I need your help please. I had a very small budget for my wedding dress..by choice. I just didnt see the point in spending a lot of a money on a dress i would only wear once. However, i went dress shopping and found 'the' dress! It felt so right when i put it on and it gave me butterflies. But it is REALLY expensive! We can afford it but im stuck between my original 'whats the point' and my now 'im only going to do this once and i want jaws to drop' attitude. I know my fiance will love this dress and will love me im it. Please help im so torn....
Hi I think you should do what your heart is telling you good luck :)
it is the one time that you can justify spending that kind of money of a dress! You should feel the most beautiful you ever have on your wedding day. I had that exact same mentality at first ! xx
This has just happened to me too, just can't decide what to do either
I was exactly the same bought a dress I liked as second marriage wanted the experience of dress shopping as first was the same a cheap one at the time and thought it's ok nothi g .ca. change my mind I have the dress.but fell in love with one I tried o spoke to partner he said go.with your heart so I ordered the dress x follow your heart
I didnt want to spend a lot on a dress either, but fell in love with one. Luckily my mum bought it for me or i doubt i would have gotten it.x
I would go for it. I had a minimal budget for our wedding rings but fell in love with a pair that cost us triple
My partner has told me to just go for it but its such a huge amount of money. Will how i feel on the day be worth the money?? Xx
This exact thing happened to me last week ... I have been so sure for months what's the point I will only wear it once then it will just sit in my wardrobe ... i found "THE " dress ... Fiance said its only going to be once ... Just think that you don't want to think on your wedding day ... "I could have had the other dress" If it's the one ... do it! xx
I found my dress in a shop and fell in love with it then went on the Internet and found it on eBay and ordered it when I turned up it was exactly the dress and I paid £150 in the shop they wanted 2000
Go for it! If this is 'The Dress' you'll not be happy with another one xx
I felt the same way but when I tried the dress on I felt so emotional that I just had to have it. Please follow your heart you won't regret it x
Life's too short, get the dress!
Is that shop going to have a sale that the dress might be in?
I did the same thing! You're only doing this once, see if you can sell the first dress or get money back, but it's your day, if it feels amazing on you need to go for it. I did and I'm so glad, getting married in October and now I'm excited, before I was a bit "meh" and I though "oh I'll wear the dream dress if we get renewals". The I though wait, wear the dream now! xxx
Go for it ! Most places do payment plans
Do it! I had budgeted £300 for my dress, I was going to get it from eBay or something similar, went shopping for ideas fell in love with one that was £985...
H2B bought it and said that if it makes me happy I can have it and it's a justified cost that he will see me happy in it!
You hopefully only get married once so go for it! The worst thing would be to go for something else just because of cost and regret it forever. Yes, you only wear it once.. but the photos and memories last a lifetime xx
WED2B shops are all over UK they are branded dresses at discounted prices x
If you can afford it then get it. You'll regret it if you don't ❤
Ask yourself a question. Would you be happy to wear another cheaper dress at your wedding day after seeing the dress you want?
Don't put yourself in debt or under financial pressure just for a dress! Seriously he is marrying you not the dress the rest is just packaging on the day. Who ever remembers the packaging of anything? If you love it and can afford it then fine but it is so NOT about the dress. You will still be beautiful to him no matter what you wear and that's what matters. Enjoy whatever you decide you will look fab I'm sure
One of my friends had a similar issue in that she found a dress she loved but couldn't afford it. However she had the name of the dress and went online to eBay and preloved and similar sites and found someone selling the same dress unaltered for a fraction of the price. Perhaps give that a go, can't hurt to look!
Buy it. You don't want to spend your big day thinking 'I wish'. You can always dry clean it and whack it on eBay afterwards to ease the guilt
No brainer. Buy the dress! You only regret the things in life that you don't do. Don't let your wedding dress be one of them! It's the most important day of you life. Buy the dress! Tick it off your list, grab a glass to celebrate and don't think about it again, move on x
If you can afford it, do it, you (hopefully) only get married once and if you get a dress you aren't 100% happy with it will show in the photos and you will spend forever thinking I wish I had bought it.
can you cut back in other areas so you can get your dream dress? If it's not going on a credit card than I don't see a problem, I personally would never put anything on credit card and I don't even have one. Free some.cash up from other areas if you love the dress that much.
