So my OH & I were planning on booking a venue in the next couple of weeks for October / November 2013! We have been together almost 10 years and engaged for over 2 already!
Now I am really excited as today my sister told me she is finally pregnant, after a year of trying! My dilemma is that she will be due in September 2013! Meaning she will have a one month old ish baby! She says this is fine and that she wants me to go ahead and book for the same time, but I am not sure if I should put it off for a bit?
What do you ladies think??? I knew this was going to happen, and I am absolutely over the moon for her and looking forward to being an auntie so much, but not sure what to do now???
Thanks Laura
CommentAuthorAmyP7
I personally don't think it will be a problem, I went to a wedding recently where there was a two week old baby of one of the bridesmaids. But it's up to you x x
CommentAuthorbarbie86
I think it comes down to whether you mind having a new-born at the wedding. If you don't, then I see no reason to post-pone. If you do, for whatever reason (we're having a strict no-children policy with no exceptions for various reasons) then yes, it might be an idea to post-pone, as obviously she won't be able to leave such a small baby.
CommentAuthorTatty
I wouldn't think it would be a problem, if she has said it'll be fine then I would go ahead. xx
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CommentAuthorDefinatelyDead
Its truely up to you. babies that age sleep a lot. If shes a late september I'd suggest a november wedding as she may be late. I was uninvited to my brothers wedding when I had my 1st because of the fact I'd have a 1 month old. If she says its fine and you're ok with it go ahead with the dates. She might enjoy sorting out the arrangements with you for your wedding and you can help her with arrangements for the baby so you can both feel happy and connected to each other if you get what I mean x
its up 2 u ,if shes said to stick to the date id stick 2 it ,n like other post said a baby that young should just sleep, n congrats : )
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CommentAuthorShazk
I agree with the other ladies its up to u but I don't see reason to props one ur sister has said it's fine and unless you are unsure about small baby there I don't see no problem xxx
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CommentAuthorLauraB437
I don't have a problem with it at all, it will be the first little one in our family so just wanted advice! I am soooo excited for us both, this year is going to the best yet! Thanks for all your advice girlies, good to hear that you agree it isn't really an issue! X
CommentAuthorShazk
Oh I'm glad u don't see a problem with it and yes this is going to be a good year for u both xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
Hun book you venue it will not be a problem your sister does not want you to postpone it and your sister wants to be there on your big day with your niece or nephew I think you are going to have a wonderful year become your H2B wife become a Auntie Lucky you =D ♥ X
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I just wanted to say how lovely it is to see a bride to be not complaining that someting has happened and you will have a newborn at the wedding but being happy for the person and looking forward to it! If neither her or you has a problem with it then I see no need for you to postpone xxx
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
I'm sure if your sister thinks it'll be fine then it'll be fine. Perhaps if you were going for either Oct or Nov, go for Nov, just to give her that bit more time to get over the shock of the birth and to feel a bit more confident at a big event with the baby. x
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CommentAuthormillz090
I'm not sure the issue? How does her having a baby affect your wedding plans? She would want you to go ahead and book your wedding and not cancel it for her or the baby. Xxx
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CommentAuthorLauraB437
Thanks linzi-Jo, I couldn't be happier for her and can't wait for my gorgeous niece or nephew to be here with us! Sooooo excited to be an auntie, and looking forward to all the fun we can have this year planning for the wedding and the new arrival! Xx
CommentAuthorLauraB437
I don't think there is a problem, I just wanted people's feedback as wanted other people's insight as although she said not to change it, just wasn't sure if she was just saying that so as not to upset me! I have no other nieces/nephews or young babies in the family, so just don't have any experience of this or whether she is going to feel up to such a big event so soon, especially as she is my MOH too! I would be willing to do anything for my beautiful sis, and just wanted to make sure I am not asking too much of her too soon? If that makes any sense at all xx
CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
that makes sense LauraB437 you just want to sure that your sister will be up to going to such a big event after just having her 1st child Its makes sense and I think your just being careful and You said you will do anything for your sis =D ♥ X
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CommentAuthormillz090
N I don't think you are asking too much honey as be about 4 weeks old, however every women deals with child birth and a baby differently so if she had a c-section or sore she may just need to sit down or take things slowly. If she is comfortable wit you going ahead then go for it. Xxx
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CommentAuthorLauraB437
MrsDeaton2Be & millz090 - thanks for your comments and advice! I am happy that everyone concurs that it isn't an issue, and will give everyone an opportunity to meet the new arrival too!
So happy for us both! Next thing will be to get the H2B over his strange fear of little baby fingers and toes in time for the new arrival! Lol xx
CommentAuthorDefinatelyDead
I'm glad you're actually looking forward to having a niece or nephew. Some brides don't like children especially newborns at weddings. They cry, they talk and sometimes take away focus. I'd never go to a wedding without my kids even though my 3 year old talks a lot even through church on Sundays.
It's nice to see a bride actually take the time to think about it.
CommentAuthormillz090
That's an odd fear however once he holds that baby he will forget. I become an auntie for 2nd time in November and adore them both, love being an Auntie as can go back scream lol xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
Its OK LauraB437 Of course it is not a problem For once a bride as Millz090 said is not stating it as a problem your but your happy for your sister and happy to be an auntie so everything is AOK =D ♥ X
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
coming from a big family myself i can't see a problem he or she will still be very young so all they do mostly is sleep or feed at that age so shouldn't fuss to much during the cermony . if it was me i would make a room or a quite place avaliable to her and the baby so they can get any peace or rest they need even newborns need lost of stuff so will also be handy to have it all inside close by and not need to run out to the car to often x
CommentAuthorLauraB437
Thanks girlies! I don't see how anyone could see it as a problem, it is a blessing and I don't mind sharing the attention at all, in fact it means not the whole day will be focused on us which will actually be nice as neither of us were looking forward to that much!
Millz090 - tell me about it, whenever we discuss babies it is all he talks about and he insists they will wear mittens & socks at all times! Lol xx
DefinatelyDead - thanks for your comment, I really don't see the whole wedding thing as just our day, but a day for everyone to celebrate and this gives us all another thing to celebrate and be thankful for!
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CommentAuthorLauraB437
Krissy905 - thanks for that advice, will definitely talk to the venue about that and make sure they have a space available! That is really helpful as probably wouldn't have thought of that! X
CommentAuthormillz090
Nice idea on a quiet area, she may also want to sit near the door so if baby does start crying or she is feeding and wants some privacy then can sneak out. However Florence my niece was 2 weeks old on Christmas Eve and at the crib service at church and needed feeding and my sister in law just fed her in church and no one noticed lol xxxx
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CommentAuthorDefinatelyDead
Churches are lovely and some don't usually mind children at all. As long as its not a fire hazard I'm sure they'd allow your sister whatever she needed in the church. When my 13 week old starts crying at church no-one bats an eyelid not even when I walk out to calm her.
If your sister is MOH has she a partner to look after lil on when shes doing her MOH duties? So she doesn't miss any of it if the baby does start crying x
CommentAuthorMrsA-J
I dont see there being a problem hun! One of my best friends babys is dues 1 week before my wedding but shes coming! Hopefully she wont go over her due date! x
CommentAuthorBev
Go ahead and book it Hun! Good luck with the planning :) x
