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Donna - would love to leave some stuff to OH, but he's basically not getting involved until he needs to sort suits and stag do! Plus I've been using work computer to make 'dummy run' invites and intend to use their huge commercial printers to do the finals so they look better. He is just approving the wording ha ha!

Seeing my mates baby has made me all broody but we are finished building our family - will just have to pester my mates to keep having babies I can 'borrow' :-)

Oh, and we've also just sat down and produced how our ceremony will go! We've picked the introduction, declaratory and contractual vows, optional extra vows as you exchange rings, and the closing statement and conclusion! Quite enjoyed it actually! :)

Mine does have a say on quite a few things but some things he cares more about than others. Half the time he says 'do what you want, only ask what I think then do what you want anyway' haha. He's a bit dramatic at times.

They do only last 3 months but I normally get two packs at a time as i have no problems with them (been on the pill for about 4/5 years (slight variation of them at times) and I got a pack last week because I wouldn't have enough to last until my appointment, so really I have 9 months worth. Quite surreal though that well be trying for a baby before they actually run out!

I said I would be happy to stop a month or two before the wedding but then he made a good point of not being able to take full advantage of an all inclusive honeymoon if I was pregnant, so instead I'll stop about a month before hm instead :)

I wouldn't try any sooner as my dress would look awful with a bump as well, so would not want to risk showing at all

I'll probably stop 2 weeks before now actually as I'd feel guilty if I was pregnant just after and been drinking for 2 weeks. I think I could get away with my dress for a few weeks but I couldn't imagine it any other way than it does now lol. My friend got married last year at 5 months pregnant and you had to look for a while to find her bump in all fairness

Hi Vicki. You've been busy!

Donna I've posted a link on your wall of something I found, don't know if it's anything you'd be interested in

Trawled round every single jewellers in Bluewater today and found my ring today at last!

Ooh Catherine both of your rings are very similar to mine! My wedding ring is the same style but has a slight rounder dip I think from memory

Awww thanks April, they're fab :) see more of a reason to go for the sunflowers now haha


Lovely ring Catherine :) I think I'll be going for something similar.

I do that with mine too. I've had to put it in the cupboard safe from me playing with it ha.

I want them for myself but at the same time I don't wanna pay like £20/25 for 4 hangers including BMs to match. Came across the sunflowers and thought they were very fitting. I'd like to think you could get them cheaper though as it seemed a big price increase just because of the sunflowers

Tough one! It gives you a bit more security by having the extra money just incase and you could hope to book something last minute for a good deal if there's something available. Or, you could keep the caricaturist and hope nothing goes wrong that requires extra budget. Our venue package includes a resident DJ, is anything like that available to you? I don't really know the going rate for a DJ either tbh, could you get one for the money you could save if you did cancel the caricaturist? X

Good suggestions - thanks Mrs S! We don't really need a DJ as we have a ceilidh for music and dancing.. The Caricaturist was there as more a fun inbetweeny thing which was a bit different and also worked as favours for the guests. It is a nicety rather than a necessity but still! I've just gone through the budget some more and realized that we will probably have to put £100 in for transport and potentially more for our best man's suit if he can't get his military togs in time (long story) so we'd be down to barely £150 remaining in the budget should we keep him :( xx

Would be nice if he did Amanda, suppose it would depend if he's confident enough to in front of everyone at the wedding. He may warm up to it ;)

Sorry Catherine, I've not really known what ceilidh was tbh lol! Is it an all night thing or a few hours? Oh dear about the extras! What does Debbie think? Is there any other forms of entertainment that come under the price of the caricaturist, also, would you lose a deposit? X

Oh I see haha! Surprised I've not heard of it before! It's hard trying to come into extra money! I'm working part time in a bar so I know more than anyone lol. I always forget about alterations! I was quoted approx 70 upto 120 I think, then you've got two dresses to worry about! It's fun but sometimes hard this wedding malarkey! X

I love a good Ceilidh (Scottish country dancing) We always have out works Christmas night out in a massive place with Ceilidh dancing. We will be having a ceilidh section at our wedding would be rude not to seeing as everything else has a bit of Scottish in it. My Favourite is the Gay Gordons cant wait for H2b to swing my about the dance floor at our wedding :D

I have fallen in love with a pearl chain and earrings absolutely STUNNING and would go perfect with my dress down side is it costs £530 my sister says just get it OH says go swing and I really cant justify spending that much on jewellery even if it is for my wedding day ARGH why do I have such expensive taste

Haha, very true! There is a lot of excitement for our wedding because there's 2 dresses, the women are extremely excited to see them lol.
Hmmm, personally I wouldn't be paying £530 for jewellry but that's because I couldn't afford it ;) if you can, then go for it!

