So I just found out that my other halfs stag do next weekend consists of 3 lap dancing clubs in Leeds! One I could understand but 3!!!! I'm mortified and am insecure at the best of times. Sounds silly I know. I know he's marrying me but I worry with things like that he'll realise what he's missing like beautiful girls and big boobs etc and be disappointed when he gets home to well, me! I know it's silly but I can't help it and I'm home alone all weekend, every single one of my friends and family are busy, every single one so will be home alone with only my very annoying, unhelpful thoughts to keep me company.
It doesn't help I don't trust his best man at all and know how much he gets my other half to drink (OH rarely drinks normally) when they get together.
Finding this out on top or being made redundant last week is a bit poo. :-(
Sorry for the rant.x

Oh, hugs honey, this sounds like it has come at the worse possible time!


I agree, three is a bit ott...but I doubt they will end up going to all three - after all, once you've seen one, you've seen them all really. Most of male friends are of the consensus that they only go to lapsancing clubs on stag nights for a laugh - it isnt really a sexual thing, Have a chat to your h2b, I'm sure he will reassure you...

As for the weekend, get in lots of little pamper treats for yourself, order in your favourite takeaway and line up a load of feel-good films...or try and embark on a project that will keep you too busy to worry!

Xx

Big hugs from me, really sorry to hear about your job.
Really sorry to hear that you will be on your own all weekend too, it would drive me crazy too. However i really don't think you have anything to worry about with your h2b on his stag do. His mates will have arranged it for novelty thing to do as i'm sure most guys would just for the laugh. I can't see that there would be any sexual intent in it at all. It's just a laugh and just think once they have had a few drinks down them and went to the club they will probably b so scared they will have one drink and leave anyway.

You will find most ladies in these clubs are only there to earn money and they have normal lifes at home, i.e husbands/boyfriends, children/ rent/mortgage to pay. I knew someone who worked in a strip club and to them all it is just a job to earn money to live by. Nothing else, they do what they have to and leave at the end of the night. They don't get emotionally involved with people coming in and will most probably never see these people again.

There really is nothing to worry about.

xx

I understand completely, I'm not a big fan of strip clubs,lap dances, I think I'd be disappointed if h2b had a lap dance and he knows I don't like them so knows how I feel, I don't think a strip club would bother me tht much but 3 definitely would, what's different between 1 and 3 ... They're all the same, so yeah defo go to 1 as part of the stag experience but then move on seriously, there's more to do on a stag weekend than just that... Some of it could be down to peer pressure from friends but still that's not the point, ur h2b should maybe change some of the plans x

h2b is going to Amsterdam for his stag do and im paying for him to have a lap dance. in the end he was on his stag do let them have a good time. personally im having a stripper on my hen weekend so why shouldn't a man. there on there stag doo's so 9 times out of 10 they have friends of both the couple or family of the bride and groom. im sure no man would be THAT stupid. Really don't mean this to sound harsh but just let him be x

Stag night in a strip club normal just their for a laugh and will come home to you your the one he wants to marry those women mean nothing to him and my girls wanna get me a stripper still dunnoe how I will react to that will go red and be completely embarrased but it should be fun musci etc I oubt they will go to 3 as other ladies have said once you seen one you've seen them all so dont worry about it your should treat yourself to a pamper spa day get a mani and a pedi put on a lovely relaxing mask have feel good romantic movie night with munchies and naught things chocolate icecream have some you time and go over your wedding plans make sure they 100% with you that will keep you busy =D ♥ X Also we here to talk to you if you want

As has already been said, its just a day job to these girls they wont even be allowed to touch them, lalas hubby sums it up very well - especially in summer time!!