I was exactly the same, my husband told me to buy what ever I wanted as like others have said, you'll only do it once. I couldn't justify spending over £1k on a dress though so I told the shop I'd think about it. Had a look for other stockists in my area and rang them all, one had it at £800 so I arranged to go the next weekend as it was quite far away. In the mean time I got an email from the original shop saying they were having a sample sale that weekend. I emailed back with the dress name / code etc and asked if it was going to be part of the sale. The shop owner emailed back and said yes and it would be £550 (less than half price) but they couldn't reserve it. My mum took me down and we camped out an hour before the shop opened on the day of the sale, went in and one of the sales assistants recognised me and asked if I'd decided to buy the dress and went to get the paperwork. Came back with the original price of over £1k. I showed her the email from the owner and she went to ring her. She came back and said that the dress I tried on the week before had only come in that day as it was new season, I was the only person that had actually tried it on and it should definitely not be in the sale as it was last seasons dresses they were selling off but because the owner had put it in writing I could have it for £550 then they would honour it. They even steamed it before the wedding for me if you have the name of the designer and the dress name or number shop around you may find your self a bargain x
If you can afford it go for it, I was same had a budget through choice for same reasons as you but then I found my dress and there was no question about it that's the one I got xx
If you can afford and you feel amazing do it! It's one day yes, but it's you're wedding day! Feel fabulous!!!!
I couldn't justify the amount the boutiques were asking for for dresses despite oh and mum (who bought my dress as a wedding gift) saying go for it - went to wed2be and found a dress that I fell in love with and was almost an exact copy of the one I had loved in the boutique for a 1/3 of the price. It's your wedding though and if you can only see yourself in that dress and can afford it then go for it! X
Follow what your heart tells you... My opinion is if you can afford it and it feels like it's 'the one' then go for it :-) as you said, you only get to do it once X
I'm like you, don't want to spend loads on a dress.. although I haven't even started looking yet... but If you can afford it then why not?!!.. it's not everyday you get married! X
I was same, and the dress that was the one for me was more than double than I expected to pay, but it made me feel so special and made me cry, so I spoke to OH about price and he says if it made me feel way it did, then get it. I love my dress and can't wait for OH to see me in my dress
My dress cost £55.00 from Quiz , 2 months later I changed my mind . The Quiz dress will be taken up and will use it on holiday .
I went to wed2be and I honestly didn't think I would find anything as I am under 5.ft and also haven't go a lot of money . I got the most beautiful dress for £450 there dresses were beautiful I even loved the princess dress .
There is a group on Facebook called solo bridal he's a professional dress maker located in China. He makes any dress you want and has hundreds of success stories, I'm going to order mine through him x
I had this very predicament. I went with the 'I'm doing this once and he'll love it' option. I'm so glad I did and I can't wait to walk to him in it. I know I'd have regretted not buying it and it would stay on my mind. Would you decide against being with your partner knowing he was the one?
Get the dress nothing else will measure up now uve found the one and you will regret not going for it and it might even ruin ur day if u are in a dress that isn't right it will show on ur face
Let sense prevail - you will only be in the dress for a few hours . It's what's inside matters - that's all ! The day after the wedding you will be glad you didn't spend all that money !!!!
Go for it you will never get the same feeling now you have found the one. Yes it is one day but think of all the pictures that will be around you don't want to regret it. Follow your heart xx
My dress was supposed to be 1425 got it in the sample sale for 500 and it only need the length altering xxx
Its all about what you can live with for the rest of your life. If you totally blow the budget on your dress will you spend the rest of forever regretting it? On the other hand it applies the other way too. If you don't get the dress that you clearly love, and settle for second best will you regret that more in years to come? Can you possibly try some dresses on in your choosen budget and see how you feel about them? Whatever happens you need to follow your heart!
