I recently started dreading planning the wedding, its such a daunting task and I have no idea where to begin or what to do, i'm the only girl in the family so have never been around any kind of wedding planning and I'm just lost in a sea of things to do and stuff to buy with a limited amount of money, my H2B has a plan that really expensive and isn't realistic which I don't think helps, I have my dress thanks to my mum but that's it I know ive got loads of time to sort it out but I've been looking though peoples posts and they seem to have the same time frame as me and have got loads done..........am I just panicking for no reason? ive put the date on here because it made me but I don't have a clue what date the wedding going to be but I want it to be in 12 months.....please someone give me some advice!
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Hey! Don't panic... First thing I'd do is choose a date, a lot of venues may be booked up now but if you're willing to get married weekday then it will be cheaper Book church if u want a church affair if not book the registrar and give notice They are the two biggies... Everything else is optional
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CommentAuthorBeckyU98
stop panicking! go and look around some churches and/or venues and pick a date. nothing to worry about. I started planning our wedding in January at 22 years old. you'll be surprised at how easy it is and how quickly things fall into place. ill find the checklist thread for you and bump it up the list - its got a great list of things to do on there x
CommentAuthorKatieM93
my step dad is a minister so hes going to marry us at his church so don't have to worry about that, its just everything else is getting on top of me, my H2B works night so hes never around really so its up to me and I just have no idea where to start, its getting the money as well, think I've just started stressing out about getting it all done in time because a year is hardly any time at all I only got engaged 2 weeks ago but its been not stop talking about it because of the excitement but think its now just sunk in that its happening. thanks ladies, if theres any other advice u see just post it on my wall or on here coz im just stressing out a lil, doesn't help that 1 of my bridesmaids and my matron of honour don't live in the country :/
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
Dont worry hun have a read through the brides checklist and some of our planning threads and they will all give you an idea. Im the 1st girl in my family and the 2nd of my friends to get married. If your worrying about money make a list of income and outgoings and look at what you can save each month and then go from there. Good luck hun xx
I'm planning my wedding as well. at first it was very scary ( even though its not for 21 months) but once we paid our deposit i was excited and then everything fell into place. As soon as you decide on a date and pay the deposit everything falls into place. Look around on websites for deals. get lots of quotes for the best price for things that you would like. plus you have everyone on here to help :) x
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CommentAuthorLittleMissWorry
Don't panic! I would say just enjoy being engaged for another month while doing research into venues and prices for things. The first thing we booked was our venue and that was only 10 months before our wedding date (so we've doen everything in less time then you currently have). We've had plenty of time to get everything done, and although some suppliers were already booked on our day, there were plenty who weren't.
I would say you need have a think about what your budget is, the type of wedding you want (number of guests, if you want bedrooms available at the venue for them etc), and what area-ish you'd like it in. Then do a search for venues. Find out what info you can from their websites. I had an excel spread sheet with columns for my important factors eg: number of bedrooms within budget closeness to church green stuff (for photos) - from google satellite some clearly didn't have any at all! Put in how well each venue matched each factor. This should narrow it down to a manageable number of venues. Get your other half to go through this list of potentials with you and cross off any he isn't keen on. Then you can email these remaining venues and arrange to go and visit them together.
Once you've got the venue, work through the other suppliers in order of which is most important to you. Choose three of each yourself, then get his input. Maybe assign him one or two things he needs to arrange. For example my other half was in charge of the music to he's located someone and done all the emailing and arranging for that.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
First step is do you want religious or civil ceremony, if religious it narrows it massivly as you can only get married in your, you ohs or parents parish. If look up registry office, and venues in area with civil ceremony licence and go have a look.
Date ? What day do you want it on, does it have to be saturday? Alot if venues do very reduced packages for midweek. So if your not bothered ask when you look, once you've got your venue four half way there! X
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CommentAuthorKatieM93
thanks guys I just thought we weren't doing things and werent leaving enough time to sort it all out but im guessing theres rele no rush apart from venue, I have looked at some and got one that I want to go look at and a wedding fair for a marquee and all the suppliers which is what my H2B wants, so looking at it im not as unorganised as I thought but any info, tips and advice will still be welcome because im guessing this isn't going to be the only time I feel like this lol :D
CommentAuthormiss_finch
I agree with the ladies on here. Get your venue sorted. I felt the same when we first got engaged. Once I found my venue, the ideas just started coming! I'm not getting married for 3 years but I am planning. Make a list of things you need to do and then you can take your time going through them. Planning should be fun and I am sure it will be. You have your mum around to help too xx
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
Try not to panic hun!! We all know how you feel - it can be completely overwhelming but you already have your dress and know where the ceremony will be which is a great start!!
I would suggest focusing on finding a reception venue next and then maybe break down everything else into 3/4 tasks a month so that the decisions/research/buying feels more manageable.
There are some great threads on this site as well that can help. You've definitely come to the right site!! xxx
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CommentAuthorNataleeM
Congrats and try not to panic - Theres lots of idea on this site that will really help you - Try do DIY on things to keep the cost down, thats what we are doing. Just get your venue booked hun as we found that alot of venues we wanted we couldnt have all all booked for a year on so we are getting married in 2015 instead, Theres no rush to get married hun just enjoy your engagement. We dont have a huge budget so being 2 years away has really helped, i buy things every month so the costs spread xx
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CommentAuthorValentinaK
Book a venue/church, then you can work everything off that! As soon as you have that, (because your working to 12 months) give notice. Then the two biggies are done. After that, get your dress picked, then you have plenty of time for it to be ordered/made and can base other things on its design, like the bridesmaid dresses, accessories, the cake etc. Food should be relatively easy same with photogs. If your number one photog isn't available, just write it off and choose the next best and haggle the price. I went through a stage of hating it and just wanting to fob it off on to everyone else! Its natural/normal! It can be so overwhelming! Chin up!
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CommentAuthorAthers2b
Hi there, I feel your pain, it's quite terrifying planning a wedding isn't it? I'm in the very early stages at the moment, and sending off for tonnes of brochures from various venues, but it is quite overwhelming and sometimes I feel like hiding under me bed! x
CommentAuthorBeverleyW66
I feel like this and with only 6 months to go its getting worse, I can't imagine how I'm going to pull it off as I have never ever planned anything before. I seem to continuously swap one panic for the next andI have nightmares at least once a week.
This wedding might just kill me lol
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
After the venue, the things that will book up fastest are photographer, videographer, entertainment and car (if you need one). Get those done quickly, and then you can think a bit more about the other things
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I was like that too to begin with, best thing to do as my fiancé says is .... Lists lists lists! He's obsessed with them but along with doing a spreadsheet they are the easiest ways to be organised and know what you're doing when, it will easily make u less stressed x
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CommentAuthorKatieM93
well the panic has gone, got my church sorted out now and we've both agreed on it :D just emailed my venue about dates to go see it so hopefully she will get back to me soon, think I was just having a panic day :D thanks ladies really appreciate the help and support :D