H2B obviously thinks you are perfect as you are, just becasue he is looking doesnt mean he doesnt find you attractive just the way you are. He's coming hom to you becasue he wants to :)

Make sure you plan something for the day, just becasue you are on your own doesnt mean you cant go shopping or to a nice cafe with a book or something.

aww hun i totally feel for you! i dont like strippers male or female makes me cringe! plus its all a bit pointless its like being able to unwrap a chocolate bar and look at it and not eat it :) i dont trust some of the lads going on the stag and i think they forget that the dads and uncles are going as theyve planned a night in a strip club! i wasnt best pleased when i found out but i let it go but then the best mans mrs found out and made him cancel the whole strip club outing!!! men always go to far on stag dos!! act like children and play up!!x big hugs xx

I wouldnt be best pleased either. For me personally, I just don't get the attraction. If I had a lap dance from a male stripper, I wouldn't know where to look or what to be at, would feel very uncomfortable. So personally I can't understand why anyone would spend money on an experience like that. Also I've never been in a lap dancing club and imagine these perfect girls with tiny waists, big pert boobs and perfect bodies. In reality, they're not perfect. They're like me and you. And as everyone else says, your dp loves you and is coming home to you.

Keep yourself busy that weekend and do something nice just for you.

Hiya ladies,

Thank you so much for the replies, I am definitely a lot calmer hearing so many voices of reason.
It's frustrating because he has said he isn't mad keen on those places and it wouldnt be his choice to go there but he is a quiet boy and doesn't really stand up for himself so will just go with the flow to keep the peace and make things easy so would not tell them, he would just say ''i'm happy with whatever' which is why I said to his best man no strippers, and I explained for OH (obv didnt explain with my own issues and look like a crazy girlfriend, just my concerns for his enjoyment but hey ho). So for his best man to then arrange 3 lap dancing clubs, I think is downright rude and disrespectful. I could accept 1 club as is a fairly normal stag treat but 3 is ludicrous.
I cant talk to OH about it either as is a complete surprise for him, he has no idea where he will be going or anything only its in this country and i'm not gonna spoil it for him.
There aren't many going on it actually, he nearly cancelled it as he only has 5 mates going and felt a bit rubbish about it so I really whole heartedly want him to have an amazing time, just not in 3 lap dancing clubs.

Glitterfairy I keep in touch with some of the uni girls but not that many and the ones I do I have already asked!

My best friend from back home who I have known since school and am godmother to his daughter, who will be a FG at the wedding has actually offered to come all the way down to Portsmouth from Norfolk to spend the weekend with me (I wont have the car so cant go anywhere) and keep me company but OH doesn't want him too as is male and doesn't trust him because he thinks he has a hidden agenda even though we he has met him and I have know him for like 17 years and nothing has happened etc, so that option is out anyway as honestly I would rather I was at home sulking and he was having a great time than I was at home sulking but with a friend and he was then worrying about it the whole weekend and not having a good time!

Anyhoo, I definitely feel better having heard from all of you so amongst decorating my house that we are renovating and probably making a whole lot more visits on here over the weekend I'm sure I'll be fine :-) I will just break the best mans arms and legs and beat him with them the next time I see him!

So, it's okay for h2b to go into several strip clubs for lap dances with strange women but you're not allowed to spend time with your oldest male friend? That don't sit right with me! Maybe you should bring it up to h2b about bestman's plans and he'll either be cool with you seeing your friend or tell bestman three is over the top. Or at least hint at it, so h2b can say to best man he hopes there's not gonna be too much strippers or whatever.

I was home alone when h2b went on his stag and I was ok the first day but the second day i felt really down and lonely!I got really worked up into a state. I was trying to make my order of service booklets and I just couldnt concentrate. Everyone was busy and couldnt spend time with me so I felt mad about that too. If you can have some company with your old friend then dont turn it down hun! Keep really busy and stay off fbook too cus if the stags post stuff that could wind you up xx

Thanks for your replies ladies, they have helped alot and I am much more relaxed and feeling silly for getting so worked up. He is off to his best man's tonight ready to head up north in the morning. I am on my own for the weekend but will be fine as will get engrossed in decorating the living room so it will be transformed when he gets back.

I have decided to show I love and trust him (to to add a bit of surprise to his do and maybe because I know its gonna happen whether I like it or not so there maybe a slight element of control involved!) I have asked my brother to buy OH a lap dance from me. As the old saying goes, 'if you cant beat 'em, join 'em!'