Yeah i would say find out throught her or her partner then go from there..... xx
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorSuzi
Yeah you need to find out hun otherwise it is going to eat you up! OK so they could turn round and say it has nothing to do with you which in effect it doesn't but I know where you are coming from. Perhaps they had already paid the £4000 difference, perhaps they have a loan, there could be any number of reasons hun!
If H2B's parents have always been fair then I cant see that changing now.. the only thing being if they are traditional then they may feel it is their duty to pay for their daughters wedding but not their son's as traditionally the brides father pays for most of it! I know that doesn't really happen any more but his family do seem the traditional type!!!
Find out what you need to know hun and hopefully it will ease everyone's mind...
Do not disturb... Already disturbed enough!
CommentAuthorcatch
traditionally father of the BRIDE should pay for the wedding but in mordern day most BRIDES pay for their own and the fella's just follow suit turning up to enjoy event lol, so if it where tradition then the sister has been more done by really if she is only getting £1K towards her wedding, and any help recieved before or after a wedding is always most welcome, ask is sister how she is getting on and get tips about who/how is paying what? you don't say but is your father traditional paying for your wedding??? which means any money your h2b gets will be a bonus so tell him not to stress out x
CommentAuthorCeCe
Lemon...you know I love you right..?
Ok, here goes.....STOP concerning yourself with how somebody elses wedding is getting paid for!
You and Simon CANNOT do anything regarding whom pays what...or wedding 'discrepancies' etc...life is a BIT CH sometimes and some folk always fall on the comfiest cushions whilst others fall on their arses..HARD.
Concentrate on YOUR day.
;) xx
CommentAuthorCarolanneJune
well said cece put all you effort in to your day and dont worry about outher people xx
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CommentAuthorKat
I can see why your h2b is upset. My parents have always treated us equally, money given to brother when a ball gown bought for me etc. Except I budget and save and am fairly secure financially, my brother has been bailed out many times by my parents and now I am helping parents pay off a bank loan that has ultimately (whole story is more complicated) been paying my brothers rent.
Try to find out what you can to ease the h2b's mind but also remind him that if you are paying for most of it then you don't have to listen to any interference and can make it truely your day.
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
It might be that his family are paying a bit more, any number of reasons. I can see why your H2B feels a bit sore about it for the principle though, especially if his family have not been paying much interest in your wedding. I guess it's one of those things that he can either forget, ask directly about, or let eat him up. I would think one of the first 2 is the best option!! ;)
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
p.s I meant the fella that his sister is marrying's family might be contributing more than half in my first sentence.
CommentAuthorKaz
I'm a bit confused by all this. My brother got married last year but his wife's family paid everything (apart from hire of mens suits and car) as it's usual for the bride's parents to pay. For my wedding, my parents are footing the bill and they wouldn't dream of asking H2B's family for anything as it's the bride's parents responsibility. Am I missing something here or just being old fashioned?
