Totally agree with other ladies hun, I'm glad you found out what theyre really like. As for the best man he doesnt deserve the honour, im sure your h2b can find someone worthy of the position as best man honey. They really need to grow up xxx big hugs to u and h2b xxx
CommentAuthormrs linda greer 21/8
thats way out of order doing that to him bloody idiots at least u no is REAL friends like a few of ther others said they shud of clubed together and paid for some of it at least cant believe they expected him to cough up £150 out of thin air then pay 4 meal drinks etc god i thought there wud of been at least 1 descent guy that wud of stuck up 4 him etc ie his best man!! hope u r all ok and getting over the bug ((((((hugs)))))))) xx
CommentAuthorsabs
hey Hun they are all pathetic little imature boys who don't deserve to have you and Ross as friends. Fair play to Ross for putting his family 1st you have a great man there. Get on with rest of your planning and enjoy your day together and don't give them a second taught. I have never heard of a groom having to pay for their own stag do as far as i was concerned the people going usually club together for him. x x x x
CommentAuthorJay
so far weve not heard a peep from anyone, the guy involved has deleted the convo off of facebook. I didnt reply after the last one as i really couldnt be ar$ed. The best man text me last night saying hed try and diffuse the situation - even though he got involved in it. So right now i definately know who isnt coming and have to re do my table plan and word an email saying your uninvited get rammed. I just feel poorly and dont have the energy for this. Im sick of arguements, im sick of stress, im sick of people taking the mickey and i swear im almost sick of planning this wedding when every two minutes something goes wrong. Im getting ross to speak to best man tonight to find out if were still going to keep him as best man
CommentAuthorlou
bless you hun, at least you can count on your h2b thats all that matters xx
well lets hope theyre all ashamed of their behaviour. id still tell best man to jog on. you made me chuckle about telling em to get rammed.
hope you're all feeling loads better soon xx
CommentAuthorJay
thanks guys! i hope i feel better too den1fd! i feel like ive git the worst hangover ever but ive had no booze near me for ages!(as in about 4 weeks) x
CommentAuthorden1se
blimey, thats not good. is it showing signs of clearing up yet x
CommentAuthorJay
nah not yet, had to go into work today as well coz i only started there 2 days ago and didnt want to look like a flake :( not a good day x
CommentAuthorden1se
oh no how pants. rubbish when youve to go into work when you're not feeling your best x
CommentAuthorspooney24
aww bless you Jay, well I have to say the best man has a lottttttttttttt of making up to do to even be considered as a best man anymore and as for the others, and bear with me as you hardly ever hear me swearing unless I am well annoyed.....they can f*ck right off and should be bl**dy banned totally from the wedding and from your house afterwards too.
As for less guests now at the wedding.................mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I think Paul n I may have wee wedding outfits between us that could be dusted down ready for your big day lol!! Anyhoo, if you need a scream or 2 down the phone Im at home tomorrow so you are welcome to dial my number. xx
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CommentAuthordebs x
Just concentrate on you and your family now, you dont need p****s like them in your life, negative people will just bring you down, have a wonderful wedding in the end they are the losers x x x
CommentAuthornickers
what a bunch of tw**s thats horrible chic ross doesnt need m8s like that at all your family is more important hope you manage to sort it all out chic xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Alsbetty
i wouldn't keep the bestman no way! ask someone who deserves the honour! i'd uninvite them them leave it at that an djust ignore any other messages and phonecalls even after the wedding. your better than that, hope you find a new bestman or woman, if they weren't going to chip in and all pay for him then they should have had the decency to let him know how much money he would need, thats easily done without giving any clues away x
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
email them and say that basically they arranged his stag do without telling him anything and made it a price he couldnt afford and then chose to hurl absue at both of you because of it.
If they were decent friends, they would have a. appreciated how expensive that is for someone with a family and b. not hurled abuse when this was explained to them. It is unreasonble and childish and you obviously do not consider them to be decent friends after the way they have acted and it would be better in the circumstances that they did not attend the wedding.
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CommentAuthorCupCake
OMG Jay!!!! I just read the entire thread, WTF???? I'd be livid too if that was me ... I honestly don't know what to say babes, apart from GET WELL all of you and I really hope you can sort this mess out before your day ((( hugs )))
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorgoldylocks661
Hey, I've just read the whole thread too. I agree it sounds like they have all been very childish about it. But....if you turn it around, Am I right in understanding you knew there was a surprise organised? Maybe it's a mistake on both parts that money situations weren't made clear. It sounds like they have gone to a lot of effort for your H2B making the surprise and you can see where their disappointment has turned petty. I'm not trying to say invite them all back to the wedding, but I'm just thinking they probably very much regret it and some of the messages may have been disappointment turned to anger....however the jibes about dyslexia are a different story and maybe not so inexcuseable!!! Either way, have who you want to be there on the day! Good luck!!!!
CommentAuthorJay
hey girls, the thing is, it wasnt a surprise! They just wouldnt tell him how much it was costing and wouldnt reply to his phone calls and texts. He knew there was go karting involved but not one of them would tell him how much he needed to bring etc. Fair play if it was a surprise then idve understood their lack of communication but nope. He just didnt get told details of anything. even on the friday night before he got paid he text them asking for the postcode of the place they were staying to enter into sally the satnav and noone replied! Pretty much the guys had just planned a night out for themselves and didnt take into consideration cost, telling ross or the fact that he doesnt drink! Even without him there theyve gone and had the stag do and to add a little insult to injury theyve put pics up from it and tagged him in the pics! Im still fuming!
CommentAuthorbabycham79
im not surprised you still fuming hun they are just showing themselves to be very childish xx
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Awww hun, I've just been reading this and catching up. They sound like fantastic friends NOT. I honeslty thought petty bítchyness only occured between girls/women. The fact they cant even have the decency to apologize when it's so obvious they're in the wrong? Definitely not the kind of people you want there on your big day. Although at least it sounds like the best man has made a half arsed attempt to apologise with the "diffuse the situation" comment.
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CommentAuthorMrs Joyce
its just childish they should all be ashamed of themselves
xx
CommentAuthorAshlie-Louise
As if you need all of this just before your wedding hunni! How aweful of those idiotic "friends". Big credit to ur fella that he stood by his family rather than blowing his wages on a Stag that was, by the sounds, geared not around the Groom's best interests, but around the morons around him! You've got a stellar bloke there chick, dont let these "friends" ruin things for you two. And with respect to the best man, if he had intent of "diffusing the situation" y did he comment in the first place, and encourage it all?!? If this is how they act, they aint worthy of being called friends ... even the people I'm studying with who HATE me act with respect and consideration when we are forced to work together ... its just basic manners and consideration for someone other than one's self ... something these "friends" havent learnt, but obviously a principle held deep py your fiance. Best of luck chick, and dont let it ruin yor day ... they aint worth it! xxxxx
CommentAuthormym72
I defintely wouldn't let them anywhere near your wedding!! Even if the FB conversations have been deleted, I would still keep the log of calls on your phone - and warn them that if any of them turn up to the wedding then you'll ring the police. You don't need the hassle of some stupid little imbeciles with d icks on their foreheads!!!! And if they can get like that after drinking once, imagine what they could be like at the wedding????
OMG Jay!!!! I just read the entire thread, WTF???? I'd be livid too if that was me ... I honestly don't know what to say babes, apart from GET WELL all of you and I really hope you can sort this mess out before your day ((( hugs )))
