my partner went on his stag do at the weekend, got drunk and booked a weekend in new york with his mates the weekend before our wedding. he has explained this to me in that they want a last weekend of freedom, but im just a bit upset as a) we cant really afford this and b) what if an ash cloud or something happens again and he cant get back for the wedding? am i over reacting?
CommentAuthorKimi
I find it a bit odd that he's booked trip to NY the weekend before.
I'd be annoyed if my H2B did it especially with lack of money as it is.
You need to talk to him about this choice and how it came about?
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CommentAuthorshellie
he's always really spontaneous like this (its why i fell in love with him in the first place he booked a similar trip for me and him a week after meeting). i asked him why he did it and he said he was just drunk with the lads and they all thought it's a good idea and thats why god created credit cards!
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
sorry but wtf i would give him a right good slap
he's already had his stag night and had his fun ...why the need to spend money you don't have on ANOTHER stag night which is basically is really is it??
I would explain to him that you are not happy with him doing this without speaking to you first and if there's any chance he can unbook his place!! seriously thats acting like he's a single guy again
very unlikely for the ash cloud to come back but there could alwyas be a problem arising! x
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CommentAuthorsteffi
I would be raging... Hes had his stag do! No you are not over reacting! Speak tohim n tell him hes bein unfair... Moneys tight in the build up to a wedding, without him having 2 stag do's! I personally think hes bein really selfish!
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CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
i think it is a very selfish act and would tell him how i was feeling. He had his stag do and i hate it when men say they want one last this/that before they get married. Like getting married means they wont have a life or fun after. Im well annoyed for you hun. Mine so wouldnt be brave enough to do something like that. cos i would kick his arse the whole way there he wouldnt need a plane ticket
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CommentAuthorshellie
ok girls youve made me see this in a different light, im going to go and speak to him. i do like how spontaneous he can be but guess i was a bit hurt to be honest that soon before the wedding. im going to go and chat to him wish me luck!!
CommentAuthorKaya
Good luck!!
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CommentAuthorshellie
Just went to speak to him we had a massive row and in the end he threw the confirmation email to me and said i had spoilt it and stormed out of the house. when i looked at it it is actually a weekend for me and him i cant believe it! ive tried calling him but his phone is off!! i feel awful now had no idea it was a suprise.
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
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certainly no way to do that too you..and if it was a surprise a. why tell u about it in first place and b. why make on like its another stag do to upset you and get you annoyed.
he's acting way outta line im afraid and even the fact its a weekend away for you before the wedding, he could have dealt with it beter than he has done x
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CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
Just told my h2b and he said wow can i do that. Arguement(sp) I would be going mad if that was me. One it must have cost a lot. If he wants to go ny why dont you go on honey moon there
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CommentAuthorshellie
do u not think its nice how hes organised it though? i dont know what to do now!!
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
I think you both need time to calm down and then talk ...to me he tried to wind you up by saying he was going away with friends so he can hardly blame you for feeling hurt. If it was a surprise then it would have been easier him not saying anything than trying to get a reaction out of you. Its difficult hun...I think somewhere along the lines his plan went pear shaped but that in no way is your fault! Just by reading all the replies to your post you know most women (if not all) would have reacted exactly the same! xxx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I can understand him wanting a last weekend with his friends. That is fair enough but its not on if he is spending money you can't afford. If his mates were paying for it then fair enough. I wouldn't worry so much about ash cloud as if you go down the lines of what if they you would worry about everything! Talk to him and explain your worries and see what he says.
CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
i think it is nice but he went round it the wrong way lol typical man.
lol tell him your sorry but explane why you reacted they way you did. He should neve of said anything to you about it expesh telling you it was a second stag. how did he expect you to react ? im sure once you have both calmed down and talked it will be ok xxx
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CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
its a nice thing do but he shouldnt of made out that it was another stag, hope he calms down soon xxx
CommentAuthorKerrylou
uh-oh!!
Yes, if it was going to be a surprise then he shouldn't have said anything about NY at all, but men aren't wired like us and chances are he was so excited he let slip about booking, thought "oh holy fook" then said the first thing that came into his head which in this instance was a 2nd stag night (I can't fathom these strange men creatures lol)
You need to let him calm down, if you had an argument then he's going to be really upset and now he might just think you don't trust him because of the 'one last throw at freedom' and he knows you took that the wrong way. Explain to him that you made a mistake and apologise for the confrontation and I bet you he'll apologise for letting you get so upset over it.
It'll be alright xxx
for what it's worth I love that he wanted to do that for you, you're a lucky lady!!
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CommentAuthorEmsy5000
you need to let him cool off and then talk to him.
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CommentAuthorGriff
Beat him with a stick then get him to sit down nd think practically about it ask him why go away the weekend before your wedding when you will be at your most stretched for time anyway? I'm not sur he thought it through but once you guys have had a talk i'm sure it'll be sorted hun xx
CommentAuthortwirler
looking at it after the event he definitely went about it the wrong way but that's men for you lol all you can say is you were upset that he made out it was a second stag and could he try to see it from your point of view in my opinion surely he would of had some sort of doubt in his head that saying a second stag do would be the perfectly acceptable excuse to hide such a lovely gift but again men don't think do they lol xx
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CommentAuthorKerrylou
Did you get to speak to him again? How are things between you today? xxx
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CommentAuthorLisaB
I think it was nice that he organised it, but he should not have told you that it was another 'last weekend of freedom' instead she should have thought of something else.
If my H2B said that, I would be on the phone to my BM's and say, right girls we're going to Spain or somewhere for the weekend, H2B's paying...let's go! He should not have used the 'second stag do' as that has come across as being selfish.
You need to sit down with him, calmly, and say that you didn't realise and you were angry as you thought he was having 2 stag do's. As him how he would have felt it you told him you were having another hen do, and did it to cover up a surprise for him.
I do feel a little bit for you both. He tried to do something romantic and the only thing he could think of was to say it was another stag do, and you were just trying to save some cash! You poor things...you will look back and laugh at this you know.
