So we have been planning our wedding for about 2years now, reason for so long is that everthing is handmade by us. Planning to be married in 2015 which gives us a few more years to get things sorted. Money has been tight for us and life really hard, been made homeless, jobless, dog got ran over, kitten got a large vet bill too, lost a child, had FMIL been a total devil to me about everything! But found out a few months back that one of OH's brother's is planning there wedding too. Great we though so pleased for them. Then we find out, last week, off OH's youngest sister that it is 2days, yes, 2days before ours, oh and it will also land on their sister's hubby to be's birthday - and he isn't invited. Well, what can I say? It just sums her (OH's brother's lady that is), she has to out do everyone on everthing! You buy their niece a doll for her birthday and she has to buy her a two dolls and a dolls house with a dolls car. Oh and here is another example of her 'lovely-ness' she has a little boy from a previous marriage, and last year she and OH's brother had a little girl. She said no more kids, OH's brother wants to try for a baby boy, her answer was basically blackmail, we can if I get to choose the reception and you can't dissagree. - He is paying for the whole f*****g thing! She doesn't work, she is choosing who on his side of the family that aren't allowed at the wedding. Now please tell me if I'm taking that the wrong way. Argh! I'm just so pissed off! The date is super important to us so there is no changing that. And it is super important that we have it on a Sat. For this is happen we have to have it in 2015 (our planned date) next time from that 2020!
I just want to curl up in a corner and give up, just say we will never get married...
CommentAuthorLauraM9144
aww hun feel for you and she sounds like a proper control freak but you need to chill out! keep yur date do everything how you want it and keep focused on what you want and judt forget her! i know it sounds weird but test her out plan your day get your mates involved and make sure you get it your way and exactly what you want without listening to her plans. at the end of the day you are marrying your man make that the important bit and dont try to outdo her just do it how you would if she wasnt doing this! i know its easier said than done but if you have the day you hoped and dreme doff then what she does is irrelevant!
One BIG day will lead to lots of little happy days !!
CommentAuthorsarah
That's terrible. (((Big Hugs)))
CommentAuthorButtonAndBoo
I feel if we stick to our date of 2015 then they might not be able to attend along with some other members of his family too, which means OH will be an Usher down, I know it doesn't seem much but it would mean a brother down. Also feel that if we stick to it, everyone in his family are going to be comparing, and I know I will just get told to stop been silly and it will be totally different but still can't help it from bugging me and getting me down. [Sniff sniff]
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Keep your date, and make sure you tell the important people what it is quickly. Mention that you had that date first. Then go ahead and sort your wedding out without paying any attention to what the other couple are doing.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
I know its a long way off yet but have either of you sent out save the dates or anything?
I think if the date is that important to you should stick with it. However, if it is something that can be changed (do you have any other special dates you could use) the maybe change it to a date which is a little sooner than hers but don't let on till shes commited to her date.
Although tbh, if I understand correctly, your wedding will be on the Saturday right which means hers will be on Thursday? is that right? If thats the case then people will probably be more likely to go to yours if it came to a choice between one or the other, as people will have work and school commitments thurs / fri, whereas sat /sun is much easier for most.
Either way, try not to let it bother you, its your big day and it will be special regardless of whatever is going :)
CommentAuthorButtonAndBoo
Both of us thought them having a wedding on Thursday was a bit odd considering they have 2kids, a neice and 2 nephews who are going to be in the wedding for starts. But I have just come to the conclusion she wants to be first and do her best to get in our way and on our wicks.
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CommentAuthorBev
Do everything you had planned, no need to change a thing. Make sure you have the wedding you want and nothing else will matter. Remember, it's about marrying your other half not feeling like you are competing with another bride Hun x
CommentAuthorsarah
Didn't catch the Saturday part. If I had to choose I'd attend a wedding on a Saturday over a Thursday.
CommentAuthorVelcro
So would I, especially if that wedding was booked first as well!
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorValentinaK
I'd not worry... If she carries on like that, there probably will be no Wedding!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Outrageous really!
Velcro...my wedding day twinny! The Two Kel's!
Got engaged 14/10/12 in Central Park NYC!
Became Mrs Macdonald 13th September 2014
Mummy to 4 girlies and baby blue boy Due 10/05/2016
CommentAuthorTaidiN
Hey hun. Don't worry about them just keep your wedding on your special date. Plus most schools have now said that children can't be taken out for weddings, hoildays and so on other wise fine ect. ( only immediate family members to the bride and groom) Speaking for myself I wouldn't pull my kids out of school for the day and risk a fine for a wedding on Thursday. Xxxxxx
