Hi all, How do you feel about asking bridesmaids and the groomsmen to pay...

I paid for everything she I was a bridesmaid for my friend. She is now my bridesmaid and is happy to pay for herself x

I think this is totally reasonable. You are saying what your budget is and you are trying to stick to it. I am asking my bridesmaids to pay for shoes and hair and I am paying for dresses provided they fit in my budget x

We paid £25 each for bridesmaid dresses - got them from boohoo.com online, they're gorgeous maxi dresses. However they are paying for their own shoes, make up, etc. I agree that a lot of people don't understand until they plan their own wedding! X

Personally I don't think you should ask people to pay for their own. If you want them as part of the bridal party you should be prepared to pay for them. I had 5 bridesmaids and we provided everything. All they paid for was their hair and make-up.

Websites that will help to locate reasonable priced beautiful dresses ....
# Lindy bop
# Elsie's attic
# chi chi clothing
Especially ask them to look NOW whilst sales are on as they will get a ba gain before prices go back up !!

You can easily get dresses and shoes for £50 each.

I will be paying for my bridesmaids dresses I think it is cheeky to ask them to pay for themself!

My bridesmaids paid for their dresses make up shoes and jewellery.

I have 3 and I've paid for everything.. dress shoes jewellery hair ., u can't ask someone to be a part of ur wedding and then ask them to pay for themselves.. if you have a smaller budget I'd suggest less bridesmaids x

I paid for everything for my bridesmaids, dresses, shoes and hair & make up xx

If I have asked them to be part of my wedding.. I wouldn't expect them to fork out for my day... I'd pay for what they are wearing.
On the other hand if you're on a budget for them and they don't want to pay then they shouldn't be picky about what they have to wear. It's your day not theirs.

If your bms are not happy with dresses which are within your budget then why not suggest finding ones they do like, but they pay the difference

As soon as my friend asked it I would be her bridesmaid ..i offered too pay for my dress ..she said no ..but if she rang me too morrow and said could u pay the answer would be yes I would xxx

The only thing i am not paying for is shoes. But that said they have no say in any of it. Dress,hair etc as its all trying to stick to a budget so i am not spending silly money on a dress that will get worn once etc. You wont please everyone. You have to do what works for you x

If you want them to be your bridesmaid then you pay for everything! You don't know their circumstances, they might not be able to afford, they might feel pressured to do it when others who have the money can do it! Not everyone buys a new dress to go to a wedding!
If a bride wants them to be by her side then prepare to pay!

If you've budgeted 50 for each then if it's more I would get them to pay the extra ... but don't forget it's your day they should be wearing what you want them to not what they want to x

I don't think people should be asked to pay towards your day.
If you have asked them then it's down to you to make sure they have everything that you want them to have.
I had 8 bridesmaids I paid for everything apart from the 4 older ones shoes because they weren't on show and they all preferred different styles I let them choose their own shoes for the day. But I covered the cost of dresses, hair and accessories, makeup, jewellery and flowers and a few extra gifts.

I agree with the other comments, if you asked them to be bridesmaids you should pay for their dresses etc, if you can't afford them don't have them

If they don't like your choices, tough! It's your day!
I'd rather wear something I didn't like and my friend to be happy than upset my friend x

We couldn't afford to pay for all the dresses or suits for our wedding. We spoke with everyone we asked to take part about buying there own, they were all really happy to buy there own and to be part of our big day. My husband and I felt pretty worried about asking, as we know it's not traditional - but we have really great friends and loved ones who didn't mind. We were also really relaxed with the choices, so the dresses were bought online for about £30 each and the suits we found were on offer so it worked all round. Hope you have wonderful friends and family like ours!!

I got my BMs' dresses for £11 in the lindybop sale, it's completely doable!

