I have family members who are constantly negative about our wedding ideas....

How do i enter this competition

Hi I would tell them it's what you want it's your day after all, we had a little of that but we told them it's happening the way we want it , if they don't like then tough :)

I've been quite lucky as not had to experience this but then I'm not really inviting much family. Go with what you want Hun it's your day xx

do what i've done.... kindly remind them it's you're wedding day. if they've already been married they should have done it at theirs. also, remind them if they were paying for the wedding then they could have an input 😊

Just remember that it's your day and it's what you want. It's a dream day so you go for what you want. They can always make there own way in. That's how I see it! Good luck xx

I wouldn't tell them anything I learnt that with my wedding and just put it on the invite it's you and your partners day after all and u been generous offering a bus there is suffice to say the least because we didn't xx

I think it is very generous of you to provide your guests with transport. If they don't want to use it then they don't have to. Have they never heard of a taxi?

It's usual to provide transport both ways, if there's transport at all, so that's that solved!

But if u put on a bus and no one uses it coz they can't get back and they all decide to drive instead no offence u have only given part of a story what if your venue is in the middle of no where and it's going to cost a bomb for people to get back it's your day but not everyone wants to spend a fortune to attend it costs a lot of people travel there and back an outfit and a presents and money for drinks

It's hard but basically ignore them and rise above it - when people turn a happy time into a negative thing it's their own stupid insecurities/jealousy/selfishness !! Some people can't bare other people having the spotlight or happy things happen !

If they don't like it they don't have to come. I've ended up saying that to my Grandma. It soon made her stop being negative

Get a taxi

I ignored anyone like that! It's your wedding, not theirs! You don't need negative people when you have wedding stress. Carry on with your plans and if they don't like it then tough! Maybe they'll eventually realise that their opinion doesn't matter! It's harsh to say but you can't worry about everyone else when you're planning a wedding. It's a one day event that should be what you want!

I'm struggling with similar problems. When I told my mum I was getting married on a Friday she looked disgusted and said well I don't even know if I can get the day off work. -its over a year away!!
Just do what you want for your big day, everyone has different tastes and visions but it isn't their day!

You will find this problem whatever you decide you can't please everyone family tend to be more of a problem than friends as we choose our friends lol

I would say if u don't wanna get on bus make there own way there and back I sure they will change there tune

I'd stop involving them on your plans and if they moan say that you were fed up of the negative comments. It's yours and your partners day, no one else's. I didn't ask for opinions. We knew what we wanted and we went with it. Understand your pain though with family thinking it's about them, been there but we stuck to our guns. If there's one day when you put your feelings and wants before other it's definitely ok your wedding day xxx

Don't discuss it with them. If they ask how's the wedding planning just say 'great' and don't say any more if they persist then say 'I don't want to ruin the surprises'. You can always get a local taxi firms cards on hand. Maybe if you rang and explained they may offer a discount or something.

My mum was like that. So I'm no longer telling her my ideas. I run things past my matron of honour.

Remember it's your day no one else's. If they do not like it they can always not come or drive themselves there

Why hire anything for them? Let guests get to reception under their own steam. Especially if they have that attitude.
Maybe they can get a room.at reception venue and drive home next day. That's what we are doing for my sons wedding next year

I've just ignored it and got on with it. My dad's not happy with the idea because he doesn't approve of my groom but apart from him I've not really had any negative people. Just ignore it or say to them, look it's not about you, it's our day, it's about us. And get on with it. If they don't like it well then tough.

I'd stop sharing your ideas with others - don't let anyone get you down and potentially put you off your own ideas! Do what you want to do and don't let them get in your head, it's your day! 🙂

Directly told people its their problem not mine.... my wedding and have enough to think about

Or uninvite them
If it's such a problem I don't know why these days people think they have a choice in someone else's big day I think don't like the choices then
Don't go simple! X

Just keep all ur ideas to a few people that way u won't have too much negativity and interference xx

You can provide it as an option. If there not planning on getting a taxi home later they could drive the the venue from the ceremony but it's a lovely offer for those that appreciate it!

Just don't tell them your ideas, let it all be a nice surprise for them on the day and they will enjoy it

We had a vintage bus it was amazing!! It's people's own responsibility to get home if you weren't supplying the bus how would they get around??? So you have saved them half a taxi fare they just have to get home let them deal with it good luck and have fun xxx

Of course it's "your day" and all couples have their own ideas that sometimes family members aren't so keen on, and they could express that better at times. But give and take is always good - it's actually a big day for all the family too, and sometimes having the goodwill of those in your wider family circle is better than getting to Bridezilla level.

Been there done that, had family members suggest that we should choose a different date in a different year because it suited them better!! We stuck to the things that mattered to us but tried to accommodate the other ideas/ concerns. No one had massive tantrums and the day went quite smoothly. Also remember to be kind in your responses but firm if you think you will end up taking on more jobs. So for example with the bus situation you could say something like.... "We thought you might like it but if you are happy to make your own way there then please don't feel obliged to use it. Or suggest "Maybe think about organising amongst yourselves to share lifts home." Sometimes people don't realise you are trying to do something lovely for them until you point it out!! Be careful else you will end up running lots of extra jobs in order to accommodate their negativity!! Reading a brilliant book about Boundary setting by Dr Henry Cloud, wish I had read it years ago!!!

I feel exactly the same! My wedding is the first week in Oct and people are always talking about how bad the weather could be, THINK POSITIVE PEOPLE! Then there is the whole asking people to do things for you and they either refuse, don't get back to you or don't do it at all. I just want people to be excited and want to be part of this special day. I struggle mentally and feel I have made a very bad decision. Should have eloped. I'm a woman on the brink of Nice to know I'm not alone, we will get through this!!!

My nana was the same when we started planning the wedding. And when I got to the guest list she didn't like someone and said she wasn't coming.

To which I just said if you're going to be that selfish then don't come, it's our wedding we invite who we want not who everyone else thinks we should.

She soon changed her tune x

I didn't realise how unusual it was to have an uncomplicated wedding I had no issues. As others have said. Don't use it if you don't want. They can get a taxi both ways at their own expense.