My dress in a shop was over a grand in price I found the same dress on eBay for £60 and was very happy when it arrived and it only cost me £60 to get it altered to fit everyone said how good it looked on me
If you can afford it I would go for it hun. I was.the same as you, tried a dress on and loved it but refused to pay the price for one day. Found another cheaper dress I like d but even now nearly 3 years after the wedding I still think about THE dress. x
If it's the dress then I think it would be worth it! I was exactly the same but luckily I found one that fitted my idea for a lot under budget on asos. If I had shopped around it may have been that I would have found something I liked more. And would have cost a lot more but once I found one I liked it didn't let myself dwell on it. I'm very happy with it and I am sure I will be on the day! But if it's going to niggle at you that you didn't get it then I would get it. I am currently wondering about how much to spend on the wedding rings but then these will be something we wear all or like lives!
Im going by the rule of not trying any dresses on that I can't afford, then I can't fall I love with a dress I can't have. But guessing there's no going back now. Only you can decide whether to get the dress or not.
A lot of dresses have cheaper 'dupes' or you could see if wed2be carries it ? X
Buy the dress
Set a budget and don't go over, don't try dresses on that are not within budget
Same thing happened to me. Ended up going for the one I really liked which was nearly twice the amount i'd told myself I wanted to spend!!!
I had the same opinion as yourself but when I went dress shopping I found THE dress and it was so.much more expensive than I had planned. I knew it was the dress I wanted though so I ended up buying it and I definitely did t regret it. Yes it is just for one day but it's your special day and you should feel special in your dress. And from experience when you find the one no other dress comes close. You can always sell it on afterwards to get some of your money back. X
Aww don't beat yourself up. If you can afford buy the dream dress. Have a wonderful day x
If you can afford it go for it!
i has the exact problem when i got married with about 4 hours online looking i found the exact same dress brand new for £40 just keep looking round is my advice xx
Get it. You may only get that feeling once
If you can afford it then do it ! I think the one area that should have a flexible budget is the dress, yes you will only wear it once but this is going to be the best day of your life, people argue that the whole wedding is an extravagant waste of money but if you've decided to do it then go with what makes you happiest on your special day
Go for it! I did the same and am delighted with the dress I now have
Treat yo'self! Haha you say you can afford it so why not? What will you regret more...getting a cheaper dress that you dont love and having to look at it in your photos forever more OR getting the dress that you love and feel amazing in? If you couldn't afford it then obviously I would say find something in budget but if you can afford it have it...personally I'd go for it :)
It's a bit late now but you should never try on a dress out of budget. My thinking is you should look around some more. Try and find something similar. But if you don't get that same feeling - then you will need to get the expensive one or you might regret it zxxx
If you can afford it, go for it. You only get married once, in 10 years what will you be happier about, looking and feeling as beautiful as you could or saving a bit of money that you can afford to spend? I get not wanting to spend loads on a dress you're only going to wear once, i set myself a budget of £600 for that very reason, but i was lucky enough to find "the dress" within my budget, if it had been more expensive i still would've paid it. You can't beat the feeling of finding the perfect dress, yes it's not important in the long run, but it really is an incredible feeling and for me it's the only time in my life I'm going to be dressed like a princess so I'm gonna enjoy this shit!!
Also you can get your monies worth out of the dress, I'm going for breakfast the morning after in it, I'm gonna wear it to chill in my house, might even go to the corner shop in it, who knows, who says you only have to wear it once
We had the money thing in our heads till our budget went totally out the window a couple of weeks a go and we decided we're doing this once and once only! Let's do it how we want whatever the cost as we can afford it to. Go for it Hun you want to feel amazing and if you've found it nothing else will live up to it! Xxx
Just buy it!! You can afford it...you'll regret it if you dont
Buy it. Wear it. Love it! And feel fabulous!!!!
If you can afford it go for it. You only have one wedding (hopefully) so why not feel like a million bucks xxx
Don't have any regrets! Go for it, it's the most important day of your life and you should feel special x
Maybe go to a cheaper shop like Wed2b, try on some of their lovely cheaper dresses and see how you feel. You may find that perfect cheaper dress, but if you can't find a dress and your heart keeps going back to the first more expensive dress then that's the one for you.
