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UKbride Member Request 8 Aug 2017

I'm getting married next year. I brought my dress not long ago, and I had a...

I'm getting married next year. I brought my dress not long ago, and I had a member of my bridal party take a photo of me in the dress. I keep looking at the picture and I'm beginning to not like the dress (too late now as I've brought it and wouldn't be able to change the dress).. I remember it being perfect on, I'm self conscious and it actually made me feel amazing, was so in love with it, now seeing the picture it's making me feel confused. Is it normal to have doubts? (The bridal party have seen the picture and have all said the picture doesn't do it justice, one even said it looked horrible on the picture and she absolutely loved it on, so I'm not sure if it is just the picture) I've got a fitting in a few months so I will see how I feel then, just thought I'd see if anyone had advice, or if anyone had experienced this etc, TIA xxx

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Maria Bjorn
Maria Bjorn 8 Aug 2017

Pictures never do the dress justice so I wouldn't worry too much! Colours can be off and the camera can even distort the proportions. And you definitely lose lots of detail as well!

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I'd say completely normal.. I don't love the pics of me in my dress but I was so happy IN it. I'm sure at your fitting you'll feel the same way you did when you bought it so try not to panic!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I'm sure when you go for your fitting you will remember how much you loved it when you first tried it on. You wouldn't have chosen it if you didn't feel amazing and I'm sure that will come back to you again. I bought mine a few days ago and already I think the pictures aren't doing it justice! But I remember feeling amazing when it was on so that's what I'm holding on to

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Photos never look the same, I personally would delete the photo and stop keep looking at it and just wait till your fitting so that you can remember how great you felt in the dress :) hopefully the feeling will come back when you are wearing it again

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I was just the same, my dress shop have been lovely and have let me revisit to try my dress on. It really did help to remind me that the dress is my dress. I never look great in pictures. Seeing the dress in person, especially when it's your dress (not a sample one) will help

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I bought mine 2years before and wished I hadn't and had doubts but when I tried it on for fittings etc I knew it was what I wanted xx

Tabitha Hirt
Tabitha Hirt 8 Aug 2017

I brought mine nearly 2 years before the wedding - I had no pictures but right up until the day I regretted it and wishes I'd gone for a normal ivory colour. I even asked if I could change it the day before my wedding. I put it on, on the day of the wedding and loved it and remembered why I'd chosen it! Ask the shop for a fitting now to make sure, I'm sure they will let you xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I had this....bought my dress wayyyy too early but I couldn't resist. 1 year later id lost nearly 3 stone and the dress looked hideous. Obviously way too big for me but I secretly wanted another dress but knew I would never be able to afford another one. I knew there was a reason I bought it as I loved it when I put it on. I payed £60 to get get it altered and I absolutely loved it on the day. Xxx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

You need to try it on again I felt the same way and then when I went back it was perfect!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Yes I did, and completely normal the camera makes it look different than the mirror when you try your dress on and on my wedding day I felt amazing in my dress x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I wouldn't worry too much as my maid of honour didn't really like my dress when she seen a picture, once she seen it on then she really liked it. Photos never does your dress any justice. My advice is to delete the picture and when you have your fitting again hopefully you will get the same feeling and love the dress like you did before x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I felt the same after shortly getting my dress and seeing other really pretty dresses but once you go for your fitting you'll remember how much you love it! Just try not to look at the picture anymore lol I know it's hard I look at mine every now and then!

Kim Louise Taylor
Kim Louise Taylor 8 Aug 2017

When I bought mine i asked my bridesmaid to take a picture of me in it and every time I looked back at it I hated it. I hated the way I looked in it. But I was wearing leggings underneath, I was carrying a bit more weight, my hair and make up wasn't done, the lighting was horrible and so was the angle of the photo plus the dress hadn't been altered to fit me. I asked could I go back and try it on again as I was having second thoughts. When I went back I loved it and I deleted the photos my bridesmaid took of me. I'm sure you will look amazing on the day xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I was the same but on my big day I felt like a princess it was everything I wanted and all my guest said they couldn't of picked a better dress for me xx

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I had doubts but when it got to the day I loved my dress so much and so did everyone else! It's a massive part of the day so you will have these thoughts! You must have loved it in the first place to buy it? That's what I kept reminding myself!

Siobhan Ireland
Siobhan Ireland 8 Aug 2017

I felt like this. But when I seen myself in the dress again I fell in love all over again ☺️ xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I felt exactly the same, to the point I was viewing other dresses just 3 weeks before the wedding! Delete the picture and just focus on the feeling your dress gave you when you first tried it on x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I did exactly the same thing. Bought my dress a year before and hated it wanted to change it but in the end i wore it and it didnt matter. I loved it. Try the dress on again and see how you feel in it. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I felt the same when I first put it on I loved it didn't want another dress then I stressed myself out it wasn't me at all it was too big for a non church wedding (princess style!) Then my last fitting 2 weeks before the wedding put it on with veil and everything and I just loved it! I could have cried and on the day I felt amazing in it!! Trust your first instincts!