Well, looks like I'm back to square one with choosing a new bridesmaid now as my sister is pregnant.. and due around my wedding day. and is now arguing with me black and blue about the fact we've already said no children at the wedding..
I really don't think a wedding is a place for a newborn baby.
We've always explained to everyone it's just not something we want for our day, we've made the acception to have them for the evening do but not for the ceremony and sit down meal as a) we can't afford it and b) we want a nice quiet ceremony and meal and then a lovely lively evening do!
She seems to think because she's my sister she has special rights on our big day which is probably a bit true but I'm not going to have one rule for her and another for the rest of our family and friends. I already changed my ideal bridesmaid dress because she wasn't happy with it and she's now not going to be wearing it! But this is something I really don't want to change.
And I know, I'm supposed to be excited to become an auntie and I probably am somewhere deep down inside but at the moment I'm just feeling annoyed at the money I've wasted on her becoming a bridesmaid and upset at the fact my parents and my sister think that all of a sudden I have to change my special day that I've been planning for over a year to yet again satisfy her!
Someone close to our family said to me "When you've got a cheeseburger she wants a double cheeseburger" and I can't actually agree more. I'm happy for her if it's what she wants so why can't she respect our decision to have no children at our wedding ceremony and breakfast. It's not a long time, maybe 4 hours tops? >.< I
In an ideal world my sister would understand why we've asked for no children at the ceremony and breakfast but she's not that kind of person and I don't think we're going to reach an agreement on this so I genuinely think my sister's not going to be at my wedding now which is disappointing.

I'm sorry to rant and I know most of you will disagree because you're mainly all very family orientated but I'm just so upset, I've always had this vision for my wedding day and now she's walking all over it and changing the plans like it's her big day.

I agree with Catherine, I could never ever imagine leaving my daughter as a newborn like Catherine said is the baby's food source , and if you try and introduce a bottle to soon then they get confused as its very different on a Nipple and a plastic teat (even the ultra natural ones) are very different.) I did not leave my daughter till she was at least 3 months and that was very short period, when she had started taking the odd bottle.
I know its your day, but this is her baby which needs her, very young baby's sleep allot of the time anyway and won't be running around and won't cost you anything. Maybe ask your venue if there could be a nice room made. Avalible with a nice comfy sofa/arm chair for your sister if baby gets a bit cryie and for her to feed it. This baby is your neice /nephew for the rest of your life, the wedding I'd only one day.

Don't blame them Catherine, I'd be excited to see them too!

That's brilliant Christina, had no idea they could do that!

I see where you're coming from MattsBride. You've already had to compromise the bridesmaids dress to suit her and now she can't even wear it. She couldn't possibly be a bridesmaids that close to the wedding surely. Maybe a few weeks before/after but being that close, the dress would either have to be huge to fit a 9m bump, or it would need to be normal size with room for baby weight if she'd already had it, but then she'd want to be with her baby anyway!

It does depend though in terms of the baby going to the wedding providing it had already even born. Does she actually want to breastfeed or is she planning on bottle all the way? It's fair enough us saying your sister is the baby's food sources but if she chooses bottle, anyone can feed the baby, meaning she could perhaps find a babysitter. But then sgain, with a newborn, she may only want to go to the evening. I think she'll take it a bit more seriously the further she gets in her pregnancy, although that doesn't help you right now :/

Mattsbride, I am really surprised that you wouldn't want your own niece or nephew at your wedding but especially not at the expense of your sister. Our wedding is no kids but i wouldn't care what state my sister was in pregnant a new mum whatever there is no way she wouldn't be at my wedding. I can understand that she might not be able to be bridesmaid anymore and I would be really sad about it not banning her from bringing her newborn. I know everyone is different but I think maybe you should put things into perspective. I am sure if the baby was starting to cry they could take her outside or your sisters OH could stay outside of the ceremony room for the duration while your sister watches you get married? I think you need to calm down and work things out with her logically explain why she can't be a bridesmaid. but i would really think carefully before saying her/the baby are uninvited.

Mattsbride, I would like to say I don't think people should be saying that you should uninvite your sister because of the baby, as people don't understand everyone elses relationships with their siblings and just because some people could not imagine not having their sisters and sisters kids at their weddings doesn't mean that everyone is that close to their families... However, I am slightly confused as you were obviously close enough for you to ask her to be bridesmaid.

If I were you I would sit down and really think about whether you are happy for your sister not to be at your wedding, as most people would be upset about their sister not being able to be a bridesmaid if they had wanted them to be one, never mind them then not being able to come to the wedding at all.

But at the end of the day, once you have really thought it through then just do what you think it best for your day.

if you go to a good cake maker, show them the different things you like from the different ones and they should be able to incorporate them for you

Will your fiancé's boss not be able to do it if you just show him the different aspects of what you want?

I cant understand your thinking Matts brides (not saying its wrong) If my sister was to turn round and tell me she was pregnant I would be getting her a maternity BM dress and her baby would be at my wedding (I am extremely close to my sister though).

The only kids at our wedding are our DS His best friend who is my best friends girl and our 3 nephews (If SIL takes them) no other children will be invited I know people are going to moan that my friends kid is there but she is going for Connor as its his day too.

I think you should wait until your sister 12 week scan and see what her EDD is you never know what is going to happen in pregnancy and she may or may not be further on than she thinks, at the end of the day its your decision but think about how you will feel in a few years time looking back and your sister and/or her baby weren't at your special day.

If my sister hadn't invited our DS to her wedding I wouldn't be going either he will be 6 and a half by the time she gets married again they only have 3 kids going to their wedding, (That said she is very close to her nephew and wouldn't get married without him there)

I think people will make exception to the fact your sisters baby is at your wedding and not complain about it in any way after all she is your sister.

April Ive posted a link on your wall not sure if its what your looking for but maybe worth a shot. I just typed in Wedding cake builder into the search site

Thanks Elizabeth. Its the right kind of thing i was after but I tried that one earlier and it just let's you choose from the designs they give you.

I think the only thing you can really do atm MattsBride is wait for her scan and use that time to cool off a little as previously mentioned.