Firstly id like to say HI im new here and just trying to find my way round.
Im also new to all this wedding planning and struggling to get over the first hurdle of where to do it home or away?!?!?!
Option 1: I have always dreamed of a sunny beach wedding but currently being faced with family and friends throwing in their moans about the travelling and expense. I only want a small do on the day with my parents and my BM with her hubby and child ( i havent listed h2b family as we know they wont travel) We then planned to hold an evening reception on our return for those who couldn’t make it.
Option 2: Have a small CC late afternoon followed by a relaxed evening reception, we don’t really want a full on sit down meal so we’re hoping to skip this and go straight for either a BBQ or hog roast buffet. Will people think we are cheap!??????? I thought the money we save here we could go all out on our HM
Has anybody been in this position themselves and how did you decide? I would be quite happy in the UK if I knew I could rely on the weather, I know stupid but I really want the sun to be shining.
Many thanks in advance! x
CommentAuthorfuturemrsstockwin
i decided on the uk because i wanted a big wedding with everyone there. You sounds like you want to go away i think even if you are having a small wedding in the uk it can cost a lot. I would do what you want to and dont listen to other people opp if they want to be there then they will pay and everyone else you can see at your party when you get back x x x
CommentAuthorfuturemrsstockwin
and welcome to the site too!! x x
CommentAuthorMrshewart2b
cheers for the speedy reply! I suppose i feel guilty wanting to go away knowing that my h2b parents wont be there but i would love it if they could make it and if we did it in the UK then fingers crossed they would travel a few hours in the car for that?!?! He says it doesnt bother him if they are there or not but personally i think deep down it does. I suggested pricing out both and see how we get on at the end of the day money talks and which ever works out cheapest might be the winner. :-S
CommentAuthorcatch
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my niece is going for family wedding abroad in may next year then reception at home for all the family that will not be unable to attend the holiday wedding, as that's what they are calling it, her mum dad and h2b parents bm brov sisters ect will all be going all staying same hotel, l will attend but will stay different hotel, she choose to do it that way as our family all her aunts uncles cousins and all her partners family are massively huge and hse can not afford to have them all and didn't want to upset anyone bless l myself are getting married her in sept will all the family nieces nephews kids ect because l will be the last of our generation to wed, then all the nieces and nephews will start lol so l'm having the full bhuna everyone at the wedding, but it's our choices in line with what we can afford gosh! there are 60 females for the hen night argh!!! so you do it your way hunni and have a ball, it's what is best for you xx p.s. welcome to ukbride hunni x
Hiya, welcome to the wonderful world of brides, lol. I think at the end of the day you have to go with what you and your h2b really want, and it does sound like you want the sunny beach wedding. If you know his family won't want to travel then surely that is up to them, it isn't your fault or your problem if they decide not to go. You will always regret organising your wedding day to suit others. And it is pricey to have a wedding in the uk even if you do skip the wedding breakfast and go straight to buffet, prices for that can range from £15 to £50 a head. But to marry abroad and then have a nice "do" when you both get back sounds nice, then everyone can celebrate with you and it won't cost the earth, as everything with "wedding" in front of it costs double, lol. :) xx
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CommentAuthorMRST
hey welcome to the site, we have chosen abroad, we love our holidays and love the idea of having the sun, we also only want a small wedding. some family are coming with us! we have given them a year and a halfs notice so the cannot moan, our weddin at the end of the day so its gonna be how we want it! not because family moan! We are havin a reception for thos who can travel with us :) hope you can decide soon x
CommentAuthordebs x
Youve got to do what you want, its your wedding after all, hope you decide soon hon and welcome x
CommentAuthorMrshewart2b
cheers for the input girls. we had a long chat last night and went to view a hotel and i think we are maybe going down the route of a UK wedding now. a complete turn around from what i wanted but i actually really love this place and it has a price tag that fits well into our budget and will leave us with plenty for a good honeymoon (alone wink wink rather than with family after our wedding) plus i can be a control freak having it in the UK rather than panicing with not having control abroad, does that make sense?!?
CommentAuthorHelen
I wanted to go away and get married abroad and then come home and just have a party for everyone, but so many people would moan if we did this lol, so we settled for Cardiff :-)
CommentAuthorKaya
I really wanted to get married abroad.... but we both have elderly relatives we wanted there who wouldn't be able to travel.... so we decided to get married here x
