Sorry Guys I just need to rant!

So today I decided to ask my cousain to be a bridesmaid. I wasnt sure if I wanted her to be one in all honesty, and shes kept asking me and my family were asking me to ask her becasue "shes family" "she would for you" "shell be hurt!" and then when I asked my best friend to me moh some of my family werent happy that I didnt ask my cousain. Main family member being my nan (whos basically my mum) and who I want to please, and she was saying I wasnt a nice person not wanting her to be apart of the wedding and that she would asked me and how would I feel if it was the other way round, And tbh with you I told her how I felt. I dont want her as MOH as she always lets me down. Like my baby shower. She was suppost to be doing the games. Then the day before my nan asked her what games we were doing and she said "what? How do I know?" then had the nerve to say she never said she was going to plan the games we were going to play. Then she let me down on my birthday not showing up, and then theres times where we have been suppost to be doing something together and shes just gone out with her friends. So she was deffinatly not going to be my Moh! And with her being like that I didnt really think shed deserve to be a bridemaid!

So after thinking about her feelings, I called her today and ended the phone call extremly cheesed off. She wasnt happy with the way i asked her!? I said "would you like to be my bridesmaid?" and she was giving me attidude because I didnt say "will you be my bridesmaid?" (anyone know the difference???) and getting really arsey over the way i asked. Any way she knows that all the BMs are paying for their own dresses so I asked her what her budget would be, to which she snapped "Well Im not gunna be one if its a ridiculous amount!" (which makes me think she cant actually want to be one that bad as my other BMs have said they dont mind!) So i said "o well the other bridesmaids and me have said 50-80 is that ok? But I can change it" and she replied "yeh thats nowt" and then I said O good. Then she said bye, which tbh i felt she snapped. But my nan and mum were saying Id be imagining it. But seeing as Id asked her and what response shed given I was pretty annoyed. And I was wishing Id not asked her.

An hour later my mum calls me. She tells me that my cousains just been saying im TIGHT! As £80 is nothing...ergh. It might not be to her but when Ive got 6 adult bridesmaids and 3..possibly 4 little ones I think it is! Especially when Im on a tight budget.
Im just so annoyed! I wish Id not bothered, im getting slagged off, and made to feel shit for trying to be kind and thoughtful! jeeeeeez.

Aw no im sorry hun, really is no pleasing some people... she should be honoured and grateful that you've asked her!! considering your bridal party already!!
Really wish i could help xx

I think you are trying to hard to please other people remember it is your day. I dont think £80 is tight at all.
I wouldn't have her as a bridesmaid she sounds so ungrateful but not a lot you can do about it now. but dont let other people push you in a direction you dont want to go on anything ells x

As others have said, you have tried to please others by having her be a part of your wedding entourage even though you were not overly sure of her for many reasons and already it seems as though your fears may have some foundations.
Am sorry petal but if she is already acting this way at this stage then there is the possibilty things may get worse as time gets closer to the day. You might need to think about making a harsh decision sooner rather than later. Maybe speak to the others about your concerns and remind them that the day is about your h2b and yourself and you both need to have those about you who will be able to support and assist you (and not cause additional aggravations).
If she is mentioning the costs of the dresses then say again that if that is too much maybe her being in the role of bridesmaid may well be too much. Possibly offer her to do a reading.

If that tight I dread to think what people will think about me haha x Dont let it bother you!! You were the decent person at the end of the day and she has just been plain rude xxx

I would tell her that she can not be one now, that's so rude of her x x

Why do people feel the need to please everyone else, its yours and your h2bs wedding day, no one elses, you do what makes you happy and if someone doesnt like it, tell them where to go, we did because we wanted it how we wanted it and that was final, its hard but at the end of the day, you want a perfect day, not a I did this to please you day, hope that made sense. Maybe im just a mean cow lol xx

Haha Terri, I like your style! Im just not able to do that! Dont know why! Need to grow a pair of man parts! haha

Although my nan has said not to have her now! As she made mistake of moaning to her. Saying I wont have my bridesmaids look pretty theyll look nasty and tacky apparently so my nan told her were to go.
Im not going to bother with her now. Ill see if she comes to me. If not ill forget I asked her XD

Ive seen the dresses I want on the bay of E. There only 12.99. but from america. Worth giving it a shot tho at that price! although ive never ordered anything from out of uk.

I just needed a good B****!

ive just found out mines from china not america wen i sent a link to Nina! theyve had 99.7% feedback-i have faith :) x

I'm so glad my BM's aren't like that! I don't see how someone can be so rude, definitely not worth being a bridesmaid, hopefully she won't make a scene at your wedding x x

Glad you've got it sorted! She sounds awful! How rude and ungrateful! I'd be tempted to not even inviter her at all if she's gonna bi*** behind your back about your wedding! What a *&%^$! xx