Asos do some lovely dresses Dorothy Perkins also a good place to look if your bridesmaids can buy shoes that they can wear again I don't see the problem ️

We paid for our bridesmaids dresses hair and shoes. And the mens suits which we hired I personally wouldn't feel right asking. I'd rather have less bridesmaids (I had 2 older one 3 year old) than ask for money. Sorry xx

Give them the option say it's either these ones or your paying for your own
But it is your day so have what you want

My bridesmaids paid for their own dresses I was going to pay half but they was all happy to fully pay for their dress seems they got to keep it and do what they want with it ( one of my bridesmaid is actually keeping there dress back for their daughters prom lovely ideas!) then I paid for shoes hair make up jewellery hair band the groomsmen paid for half their suits we paid the other half we did that cause that's all the needed they didn't need hair and make up etc shoes even came with the out fit well adults anyways everyone was happy about it not one person turned their nose up it... if they want to be part of your day they would be happy to do what you want to do :)

I have 4 bm... one being 11... i will be paying fir the dresses but if they dont like them they can pay for their own... we will be looking in Debenhams and john lewis and budget will be about £50 also... if they are being awkward have words x

I said to my girls that I had a budget of £75 each. I said to them from the very start that they would have to buy their shoes - but that I wouldn't choose the shoes they can have what they like so long as gold. I also said if they really all liked a dress more than £75 they would have to put in the rest. As it was the dresses cost £60 so I still have money to get them some accessories xx

I don't think you should ask for people to pay for their own. You asked them so should provide a dress for them x

I've been a bridesmaid twice, one wedding the bride paid for everything and the other time I paid for everything. I think it depends on your budget, I personally paid for the dresses, hair and make up. They got their shoes, but if you've told them your budget and they aren't liking the options they might have to dip into their pockets

I'm paying for everything for my bridesmaids and their children who are in the bridal party apart from their shoes, including their hair and makeup.
But that's because I can afford to.
I would never ever be offended if someone asked me to pay for myself to be in their bridal party. It is an absolute honour to be asked and if they are struggling with their budget then why wouldn't you help out.

My bridesmaid dresses where £40 shoes £25 bags £17 earrings £20 flowers £40 a bouquet plus got them gifts on the morning pjs to wear on hen and wedding they paid for own hair £30 and make up £25 xx

Go on ebay and type in asos bridesmaid dresses or TFNC i got all my bridesmaid dresses new with tags for 87 pound should have been 200 all together asos do dresses for 50 coz mine would have been 50 each i just done my homework

My girls are paying for there dresses and shoes. I have 6 in the bridal party 3 sisters 1 BFF and my daughter we only decided to get married a this year.. they were happy to pay for there dresses I'll be paying there hair and accessories etc xx

I hear people say all the time 'you shouldn't have asked that many bridesmaids if you can't afford it' - some of us don't and will never have bottomless bank accounts so where does it stop - if the ones you have are the ones you can't let go of it's about what you can afford. People constantly assume if you are getting married you need to have everything you ever dreamed of - that just isn't realistic.

I paid for my bridesmaids dresses, and picked them and then just gave them to try on of the hanger. I also paid for their hair and I said to wear whatever shoes they feel comfy in and I paid for their jewellery xx

If you're asking for them to buy anything themselves then let them pick it themselves. Maybe give a guide like the colour you'd like them to get and let them do the rest. I would be a bit miffed if someone said to me I had to buy a certain shoe if I didn't particularly like it.

My fiance and I have asked our wedding party to contribute a bit since our budget is quite tight (in the States where I'm from, bridesmaids are typically expected to pay for their dresses/shoes etc and the bride pays for flowers, a bit of jewellery or some other gift, and so forth).

I think it comes down to your budget, as well as how your bridesmaids feel about it! I've emphasised that I want to go with a dress style & colour that they could wear to other occasions as well so they feel better about spending the £40/50, but so far nobody has objected x

I've been a bridesmaid previously and I paid for my own shoes but I expected to pay for my hair and shoes. I will be asking my bridesmaids to pay for these things too when I get married next year. I think a bride should pay for theif dresses though.

