Myself and my fiance are planning on getting married in my hometown of Warrington Cheshire as it's easier for my family to get to Warrington than where we are currently living. My middle sister and her partner and their two sons live in Rhyl and my brother and his fiance live in Chichester. We haven't set a date yet as we're struggling with money and saving up at the min, but I was wondering what we can do so that both families have been involved in our wedding? Although since my fiance's twin sister got married on Sunday just gone their dad has been going on n on at my fiance n his middle about it being their turns next, but his dad doesn't know that we're not getting married in Hartlepool. Both mine n my fiance's dads like a drink, but my fiance's dad makes my dad look like he doesn't drink and we're not sure what to do. I was thinking that we could have two parties the main in Warrington after the wedding and a smaller one when we visit my fiance's family, but I wouldn't have a clue where though.
That sounds like a tough decision.
My mum and nan live in Lincolnshire and we live in Bedfordshire but getting married in Hertfordshire!
I do worry about no-one coming but then think if they love us they'll travel to be part of our special day!
Good luck, I hope you figure it all out x
Oh, and all my h2b's family and friends are in Cambridgeshire and Essex lol x
My family is dotted around the country from Newcastle to Cambridge so we are just choosing the venue we want and people will have to travel if they dont live close by. No one that we have mentioned this to has had a problem x
I live in Essex. All my fiancés family live in Essex. My family all lives 180 miles away in Shropshire. We are getting married in Shropshire. Nobody has a problem with travelling for the wedding. If they want to be there - they will make it.
We got married in Chester when most of the family lived in Liverpool. Our venue had hotel rooms that our guests had for the night. They'll sort accommodation if they want to be there and have a drink. If money is an issue you shouldn't think about two after parties. Maybe organise a small minibus to take them home? Xx
We live in Kent, fiance is from Essex. 60% of the wedding guests will be travelling and staying at hotels. Can't see an issue - we travel and stay in hotels to attend weddings regularly.
I live in Suffolk but im Irish so we doing a small gathering in bury, the registry and meal for the UK side of family and a larger party in Ireland, suits everyone and u get an excuse to dress up twice
Me and my h2b live in hartlepool but have our hearts set on marrying in the Lake District, if people want to come they will make the effort, you get married wherever you want! It's your day, if they cant be arsed to travel then I wouldn't want them there anyway.
About the drinking, just have a word with both dads and say that you don't want people getting really drunk at the wedding they should understand, it's your big day!!
As for the second party, it's more money that you will have to shave off your actual wedding in your dream location, don't bother... people will travel x
My cousin is travelling almost 200 miles for dress shopping, hen party, wedding & possibly more... she's possibly more excited about my wedding than I am!
Yet somebody else was upset that we chose a venue that is 25 minutes from where they live & taxi's aren't cheap around here.......
You can't please everybody, so I wouldn't bother trying quite frankly!
There will always be one person who is unhappy with your choices, just do whatever YOU & YOUR partner want to do, everybody else is just a guest, and if they really care, they will travel anywhere for you.
Could the ones who are far away just book accommodation for the night? Xx
We are only getting married about a 40 minute drive away but most of our guests are planning to stay over. We also have guests from Portsmouth, Kent and Newcastle coming. I think lots of people are willing to travel. I know I am, the only thing I couldn't commit to is travelling abroad and I can afford my friends wedding in Mexico as it's year before mine x
You make it sound so complicated lol. It's YOUR and YOUR H2bs day so have it where you both want and if ppl want to come for you they will be there. Maybe just make sure you give plenty notice and help with hotel / bnb advice if ppl need a room :) good luck x
I think you are over thinking it! My family lives in devon, me and my fiance and all his family and friends live around Birmingham and my friends are dotted around all over the place...we are getting married in gloucester which is between the two families and both sides are happy to travel and because we get married in a hotel they can all stay the night and make a weekend of it. That way anyone who wants to drink can and no need for multiple parties in different locations. People who care will make the effort to travel for your wedding day usually
I wouldn't worry about it, you'll get people moan whatever you do. We live in Hartlepool, booked our wedding in the Lake District, a lot of them have booked to stay for a week and making a holiday of it. But we also have People moaning that they're not involved in the wedding, although they've never asked 1 thing about it and when you tell them anything, trying to get them involved and trying loads of ways to involve them all they do is moan and pass nasty comments, Or change the subject so we're not talking about the wedding. I wanted to go abroad for this reason but H2B didn't. The nasty comments just get worse and even using a child in the mix now not letting him be page boy. I asked my H2B if he still wants to just go abroad and he's said: "no, they're not ruining my special day" Like I say you'll have problems whatever you do. If they want to be there they will. If they don't then it's their loss. You'll still have a lovely day and have the rest of the family there. Bloody family problems, why can't people be normal! I suppose weddings bring loads of issues xxx