I really really need to rant! In the summer last year, I had a problem with a "friend". Let's call her T She had tried to worm her way into being a bridesmaid after I said that if I had to replace one then I would pick her! Stupid I know. Really wish I hadnt said it. Well T started telling her mum and others she was definately a bm, even though she wasnt. I put her straight on this, thought things were fine. Then she got funny on me, ignored me everytime I was on fb. Then posted a status, with the intention of trying to make me notice her about my 2 year old daughter and how she was gonna see her again.
Well I pulled her on this, saying it was bad how she used my daughter to get attention. I thought we had sorted it. Then she offers to look after my SIL2B dog. When my SIL2B dropped in to let T, T decided to started to tell my SIL2B that I wouldnt let her be my bm. Then T decided to try and fill my SIL2B's head with rubbish, saying that me and H2B hated my SIL2B cos she was friends with someone we didnt speak to or even like for that matter. Apparently we'd called SIL2B 2-faced as well. Well we never said anything like that. We wouldnt as h2b is very close with his family and I love all of them cos they have welcomed me with open arms.
Now when I found out what T had said it was just before xmas and I hadn't spoken to her for a few weeks cos she was just plainly ingoring me yet again, for no reason. So I haven't bothered speaking to her at all since then cos I dont see why I should always have to make an effort to contact her. It seems to be a bit of a habit with T.
So last week I removed her from my fb friends list. I did this thinking she clearly didnt value our friendship as she hadnt bothered to even say hello or see how I was on anniversary of my dad's death. Then 2day my h2b removed her as well. then she decided to put a nice status up saying how she just noticed and was over it. (I can clearly see everything cos she hasn't set any restrictions on her account. Silly in my mind cos any stranger can look at it). People started commenting asking her who had deleted her. She commented back to one girl she refers to as her "wifey" (She isnt gay, claims she's bisexual but has never had a lesbian experience) "who was we talking about 2 weeks ago?" the "wifey" then went on to say "it's not like you liked them anyway" and T said she wasnt gonna miss us just my daughter!!!!!!
I feel soooo used! I had been friends with her for so long and she only wanted to know me cos I had a daughter. Back in 2006 she had a miscarriage, she was about 15 weeks pregnant, i went to hospital with her, helped her after she got out and when drunk one night said that when we reach 30 if i hadnt settled down with a family of my own then i would be a surrogate for her by ivf. so i feel like she used me to try and replace the children she hasnt been able to have!!!
I am soooooo **** off. she puts everything over fb, so if i confronted her the entire F***ing world would know before 2moro morning!
Sorry ladies. needed to really rant
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
aww hunni i really dont know what to say but it sounds like you are far better off without her in your life xxx ignore her and just get on with everything xx big hug xxxx
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CommentAuthorkrisw86
thanks hun xxx 1 thing that annoys me with her is she always makes everyone else out to be the bad guy. even though she is in the wrong. it unfair and she tried to sneakily do it so both my SILs2B didnt pick up on it. that was until i saw what she put. she thinks that but slagging me off behind my back means she gets to see my daughter. she not a blood relative or a godparent so she can get lost. i really wanna lose my rag with her but i like to remain a lady lol. plus she also in a wheelchair so plays the "disabled" card. well i'm disabled too so she cant pull that one on anyone. xxxxxx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
that is rubbish but she will eventually be seen for what she is which sounds like a right manipulative cow. unfortunately we all know them. your best to try and cut her out of your life. if people ask why tell them the truth. your truth will clearly be more reliable than hers.
also hugs for your BM in the thread that was closed
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CommentAuthorStave
The internet and FB are very dangerous places! It causes so many arguements. Hope you can get it sorted at some level.
How is your relationship with SIL2b?? I hope it hasnt suffered at the hands of her.
I know you feel used - trust me Ive been through similar things with a so called friend but tbh it is so nice not to have to tip toe round people.
Also she sounds a bit psychotic and maybe its better your child is not around her xxx
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CommentAuthorPiper Halliwell
She sounds wonderful! People like that always get their communpance so I hope you are there to see it!xx
CommentAuthorkrisw86
yea. people like her do get what's coming to them. rachel - our relationship with SIL2b is fine. she told us what had been said cos it was bothering her. we put her straight with it all. she knows we wouldn't have continued to go and see her and be all nice to her if what had been said was true. and thankfully she sees that.
piper, i really wish i was there to see it. she is soo childish and as rachel put a bit psychotic. but im not sure bit is the right level to be honest. i think she needs her head looking at. i think she stuck at being a teenager and continues to act like one.
oh well hope she realises what she done this time. as i said before if i speak to her, i will lose my temper and that takes a lot forme to do that as i usually bottle things up. bring my daughter into anything and i will snap. she is too important for others to use as a way of emotiionally blackmailing me!
