can bring their boyfriends - Ive never even met the daughters!! I felt obliged to say yes because they'll find out that the other cousins partners are coming. Arghhh. Feel your pain love xx

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- CommentAuthorBecky1608
It is really difficult but at the end of the day you need to invite the people that you and your H2B want to be there. Unfortunately it's not possible to please everyone.

I agree with everyone else about setting a limit and then working with the numbers you can afford. You can always put others on the evening or reserve list.

Who knew planning a wedding would cause so many rifts/confrontations?! Try not to get too stressed hun xxx

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