First off, I don't know of this is in the right topic, if not I am sorry.
I asked my dad to walk me down the aisle a while back and he said he would, of course he would, and why wouldn't he! I can tell you why he wouldn't...because he refused to last time I got married.
Anyway, I was asking him earlier if he wanted the registrar to recognise him giving me away and all he's have to say is "I do" and he said no. HE also said he can't even remember saying he's give me away and asked why I'm walking down the aisle when it's not a church wedding. I asked him if he is going to say anything like a speech when everyone else does and he just laughed.
He may not see how much he has hurt me with this but it has. My mum's other half who I get on with really well has said to me as soon as I got engaged that he would be very proud and honoured to walk me down the aisle if my dad said no. Well, I'm wondering it may be better un-asking my dad and asking him instead, at least he WANTS to do it!
But then my dad is my dad
What would you do?
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Ask your Dad to tell you straight and let him know exactly what he's doing.
If he says he's not ask you step dad xxxx
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
How sad :0( Yep - ask ur dad one more time to clarify and then Step dad. Good luck x
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CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
That's harsh of your dad to behave like that, whether it's your first second or third wedding, it's still a wedding and your still his daughter, he should be walking you down the aisle and making a speech!
I'd just ask him out straight, "are you going to walk me down the aisle and make a speech or not? as I can ask someone who would be the proudest man on earth to do it otherwise"
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
yea ask him again, and if he says no ask him why?, my step dads walking me down the aisle been more of a dad to me than my real one. good luck x
That's the thing though my dad's been perfect to me in my life, pretty much, considering what I've done (long story) but he just doesn't agree with weddings, nor can he see my viewpoint on why this is important to me. I really want him to do this properly, but it's not something he can understand. I'm getting to the stage though where I'd rather someone who felt the same as I did and realised that this was a big thing was doing it rather than someone who was just doing something to keep me happy for 5 minutes but then that is it
CommentAuthorGregorysGirl
I would tell him outright that he has upset you as for you it is a big deal even if he doesn't see the point. If he still isn't willing to do it properly then I would say to tell him that you are sorry but that you will ask your mums partner to walk you down the aisle as he views it as the honour that it is. Sorry that he feels the way he does honey regardless of what you have done in the past, your dad should want to give you away and see you happy. Good luck. xx
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CommentAuthorVicky
That is really sad, I would speak to your dad and get a proper answer and see what he says!! Good Luck
CommentAuthorLoubie Lou x
Hi I would sit down explain to your dad how you are feeling and ask him if he wants to give you away and do the fatherly duties if he answers No then ask why, it shouldnt matter how many times you have been married he is your dad at the end of the day and should be proud of that. If he is sure that he doesnt want to then ask your step dad he sounds like he would be proud to do the father duty.
At the end of the day it is your day and it is up to you who you ask to give you away so if your not happy with your dad then hink what would make you happy. Good luck hunnie x
CommentAuthorMagicFairies
This is really sad. If you sure there is no other reason your biological dad is acting like this then certainly ask your step dad. I really feel for you because my biological dad is the same, he was never interested so i have asked my step dad - who is really pleased and happy to do it. I think its great that your step dad is so enthusiastic about the idea. Better to have your step dad do it and you both enjoy it then give the job to your father if he's going to treat it as a chore. Good luck xxxx
CommentAuthortweedwedding
I agree with all the girlies, speak to him and tell him how you feel and then from that you know whether or not to ask your step-dad xx
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
So many people can't see the point in getting married anymore which is so sad. Personally hunny I would suggest to your dad that he comes as a guest and let your step dad do the honours this time. No, registry hasnt got an aisle as such but thats hardly the point. My ex FIL is walking me down to meet H2B. (sperm donor isn't invited and I don't even know if he's on this planet anymore) Just because your dad has been supportive in the past it doesn't mean he can upset you this close to your day. I would have thought your Dad would have seen walking you down as an honour. Hope you get it sorted soon xx
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CommentAuthorricky
it takes more than donating the sperm to be a dad...my step dad is named as my dad on my wedding certificate too..he is the man who has loved me..driven for 14 hours to come and bring me home when my ex was being horrid...searched high and low for a record for me for Christmas..come to parents' evenings etc etc
CommentAuthormadison_uk
salamander just cos you've done things in the past its the past, you need someone who can support you, and is really pleased to be walking you down the aisle my brother walked me down the first time, doesn't even have to me a man have been to friends wedding and her mum walked her down the aisle
CommentAuthorLil' Cakes
There must be a reason. You should definitely talk to him about it.
