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UKbride Member Request 17 Aug 2017

Due to family issue I am no longer looking forward to my wedding and can't...

Due to family issue I am no longer looking forward to my wedding and can't seem to relax. Can anyone recommend anything they have done to relax and/or get past the feeling of dread?

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 17 Aug 2017

Hi I have had a person causing an issue but she is no longer attending so the feeling of dread has gone :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

if you're able to, id remove the issue! and also go for a spa day and relax. it shouldnt be causing you stress! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Get rid of all.the negative people who are causing you to feel.this way. You don't need them. If you can treat yourself to.me time and relax as much as posdible.
You are going to.be a magical bride marrying your prince and your day WILL be wonderful

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Snap. Me and partner are both the same at the moment. We dont know what to do for the best!! We have halved the issues by not inviting certain people. But we still have a major worry over other things x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Remove the issue and enjoy your day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

It is your wedding only invite the people you want to be there. we ended up uninviting my husbands mother, stepfather and half brother and sisters the day before. Dont pander to anyone it is your day! xx

Jade Rees
Jade Rees 17 Aug 2017

I had to cut bridesmaids and felt sick and thought they wouldn't understand but I found out after telling them that real friends are happy to be a part of your wedding no matter what. They totally understood so for 3 weeks I felt rubbish about my wedding building up the courage to tell them for nothing really . So I say look at what's bothering you and find a solution. J now am feeling excited again x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

We are going abroad due to family issues, i am now looking forward to it again

Kimberley Davis
Kimberley Davis 17 Aug 2017

They've all decided they are not coming but I'm still getting abussive grief from my sister but she's doing through my mum x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Watch you tube videos of people saying their vows and it'll help remind you of why you are getting married and get you excited to say those vows in front of those you care most about xx

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UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Remember it's about you and your husband to be sod everyone else x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Aww bless you. Everyone has problems, usually other people's making & nothing ever goes 100% to plan. There is just one thing to remember, Yes, you want your invited guests to attend and be happy and entertained but it isn't just a big party, it is your wedding day. The day is about you marrying your true love. It's a simple as that. Things will all come together and the day will fly by so fast you will probably feel in a whirlwind and quite exhausted the following day. Enjoy.

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UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Cut contact if people keep sending abuse - walk away from it your new life awaits ! F the haters they aren't worth it x

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UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

I was incredibly stressed before my wedding but I had a spa day as part of my hen do, it was perfect. Even if you just go with one very close friend do it a week or so before the wedding and it really helps. Also having my dress fitting the month before helped, I put my dress on and all the stress went because it reminded me that nothing else matters apart from that I was marrying the man of my dreams. I got married last week and it was the best day of my life, now coming to the end of our amazing honeymoon and it's been perfect. Don't let anyone ruin your day, you only get one wedding day and all thay mattets is you and your hubby to be xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

If people are causing issues in the run up, even if it is family, they aren't worth it. You need to remember the main point of the day is to commit yourself to your partner for the rest of your life. I know it is easier said than done, but just try to surround yourself with the people who are genuinely happy for the both if you and try to forget about the people who are too selfish to care.

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 17 Aug 2017

I think I would be getting rid of anyone that was causing me issues x

Cam D'espagnac
Cam D'espagnac 17 Aug 2017

I got chicken pox 11 days before my wedding day (at 31 years old!) and my make up artist was saying if I didn't clear that she wouldn't be able to come (she'd not had the pox and she was also doing the make up for two pregnant brides the following week), also had major stress with a family member. Because of the pox, one of my bridesmaids had to pull out because her mum was very ill in hospital, (totally understandable) and another friend stepped into her place. Do you know what? 2 days before, my pox scabbed over so I was no longer contagious (so my make up artist could come), I got over the family drama and my understudy bridesmaid did the most amazing job!
On the day, nothing mattered and the same will happen to you.
Like others have mentioned, a spa day might be good (although don't get chicken pox - they cancelled mine 😂). Otherwise there's an app called digipill which is a mindful app. It's great at making you fall asleep. Try to relax and enjoy it - you'll only do it once 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Talk to your partner and or the person who's causing the issue. Be completely frank and open to all solutions. If there's really no talking to them uninvite them, with security if you need to. You and your partner enjoying the day matter more than anyone else enjoying it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Why does someone always feel the need to cause issues. Weddings are stressful enough without it! People who don't respect your wishes don't deserve you as family!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Aug 2017

Yessss stop them from going :) sorted all my issues and stress thank god xxx

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 18 Aug 2017

Oh bless you , that's hard. Either a back massage or head massage ,
Locate an aromatherapy sleep cream or oil to aid sleep at night ,
An app with a log fire crackling to help you switch off all the swirling thoughts going around in your head ,
A walk in countryside as exercise releases endorphins .....
Take care of yourself & warm wishes for a special day ..... (((( ❤️ ))))
Love Sarah

Samantha A
Samantha A 18 Aug 2017

I agree with lucy. We had several family issues and one or two friends and we have just cut them out. The feeling of freedom and relief has been amazing. But pampering yourself with good people is just a bonus

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Aug 2017

I watched "I know who you are" on BBC I player, it's a who done it drama, all in Spanish with subtitles. So you can't use your phone or anything while it's on. It stopped me thinking about the wedding & really chilled me out

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Aug 2017

Weekend break with your future spouse. The two of you are the only ones who matter

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