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UKbride Member Request 19 Aug 2017

My fiance and I had booked a venue and planned to get married October 2018...

My fiance and I had booked a venue and planned to get married October 2018 with a traditional wedding. We are a lesbian couple and my partners family have been nothing but hassle as they don't agree and would rather us do it quietly. We cancelled the venue and now everything feels ruined. Advice?

10 Comments
Nicola Jones
Nicola Jones 19 Aug 2017

It's your day- do it your way. Do not compromise for other people. If you want all the bells and whitsles then go for it - you'll regret it if you don't. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Aug 2017

Do it your way! Me and my wife had this problem too so we decided to do the whole thing in secret we told no one except our two witnesses, we got married then when on a cruise around the Caribbean the next day and told our family's when we got home, we planned a reception a month after but by then we were married so we didn't care about the problems anymore and all our friends and family that wanted to be there came and celebrated with us, it was amazing and I wouldn't change a thing, x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Aug 2017

Do what you want!! It's your day!!!! If they don't like it stuff them!!! Good luck to both of you!!! X X X z

Rachel Lee
Rachel Lee 19 Aug 2017

Don't listen to them, you're lucky to find your soul mate , it doesn't matter what gender they are xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Aug 2017

Book it an dont invite them .. it's between you 2 not your family

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2017

Its your special day don't let people ruin it for you. You both deserve the best. if they can't celebrate your both your happiness then they shouldn't be invited. Clearly they have issue's so will only spoil your day anyway. Their loss xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Aug 2017

Completely ignore them and have the wedding you want. If they don't like it they are free to decline the invitation. My sister is gay and if she gets married wht shouldn't she have the wedding she wants, just like everyone else.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Aug 2017

Do it the way you want! Why should you hide away and "do it quietly "!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Aug 2017

We are a husband and husband wedding planning/coordination team and we're sorry to hear that you've encountered some difficulties. We would recommend you have your wedding day exactly how you want - if they don't want to come then it says a lot about them but the most important thing is that you enjoy your own wedding day. Please feel free to message us if you need any further advice. Happy to help.

Elizabeth Nelli Moors
Elizabeth Moors 25 Aug 2017

such a shame you had to cancel, but its your wedding! you need to do whats best for you both. xx

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