Hi everyone! Partner and myself are getting married in 2018, and we're having an outdoor wedding. To save money (around £200 to be exact!), we've chosen to have a really unromantic registry 'wedding' the day before the outdoor ceremony for legality reasons (and then just have a blessing at our actual wedding the next day). However, not including my partner, we are only allowed four additional guests, and we're having trouble choosing who to go with us! He has a best man, and I have three bridesmaids, and he also has both of his parents, whereas I won't be having mine there. Have any of you done something similar to this and can give us any tips on who to choose, or just tips in general for a wedding like this? Whilst we don't think it's important, as that wouldn't be our 'proper' wedding, we don't wanna upset anyone! TIA X
If it was me I'd just go to register office and do as u only need 2 witnesses and cost less than 200 pounds x
We are doing something similar because we're getting married abroad so we have to have a legal registry ceremony. We've decided just have two witnesses and our rule is that we're not taking anyone who's coming to the French wedding. That way we don't upset anyone and our French wedding stays special. Hope that helps.
How about just having his parents & none of your bridal party. That way your best man & bridesmaids should not really feel left out, as their special part is on your big day the day after. Good luck whatever you choose.
I wouldn't go with bridesmaids or bestmen as to them the blessing the next day is the big day, hair makeup nerves the lot, I'd just have his parents and maybe an aunt&uncle on your side or someone who has been there for you throughout your life X
We did a similar thing although our blessing was on the Saturday and we went to the registry office after for the legal bit. In our county we could book a 10 minute appointment and we were only allowed our witnesses and it cost £50. We had to travel to a different town and it was only available once a week but might be worth looking in to?
We are having the legal ceremony in the registry office a few days before our real wedding. We are having both sets of parents as witnesses then going out for a meal in the evening to celebrate. We didn't want the registrar involved in our real wedding because they are very restrictive with their rules therefore we are having a celebrant do our ceremony so we can have it exactly the way we like. The registry office costs £230 including wedding certificates
We did this. Although we could have as many guests as we like to the legal wedding so we had both parents, his 2 sisters and family (my brother couldnt make it) and then we chose 2 sets of our closests friends each, so including us there were 20. Can he not have his parents and you have your closest friend? You don't even need to tell anyone else that you are legally married the day before. X
We got married abroad but had to legally marry here in a registry office. We just had both our parents. If he's having 2 parents then you have 2 guests. Do you have any other family members who could come? We treated the blessing as our actual wedding and kept the registry office as simple and small as possible xx
I've done this and just had parents and siblings. Even though we're having a blessing and party next year, family still got upset and couldn't understand why they weren't invited. It's about you and your husband to be. Just remember that! If your loved ones really cared, they'd respect your wishes.
I would have your witnesses and that's all. Good luck
Ours is similar although we are going to the registry office at 9:30am before the ceremony at 2pm.
As I don't count 9:30am as my wedding it shall be just 2 witnesses (maybe even off the street) saving everyone for the ceremony.
We're doing this, the day before is literally just signing papers, we're having witnesses, a couple of friends and treating the blessing with the celebrant as the actual wedding. I really don't think it matters whose with you for the legal side of things
We did the same. We had a small registry office marriage, our 'proper' wedding is in December. We literally had our parents, our sisters and my nan. That was it, we went for a drink afterwards to celebrate and then a meal, it was actually lovely
My brother and his wife did the exact same, tiny registry office ceremony then big wedding outside with a celebrant. They took 3 parents and their daughter to the registry office.
I'd just take parents and then maybe 2 of your family, brother, sister, cousin. Anyone and then have 1 or his members of family and one of yours to witness it xxx
Id say his parents, best man and your chief bridesmaid or maid of honour.
We're doing this :) but can only have 2 witnesses so have both picked our mums to witness and then sign aswell :)
Why don't you just have your witnesses with you at the registry office, that way everyone will hopefully just see it as the unromantic legal bit and everyone with be with you for the blessing, hopefully everyone will understand x
Myself and another friend were the only 2 that went as witnesses for our friends doing the same thing. Don't think many of the guests knew about it. How about best man and maid of honour only as they would be your witnesses usually xx
Parents best man chief bridesmaid