UKbride Member Request 8 Aug 2017

Hi all starting to get really stressed out now two of my bridesmaids have...

Hi all starting to get really stressed out now two of my bridesmaids have stated they really dont like each other and have started calling the other behind their backs to me im getting it from both sides and its really starting to get to me now. What can i do to help the situation as i dont want amy trouble with either of them. Thankyou

Ellen Blossom
Ellen Blossom 8 Aug 2017

Maybe try and sitting with them, and voice how all this tension is making you feel. No matter their opinions on each other if they care for you it will get put to one side for your special day. Hope this is helpful and you get is resolved!! Xx

Julianne Heffernan
Julie Heffernan 8 Aug 2017

I agree with ellen, sit down with them both and iron out any issues. If that fails, sack them off. X

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 8 Aug 2017

I agree with the others about sitting them down but I think if they can't resolve it I wouldn't have either as bridesmaid as it's going to spoilt it for you. When I was my best friends bridesmaid, her other best friend was awful and I just don't get on with her but I never let it show the whole time as it wasn't my friends fault. Funny now though as my best friend and her no longer get on and she regrets having her as a bridesmaid as she was a cow to everyone! X

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 8 Aug 2017

HI do as the others have said and if you can resolve it if not you may have to do without them as bridesmaids good luck :)

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 8 Aug 2017

Agree with the others about sitting them down and talking to them. I'm afraid I would be telling them "Shape up or ship out".

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I agree with the other comments - they either need to make up, shake hands and forget about it or they both need to forget being your bridesmaids - it's all about you and your htb on your wedding day, you shouldn't be worrying about your bm's arguing and bitching!! They should be there to support you - so I would give them the choice, be civil and support me or there's the door!! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Aug 2017

Call Jeremy Kyle :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Aug 2017

Get rid of them both if they can't grow up and behave

Lauren Dakin
Lauren Dakin 9 Aug 2017

I'd send them both packing, this is your special occasion! If they can't put their petty differences aside and see how lucky they are to have been chosen to be a part of your big day, then cut them loose. It's their loss, not yours.

Emma Richardson
Emma Richardson 9 Aug 2017

Tell them to stop bitching or the can get lost, you can't let them ruin your day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Aug 2017

Agreed sit down with each of the individually and found out what each of their problems are. Then get them together and see if it can be resolved. Failing that tell them that you appreciate they don't like each other but you like both of them so if they want to stay bridesmaids they need to sort their behaviour out and stop bitching xx


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