I want a plain cheapish dress for our beach wedding but ended up with a beautiful princess dress with 12 layers and way over budget but it was the one so I bought it and didn't regret it one bit, xx
I had exactly the same attitude as you originally, then I tried on "the one" which was ridiculously expensive, at least 4 times what I'd intended to pay! I bought it, sod it! I have no regrets. Would you want to look back on your day and wish you'd had the expensive dress?! You won't regret looking exactly how you wanted to look on your wedding day! Good luck with your decision x
If you can afford it then just get it
If you can afford it do it!! I was exactly the same.... until I saw THE dress! It's a once in a lifetime thing xx
Buy it! Buy it! Buy it!!! x
Sell it when your done and make back some of the money
If you love it, buy it!! This is a one time opportunity. You'll never feel as special or beautiful aa you do on your wedding day. Don't hold back on something you love. It's worth every penny!
Do it .. if it makes you feel good and you love ot so mich do it because otherwise youll wish you had .. i was the same .. and i went for the dress i wanted and i loved it wouldnt change it xx
Go for it!!!
I was lucky with my dress. No one expected mine as normally I'm very plain and it had colour in it. Maybe look around as it might be cheaper some where else. But honestly if it's the one more than likely not other one is going to compare
Get it! x
I say go shopping again, it is not the only dress in the world that you will look fab in and there is every chance you will make jaws drop within your budget, stick to your guns X. Good luck
I always said I wouldn't spend a fortune on my dress however when you find "The dress" that totally goes out of the window, the dress I've ended up with is expensive but I only intend getting married once and it makes me feel amazing, it's ur big day, just do it
YOLO - you only live once. Do whatever makes YOU the happiest!
I had the same problem, just couldn't justify spending that money on a dress when I knew it was only going to be for 1 day and we were saving for a house deposit. BUT REMEMBER!! It is just one day, the dresses look ALOT different when you have them on in the fancy dress shops (they're longer so you stand on a platform and I've been in shops that the mirrors make you look thinner). Long story short, I found a very similar dress from the same designer (worn once of course) on gumtree and then just paid £120 to get it perfectly altered. Cost me £650 altogether instead of £2200. I'd suggest to have a look around first. I'm now having my dress dry cleaned and I'm going to sell it again
Hopefully you will only marry once so go for it, you will probably regret it if you don't especially if it makes you feel that special no other dress will compare x
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Get the dress!!!! So what is you only wear it once! Xx
Always follow your heart.. money comes and goes.. think about how you feel in your twilight years when you think back upon your wedding dress.. don't risk regret
Sometimes you just have to say "fuck it"
I had the exact same feeling the dress was 2.5k! I only wanted to spend 800. I actually kept trying g to find another... The best thing is I found one just as lovely feels just as special I'm adding a bolero to make it very similar to the shape I found came with a tiara and a half price viel. My whole outfit Inc shoes is going to be 900!!! I feel just as special in it. Keep trying and go to the bridal outlets or look at sales racks :) x x
Go for it... you may only regret it if you don't x
Please get the dress you fell in love with I have always regretted not doing so when I married xx don't go regretting the dress as you won't love your day and you will always ask why did I not do xxx
Go with your heart otherwise you'll always regret it
Get it if you can afford it I felt the same until I put on the dress I have chosen I can't imagine wearing anything else now!
Buy the dress!! X
Youll not think that way for your second wedding
I would see if you can either find that dress on ebay or second hand. I agree with your sentiment, I won't be buying an expensive dress, but I plan on going and trying dresses on to find what suits me, and then finding one online to make it cheaper. Hope this helps and you find your dream dress at your price
you must have the dress you want , how much is the dress you want why dont you do bootsale to raise the money
I would be buying it if I could afford it. It's only once but I agree about looking about, if you can 'the' dress for a bit less why not x
You could probably sell it after for not too much less than you paid for it.
Try finding it as a sample dress. My dress was £1700 but I got it for £699 as I travelled 2 and a half hours to a shop that had it as a sample dress
The fact that you tried it on says it all to me. They always say not to try on what you can't afford but you can afford it and you did try it on. Go for it.
I was EXACTLY the same. So I did exactly what I set out to do!
