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    • GeorginaD78
      CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
     
    Sorry if this isnt in the right category.

    My son's biological father isn't on the birth certificate and doesn't see my son (his own choice I did everything I could to get him involved) my husband to be and I want my h2b to adopt my son after our wedding. Would we need the biological fathers consent? Does any body know the procedure?

    Also would we need the biological fathers consent to change my sons name by deed poll?

    Thank you in advance xx
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    I'm not sure how it works exactly but if he has no contact it should be easier.

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    • DanielleS0709
      CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    I'm not sure but I don't see what you would if his name isn't on birth certificate

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    • GeorginaD78
      CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
     
    I think I'll have to talk a solicitor closer to our wedding day, I just wondered if anyone else whent throught this and what the process is. I am worried my h2b wont be able to adopt my son because the biological father may say no as a power trip kind of thing (if we need his consent) xx
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    I found the following

    5. Adopting a stepchild
    You need to tell your local council if you want to adopt your spouse’s or partner’s child. You must do this at least 3 months before applying to a court for an adoption order.

    The child must also have lived with both of you for at least 6 months.

    The adoption assessment
    The process to adopt is similar to an assessment through an adoption agency.

    The assessment is used to help a court decide if you can adopt the child (rather than being sent to an independent adoption panel).

    The court will ask your local council to provide a report on:

    your partner
    the child
    the other birth parent
    The report will be prepared by a social worker and will be used to help the court make a decision.

    If granted, the adoption court order gives you parental responsibility for the child - along with your spouse or partner.

    The order also takes away parental responsibility from:

    the child’s other birth parent
    anyone else who has parental responsibility for the child
    An adoption order cancels any other type of court order, eg how, and when, the child’s birth parent can visit the child.

    If they make a report on the other birth parent and they have no part of their lives or on the BC, I'd imagine it would be pretty straightforward,

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    And this elsewhere

    If an unmarried father is not present and does not sign the register, his details will not be included on the birth certificate and he will not gain Parental Responsibility for his child, unless:

    He makes a statutory declaration acknowledging that he is the father, which the mother must give to the registrar, or
    A parental responsibility agreement or court order has been made and this document is presented at the register office.

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    • GeorginaD78
      CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
     
    I see that first message when I looked it up on the internet.
    It is acknowledged through the courts the name of his biological father as I was advised by a solicitor to get a prohibited steps order out on him to protect my son. So I don't know where I stand. I just want to know if I need the biological fathers consent as if I do there is no point in wasting money on solicitor fees as I know even though he doesnt want anything to do with my son he will not give consent. Life is such a pain in the bum xxx
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    • michgib
      CommentAuthormichgib
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      Posted: Jun 10th 2015
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    Thats lovely I hope you manage with no complications
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 10th 2015
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    Actually thinking about it, when I had my second child, my ex was not with me, we were not married, he has signed nothing at all ever, so reading that, he's never had parental responsibility for him. He's now 20!

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Jun 10th 2015
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    Contact a family solicitor that is part of the free 30 mins ( could be longer ) consultation scheme .... They would be able to give you the answer while not costing you anything

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    • GeorginaD78
      CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
      Posted: Jun 10th 2015
     
    Ooh I didnt know you could do that now, I thought you had to pay for everything. I shall do that closer to the wedding day as still have 2 years so not going to ask a solicitor too early incase things change.

    Its fantastic my other half wants to adopt my son. He is the only one who has ever been any sort of daddy to my little man. Its about time my little boy had a 'proper' family

    Glitterfairy thats so sad. I honestly don't know how a parent can turn their back on their child. It disgusts me. At least your son has you as mum :)

    Thank you all for your help. It is appreciated xxx
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 10th 2015
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    Good luck in getting the adoption and name change x

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 10th 2015
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    I remember hearing something about this a while ago and I am sure that they will try for his consent but if he doesn't respond within a certain period then they find no reason against and it gets granted. I could be wrong though.

    I agree with Lala. Get some free legal advice.

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