Right we only have just over 5 weeks to go and we had originally booked the caterer for an estimated 125-150 people
There were a lot of friends I could not invite as I am from a large family and so they took a lot of our numbers.
Well I have only just got most of my rsvps back but not all though I did say too people by the end of June, though at least a couple of the once not responded yet have given good reasons (trying to sort child care/transport for the day).
Also at the last minute a large number of my family have said they can not make it, this has wound me up because I told them all about the wedding over a year ago, yes they only got the invites in April but this is because I only got their addresses then and some still have not given me their addresses so I am counting them as not coming now as it is getting ridiculous. The way they were all talking when I told them about the wedding they all were looking like they were coming but now from the over 40 of just my family invited only 11 (inc kids) have said yes are coming!!
I really feel let down as I could of invited more of mine & my partners friends not to mention the fact that my partner is not from a large family and though we invited his 3 3rd cousins that he is close to there were other's of his family and family friends we could of invited but didn't as I stupidly wanted my siblings,aunts and cousins there.
So far have 101 who have said yes, but I think there could be between 87-113 (which including children) and I am hoping from my estimates there will be a minimum of 82 adults.
I only booked the venue we booked which can fit up to 150 because my mum was so insistent that we needed some where bigger for all the guests
CommentAuthorAmyK
It's not too late to invite others to take their places - friends will understand :-)
CommentAuthorLisaC624
Why not invite some of the friends that you would've liked to invite but couldn't? Not just to fill up the numbers, but so you know your day is spent surrounded by those you love most
xx
CommentAuthorLisaC624
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I agree with Amy. Five weeks is still acceptabe notice (personal opinion!) x
CommentAuthorCat
hum, I have just spoken to my H2B and I have to admit that though we invited a good chunk of our mutual friends I had been pretty mean with the number of his friends we had invited as I had invited all my work friends, so I have told him he can pretty much go mad and invite a load of them and hopefully they understand (especially as some of them are my friends as well), I have even told him he can blame me :)
My family did the same thing; at first they were all like " oh yeah we can't wait to go to the wedding next year and it will be so great and bla bla bla " then when the RSVP day came, only 2 of 10 actually rsvp'd yes! People are so flaky and don't realise that big decision like venue etc are based on their promises to show. I now have a slew of rooms free at my little hotel that I have to cover, as I made sure to pick a hotel for our venue so all my family could stay over -_- Hope it works out for you, sounds like your OH will be happier with a few more guests hehe xx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I invited some more peeps just 3 weeks before the wedding as huuby's Aunt and uncle said they could not come. The ones that have not replied, is there any way you can get hold of them and say if you have not heard by the end of the week you shall take it they are not coming. They have had plenty of time to say yes or no even with the invites going out in April.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorBecky1608
Sorry to hear that people are dropping out. I agree with the others that it's not too late to invite other friends xxx
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CommentAuthorGemmaT13
did you not give a cut off date for rsvp? if not spread the word through you family you need them back asap so you can invites close friends who have missed out. people don't realise how important it is to get them back. Get on their case and if they don't reply tough luck fill their space. Its your day (ands hubby to be) it will end up a perfect day no matter what!
Sorry to hear people are letting you down. I agree to invite some more friends. I'm sure they will understand the circumstances.
This is what I'm dreading when I start the invites. I know for a fact certain people will let me down
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Invite friends! Theyll understand and be up for a good knees up!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorFinally Susan B
I agree it's so frustrating. One of the thing's I would do differently is invite people I WANT rather than those I felt I should have there! Loads of the 'should haves' let me down, at late notice. We only had 50 people to the day so when I had 8 let me down in the last 2 weeks it felt huge. I invited friends (even during the last week before wedding!) It felt embarrassing to invite people at such late notice - but really glad I did - they all came and we had a much better time surrounded by the people that I really wanted there x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hun we bumped people up from the evening to the day when we were letdown ...3DAYS before hand and they were delighted to spend the day with us so inviting people 5 weeks before is totally acceptable
This is what is making me think I should just give day invites to every single person I want to and hope that enough drop out to fit budget haha I understand your frustration, I am in the same situation where we both have such big families that we are very restricted on friends and my plan is to bump people up from my 'wish list'