I found my dream dress; it was £1625. I just didn't see the point in paying it but it was DEFINITELY "the one". So even though it was brand new SS17 season, I shopped around sample sales along the country online. I found the dress in a store 300 miles away for £650!!!
So I got the best of both worlds
When I found "the one" in the shop, it fit perfect so I asked if it would be possible to buy the sample dress that I tried on rather than them ordering in a brand new one. They said yes that's fine but there was 3 stones missing from it. Couldn't even tell, I still couldn't point them out now! They knocked around £300 off it. It was a Mori Lee, supposed to be 1200. Always worth a try. And they still offered alterations on it too. Xx
When I found mine in the shop it was £900. I looked online and found the same dress £700 cheaper. I used jjshouse. It fit the same.
I purchased a sample dress from a bridal sale shop there wasn't a single mark on it was a size too big but with bust and length alterations you would never know. My parents paid around £700 but it was a mori Lee which should have retailed at £1000
Id follow your heart, go with the 'one'!
You can always sell it afterwards to recoup some of the money or not sure if still tradition but people used to get them turned into christening gowns?!
Not sure what you're budget is , I just brought one from Dorothy Perkins £150 mines a tea length one , but they had long ones , it was the same as on I had tried on in a shop that was £600 , they offer free delivery and returns
GET THE DRESS LASS!!! 'your only gonna do it once' xxxx
You will regret it if you don't
Ask you self "in years to come will I regret having THAT dress or will I regret spending THAT amount of money"
if its the one its the one! maybe look online see if you find it cheaper elsewhere sometimes it pays to shop around another shop may sell it cheaper so its worth a look :)
If you can afford it. Buy the dress! It's your day, once only ! Go for it x
Buy the dress!! This is my 3rd, yes 3rd time of tying the knot! I am an older bride this time and I never gave myself a budget for my dress I decided that whatever "the" dress cost if that's the one then that's the one. (It's turned out to be the most expensive dress in the shop, but I'm paying it off monthly) I think my point is this, no matter if it's your 1st (and hopefully only) wedding or your 3rd/4th/5th, it's your day and every bride want a to feel like a princess. Most shops do a payment scheme. Good luck and enjoy your dress, you'll look stunning 😊
I am sure where you are located but have you considered searching for a bridal dress warehouse. I live in the north west close to Stockport and my mum discovered a huge warehouse.
We went to have a nosey these dresses have only been worn once mainly for bridal magazine modelling purposes, I found a style I had my heart set on the lady told me RRP was £2500 brand new, this was £300 only worn for an hour!
It is something to consider, however everyone is different it's if you would want brand new.
Hope this helps :)
I had a set idea on the dress I wanted but they were all above my budget then I found a dress that was amazing at the back fit perfectly but wasn't quite as I wanted at front but was within my budget. I bought it and had the neckline altered and customised and now I have the most amazing gorgeous dress that I know is one of a kind and was low in cost.
If you really love the dress and can afford it then go for it as you only do this once. I would suggest trying more dresses on that are within your original budget to see if any make you feel the same way. If they don't then go for the one you love.
I was lucky enough to buy the dress but I did make savings on flowers went for faux flowers with brooches at a fraction of the price and bm dresses from tb dress online .... whereas my fiance spent £6000 on having our wedding rings made to match my bespoke engagement ring so I don't feel guilty at all xx good luck go for it
I would go for it you will only get one chance to have the dress of your dreams! Plus there are some great charity options you could pass the dress on to x
This was me too! However I bought the dress that I loved and I felt amazing. You might only wear it once but you'll feel great all day and it's the most incredible feeling ever!
If you can afford it buy it you'll regret not feeling the best you, you can be and if the dress makes you feel happy and fabulous the photos will show it
Some companies overseas are able to replicate certain dresses . If you really can't afford the one you have tried on it might be worth doing the research ans seeing if it can be made for you :)
I am getting married in two years and i have a dress budget, but if i don't find the right dress in the budget i will pay more. No use buying an ok dress in budget as it is the most important dress you will buy in your like.
I say go for it... I'm in the EXACT same position and that's what I am going to do :) If it's THE dress.... GET IT!!! :D