Is there such a thing? My first wedding was years ago, and i was very young and naive, and easily led. It was taken over and ended up being sort of everyone elses day! This time round, i want things ust how I want them! But do think it may come across as cheeky, inviting very similar family members this time round, haing a gift list?? For instance, last time i didn't do a gift list, we asked for donations towards a 3 peice suit. I'd really love a gift list this time, as i have a home, but i'd love to fill it with beautiful little nick nacks etc.... Does anyone else feel like this? Slightly cheeky expecting your family to turn up to another one of your weddings? Buying you ANOTHER gift? Travelling to a venue AGAIN? Maybe its my own insecurities perhaps, i just feel slightly odd about it all. Don't get me wrong i cannot wait to get started on all the planning, and making it our special day, think i need to get over myself a little bit, lol
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Don't be silly hun. This wedding is between you and the h2b so is just as special as if it was the first time. I wouldn't begrudge getting you a gift just because the first marriage didn't work out. Plan and do everything as if you had never done it before and have things the way you want them to be. x x
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Why should it be any less of a wedding and any less special just because its your 2nd wedding? You should have it just the way you want with gift lists and all!!! I am sure family and friends are aware of of your life and see that you have now found someone you want to seriously commit to so I am sure they will want to celebrate this and be happy to buy you and your h2b a beautiful gift! Don't feel cheeky, hun! xxx
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CommentAuthorlulliebiscuit
Aaaaawww thanks ladies, its silly really, because friends of mine have got married for a second time over the years, and never once have I thought 'how cheeky of them to want another gift' so i don't know why i'm thinking like that!! Hahahaha!
Anywho, i shall give myself a good talking to and crack on with on the planning!!! Can't wait!
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Hahaha you made me giggle. I'd love to hear the convo you are going to have with yourself.
Stop being such a silly moo, pull yourself together, and decide on your friggin colour scheme woman!!!!!!!'
CommentAuthorFaeth
I know your insecurity lullie - it's not my first either and I've been having all the same worries. But for me it's my h2b's first so I want him to have everything a first wedding should have - just because I screwed up before, doesn't mean he should suffer for it.
"Of course I'm not wedding obsessed!!"
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
That sounds familiar. I call myself all sorts of names.
CommentAuthorlulliebiscuit
Faeth, it s H2B's first too, and like you say, i don't want a tiny quiet affair, he wants a big white wedding, and thats what i want too, just gotta get over myself really. Its all in our heads! xxx
CommentAuthorVicky
You should be able to have what you want weather its your 1st or 3rd. Dont be silly all of you, just because your getting married again doesnt make it any less
CommentAuthorMel D
Definitely go for it! It's a wedding, people will come no matter if it's your second.
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CommentAuthorClairebear67
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Dont worry about it, not being cheeky at all, my h2b are both on our second marriages and i will be inviting some of the same people that came to my first one, like yourself I was young when I married the first time and it was planned and sorted out by my Dad and my step mother so this time making sure its done how we want it. Go for it and yes give yourself a good talking to for even thinking that you were being cheeky. : )
CommentAuthorjanetx71
i know exactly what you mean its the second time for me and for h2b and we have decided on a guest list i felt really funny at first i even thought people may not come but i was very young the first time and didnt organise any of it myself this time its exactly what i want and sod anyone who says different lol xxx
CommentAuthorClareS
This will be the second wedidng for be and h2b. It felt strange at first doing any sort of planning thinking maybe it shouldn't be a big do or me not have a big dress etc. Wasn't until h2b and I were talking one night when he said this is 'our' wedding, not a repeat of either of our first weddings. People have supported us and are happy we're getting married so should have the wedding we want :) after that things kind of settled into place and I'm well oon the way with planning and booking x
You do what you and h2b want and don't worry about it, gift list as well :) x
CommentAuthorlouise
my mum got married twice her first wedding was arranged by my gran everything was arranged she didnt have a say, the guests were asked to give things to help with setting up her first home the second wedding she arranged everything herself and loved her day!! but she wrote a lil verse/poem to put inside the invites which told every 1 she was starting a new chapter in her life ect and asked for any 1 who could to give a lil money instead of gifts so she could go on huni moon it was worded so nicely thou she ended up haveing over 2000 pounds cash on the day from only 60 guests and went to the airport the following morning,, maybe try wright a poem or something like that so it takeing the edge off cheeky, i personally dont like the gift lists because most of my family and friends struggle to make ends meet!!! only you know your family and friends! good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lmao, probably something along the lines of....
