Been engaged for a few years now and still not any closer to planning the big day. Got a problem with my family as they don't approve of my hubby to be. How can I get around this? Also we are only just managing to live off the income we are on, so how do you save up for soo much? Any idea how much is the minimum that you can get a venue for and cover all costs such as church and fees?? Please help as cant set a date until I know roughly how long it's going to be before I can raise the cash!!
CommentAuthorShowgirl
Your best bet is to start enquiring with venues and seeing what their fees are - some may even be willing to freeze this years prices for you.
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
our church is £400 plus another £34 at our parish church is we need banns reading there too.... BUT each church is different, they have a minimum price on the CofE website but some people are paying up to and over £700 x
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
a wedding can be done of a shoe string, with wedding in a registry office, and the doo at local hall, and DIY decorations etc. But it depends on what kind of wedding you want and how much your willing to do yourself!
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CommentAuthorMarrying.Ryan
My friend did it for 700 £ for register office and room after. You can make it as cheap as you like. Setting a date for next year or the year after can help, as it willl give you longer to save up. Sorry your family doesn't approve with your H2B. It's tough trying to plan a wedding around your family. I would just plan it for you and H2B. Hopefully your family will get over their issues and will be part of your wedding for you.
Sorry to hear that your H2B and family don't see eye to eye, that's a shame. Marrying.Ryan has given some good advice there and plan it for you two in the hopes that they will be a part of it. I would also say it might be a good idea to try and keep them in the loop with all of your Wedding plans, and explain to them that it really would mean a lot if they could put their feeling aside and support you on your big day.
Many Wedding venues typically have long waiting lists. I would suggest contacting the venues you would like for their prices and waiting list, from there you will be able to work out if they are viable and how long you would need to save up the money.
Like Lana2BMrsHands said, it does depend on what kind of Wedding you would want. On a super low budget I would do what my friends did and have a very intimate registry office Wedding with a back garden marquee reception. It looked fantastic, and instead of a Wedding lunch to feed all of the guests they put on a lovely buffet. Each guest was asked not to donate money or gifts to the couple and instead to bring one dish for the party. There was no DJ, they had prepared a playlist of songs from guests suggestions.
Keep us posted!
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
We've been quite lucky with our saving! My dad has bought my dress and h2bs parents have given us a donation of £3k towards it. It also helps that h2b still lives with his parents, we just agreed that as I have children from a previous relationship, that we would move in together once we were married so, because he still lives with his parents and his parents don't take any lodge/rent of any kind that he's able to save much more than me! Otherwise we'd be in the same boat as you and would have to save steadily over a longer period of time x
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
You might be able to have your reception in the hall of the church that you marry in, or even in the church itself. The church that we're marrying in has moveable pews, and two couples who have had small weddings have had the back of the church set up with tables for the reception. You could then do the whole day in one place for a few hundred. Is there any money from H2B's side? You could do the meal as a bring and share in lieu of gifts, to avoid catering costs. Then do as much as possible DIY. You can get dresses cheap from charity shops or on the bay.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Different church denominations will have different charges. We got married in a Catholic Church which was cheaper than C of E.
For venues, many will do lastminute special packages if you're prepared to get married within approx 6 months of booking. Also mid week off season packages are cheaper as well as many suppliers will charge less or be more willing to negotiate on price.
Forget about the nice little extras that cost so much like favours and chair covers.
Go for sample/sale dresses or high street.
Keep it small too. Less guests means cheaper wedding as less people to feed and water.
If you get married and have your reception under the same roof at the same venue you don't need to pay for transport either, especially if you stay there the night before.
I know a couple who spent approx £500 for their whole wedding because they had a registry office on a Thursday, he wore a suit he already owned, she had a non traditional green dress from the high street, no big bridal party, literally just a best man, a handful of people at the registry office ceremony then about 40 people for the reception in the evening. They hired a room at their local golf club but this wasn't one of those fancy ones, more like a local community centre, they paid for a finger buffet and 1 tier cake from the supermarket. They then put a little of money behind the bar.
So in answer to your question, you need to decide how much you want or can spend, when you want to get married and what type of wedding you want. Be realistic. Your wedding can be as much as you want it to be.
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CommentAuthorclairenina
Save up, grab yourself a deal maybe. Weekday weddings are so much cheaper than weekends. There are often offers on apps like gr0up0n and w0wch3r. Also invite people who can contribute to a happy day. Be firm with people.