Jaki Green
Jaki Green 8 Aug 2017

Definitely sounds like the picture. See how you feel after your fitting before making any decisions x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Just ask to go and try it on again before the fittings they won't mind and it will put your mind at rest x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I do the same, I brought my dress April this year, ready for my May wedding next year, and got my mum to take a picture off me in it! And every time I look at it, I don't like it, and think it doesn't suit me! But It came in the shop a few weeks ago and I went to try it on,and fell in love with it all over again! But like everyone has said, pictures don't do it justice, I'm sure you will look great in it, and trust you first instincts!!

Lindsey Weatherburn
Lindsey Weatherburn 8 Aug 2017

I don't like one of the photos of myself in the dress bad lighting and angle didn't show off the gorgeous detail in it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

The photo I have of me trying on my dress didn't do the dress justice either, but in person it was beautiful and fitted beautifully, was much more flattering in real life than in the pic. I have just over a year until the wedding but the bridal shop said that I can book an appointment anytime I want to to go and try it on between now and then, before having the fittings closer to the day. Might be worth ringing your bridal store and asking if you can have an appointment to go and try it on sooner instead of waiting until the fittings appointment x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 8 Aug 2017

Hi try on your dress again then see how you feel :)

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Delete the photo! Don't look at the dress again, even the model photos online. Just wait until you have your first fitting and see how you feel then! I talked myself out of a dress for this very reason. I have bought a different one and keep absolutely no photos of it so I can't peek! You know what it looks like and feels like on. Just go with the memory!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Normal normal. Hated mine. Kept staring at photo. Once all the adjustments etc were made I felt slightly better but when I had it on on the actual day I loved it all over again. Trust your instincts. You loved it at the time.

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I came out of my dress appointment and completely forgot what it looked like. Then I found the dress on the designer's website and the back was really low which I hadn't remembered when I tried it on. I worried for weeks but then went to try veils on and tried the dress on again then. The back isn't too low at all and the dress is stunning!

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I have the same feeling but I'm hoping that when I go put the dress on again, I'll get the same feeling as I got when I first put it on. Delete the picture - that'll help x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I've had doubts but soon as I put my dress on I can't stop smiling! If that's how you feel when you're wearing it then that's all that matters

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I did this with a picture tried it on again and I know why I picked the dress! Ignore the picture. Remember how it made you feel. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I'm in exactly the same position. I'm unsure about my dress now when I've looked at the picture

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I done this like 100 times before my wedding , when you try it on again you will know you made the right choice x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I have experienced the same thing every time I looked at the pic of me in my dress I kept thinking I don't know after seeing lots of different ones pop up on Facebook!!i went for my first fitting last week and when I walked in the room and saw it there I fell in love with it all over again I put it on n felt amazing!!my pictures definatley don't do my dress justice at all it's just so beautiful in the flesh xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Just remember you wouldn't of brought it if it wasn't perfect for you! Once you see it again you'll feel just as amazing as you did when you first tried it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I was told not to look at the pictures of my dress. The camera doesn't pick it up properly, lighting is wrong. I would try it on again through x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I felt the same before my big day as I had a photograph taken but once your all done up on your big day you won't have any regrets as it will all come. Together and you remember why you fell in love with it :)

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I don't like the picture that was taken of me in my dress! I looked awful but I've had my fitting and loved it. X

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Nothing will make you feel insecure like your wedding dress will! I picked mine in December and looked at the pictures my mum took of me in it over and over and over. I then dreaded the first fitting in July as it had been so long since I'd picked the dress I was worried I hadn't made the right choice. The fitting didn't go to plan at all. The dress was too tight round the legs and had to be let out. It just wasn't the dress I fell in love with, the way it fit and sat on my body seemed totally different to the sample. The bridal shop remeasured me before I left (whilst I was fully clothed) and told me I'd gained 4 inches all over which upset me for weeks. I was miserable and didn't want to get married anymore. I thought I'd gained about 6lbs as I'd stopped working out due to an injury but not that much. People reassured me I hadn't changed but I just couldn't believe them. I dreaded the second fitting even more, at this point I was ready to ditch the dress and try to find another. But the dress fit like a glove. I remembered why I picked it and fell in love all over again. I've learned your dress is a work in progress, unless you buy off the rack the dress is a bit of a blank canvass and can be a bit shapeless until you have your fittings. Ultimately if your dress makes you feel your most beautiful, you can't try to hold onto that feeling with one photo. Looking at pictures builds the dress up too much in your mind or you won't be seeing it as it is in real life. I've deleted all pictures of it now so I don't keep looking at them. Doubts are totally normal. Be patient and see how you feel after fittings. If the dress then doesn't make you feel the most beautiful you've ever been in your life, I'd look into getting another. Xx

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 8 Aug 2017

Could you maybe go and try the dress on again and then you hopefully will feel better, save you worrying x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I'm glad that I have read this as I thought I was buying my dress to late! Haven't purchased it yet and getting married in may ! I thought if I bought it to early I would go off it or see something I liked more ! Told myself to buy Jan/Feb time x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Thank god its not just me that is having this issue! I definitely shouldnt have had my mum take photos. Will find out the week after next if it really is how I remember it or if it looks awful like the photos! eek! x

Laura Hallas
Laura Hallas 8 Aug 2017

Yep I did that but as soon as I put it back on I remembered how I loved it!

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I choose one dress the. After a few months felt it was wrong so went back and changed it come my wedding day I did feel good but looking back at pictures I truly think it was the wrong dress for me in some pics to me I look like a have a little
Bump going on when I didn't some pictures I don't even like cause of the way the dress is... can you go back to try it on? Can you speak to the dress shop to see if they can do anything if the dress isn't ordered in and isn't a sample they should be able to change it no prob x

Kelly McKee
Kelly McKee 8 Aug 2017

Same thing happened to me so I deleted the photo...went back and tried it on but knew then it wasn't right. When I did find 'the one' I didn't want a photo as I had tried on a same size and it was snug to say the least, had I of had a pic I would then of found fault after fault and hated it. My advice....delete the photo you have!!

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

This is exactly why I haven't got a picture of me in my dress. I love my dress, ordered it in March and I get married June 2018. My mum has a picture and I can only see it when we meet up. I would end up changing my mind because I can see my current flaws, I have a little bit of weight to lose and I was standing awkwardly. I love my dress and feel amazing in it and know it's the one. I look at the stock photo when I want to see it again for accessory ideas

Lauren Jones
Lauren Jones 8 Aug 2017

I'm the other way round - every time I have doubts I look at the photos and I'm reassured that I made the right decision :/ go try it on again, see how you feel. If you loved it first time round chances are you will again and it will set your mind at ease.

Jayne Woods
Jayne Woods 8 Aug 2017

If you don't love it. Change it xxx

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I don't have a photo of mine but I doubted it a little in case I liked another one. When I tried it back on again I fell in love all over again! Xx

Rachel Harrison
Rachel Harrison 8 Aug 2017

Same happened to me. I went and tried it again and took more pics.
First ones were just badly taken and un flattering.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I was the same looking at my photos on my phone. If you can, look at them on an iPad or laptop as mine looks completely different, you can see more of the detail and it may reassure you x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I had the same thing, unfortunately was a rushed decision with my dress - I bought too quickly I should have carried on looking. I didn't hate it but it certainly wasn't as nice as I remembered the day I bought it :-(

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

Carly-Ann Derry

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I had this massively!! I even considered buying another dress as I felt I'd made the wrong decision. Got to the fitting and fell in love again! Try not to panic x

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

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UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

I've had this too! So glad I'm not alone.
I still have a year to go and I still worry it's not the one in between fittings. Each time I try it on though I fall in love with it all over again. I've had to stop myself looking at most of the pictures I have of it because they don't do it justice.
You should definitely try it on again and see how you feel in person.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 8 Aug 2017

If you look at it often you will go off it as you are looking at it to much

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Aug 2017

I did the exact same thing with my dress and I loved it every time I put it on! Even now when I see pictures of it I get a bit self conscious and I got married in May! It's perfectly natural because it's such a huge decision but if it felt perfect on it will again, just stop looking at the picture!

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Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 9 Aug 2017

Don't make a snap decision just on a photograph as it might be the photo taken badly !!
Recently via a email photo & phone call with tailor feel like I was made to make a snap decision that I may regret = Wish & Hope you Wait til you go in & physically try it on again = Hopefully that will MAKE All the Difference !!
I have emailed the tailor back & ended up being honest with how I felt .... I am waiting til I go back in to try on again ....
Warm wishes to you for a good outcome ....

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UKbride Administrator 9 Aug 2017

Sasha Bridgman Fran Hanson see real life bride problems glad it's not just me

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UKbride Administrator 9 Aug 2017

Remember that on the day, you'll have hair, make up, accessories and a professional photographer. It's a very different experience. One place I went to didn't allow photos, when I asked why, they said it's because doubts creep in.

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 13 Aug 2017

We wasn't allowed to take photos because of the respect of the designers. So my sister snuck a photo at the most unflattering angle and makes me question it I just have to remember at both my fittings I looked greAt

UKbride Member 19 Aug 2017

I was like this - delete the photo, thats what I did, it will never look as good without your hair and make-up done, but once you have your trial and try it on after the alterations it will look amazing, and feel even better than the first time.

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