I'm a bridesmaid in December and we came to the agreement that the bride paid for the dresses and then anything else we pay for ourselves so shoes, hair, make up and accessories they can be what we like as long as it's in the colour scheme

It is so expensive after months of ordering from ASOS and still not finding the perfect dresses, I ordered a dress from NL and its perfect, all 7 BM's happy! Iv paid for dress, shoes, jewellery, hair and it is so expensive especially when I have 7. They have only had to pay for make up artist and thats optional x

I've been a bridesmaid and paid for my own dress.... didn't have an issue with it! I think if you're picking £200 dresses then I wouldn't ask someone to pay but £50 mark is reasonable!

My bridesmaids have paid for their own dresses and shoes but I got them in the sale for them so only cost £50 for both, but I'm paying for their hair and make up. But they are good friends and if they got married I would be happy to return the favour

Coast has a sale on, I got all 6 of my bridesmaids dresses for £49 each
It's about being smart

Well I've got 3 bridesmaids 1 maid of honour 3 flowers girls n I've paid for everything dress Jewellery hair make up shoes everything all they have to do is get a bag (as my girls like different size bags) x

Hi do you have a Wed2b store near you they have pron gowns from £39 good luck :)

So true and that won't be £50xxxx

I bought my bridesmaids dresses and paid for their hair but asked them to buy their own shoes to help with costs. I just told them to get nude shoes in whatever style was comfortable for them. If I was a bridesmaid I wouldn't want to be told to buy something I didn't like/didn't fit.

We had 3 bridesmaids, 3 flower girls, 3 page boys, best man, groomsman, father of groom and father of bride that we bought outfits for and we paid for everything, dresses, shoes, hair accessories, ties, shirts, buttonholes, corsages, paid for hair doing for all, make up doing and nails but that's just because we wanted to! We asked them to be part of our big day so we felt that they shouldn't feel pressured into having to pay for everything themselves because we wanted them to have the roles that we gave them. I let my bridesmaids choose their dresses and shoes and bags and they have kept them all as they may well wear them again! In our eyes it was a small cost to pay to have people we valued most as part of our day, and meant that I also was able to pick and choose outfits if I didn't like them (never came to that!) I wouldn't have felt comfortable saying what colour and style they had to wear if they were paying! Xx

My bridesmaids have been great haven't moaned about paying for anything I got their dress and make up. They are paying for their own hair and shoes. They can wear any she they are comfortable in as it's their feet. They was going to pay for their own make up but I thought that was too much cost on their part x

We've said from the start buy your own dresses luckily aside from one bridesmaid everyone has been understanding x

We struggled to find the perfect dresses for bridesmaids, they were £150 each - I paid £100 and they contributed the rest, I paid for their hair and jewellery They paid for their shoes, and my parents paid for their make up ( they were willing to pay for it themselves) xx

I paid for dresses, shoes as well as alterations I did this because I wanted to as I asked them to be part of my bridal party.

If you are paying for the dress, then you pick the dress! If they are wanting something else tho they should pay! But it's your day, so it should be down to you what they wear. Xx

You find out who your friends and family are with weddings. If my loved ones were getting married and gave me the honour of being part of it i would be happy to buy my own dress (of course i would if i was a guest anyway) and if i couldn't afford it i would explain. We bought ours for our bridesmaids but paid less than £200 for 3 adult dresses (asos with voucher codes) and 2 little ones (ebay £15 each). This is your wedding day it should not be about money

£50 per bridesmaid dress is doable...have a look at littlepridebride on Facebook and eBay, she gets great reviews for her dresses and they are generally under £50 each, thats where I plan to get mine from :)

I think it's usually expected they pay for their own outfits unless you're picking a particularly expensive outfit.

I'm bridesmaid at 2 weddings this year and both bride were completely different. One said 'buy everything yourself, as long as the dress is silver I don't care about style, length etc' and the other said 'I have a budget of this much, anything else you will need to pay for' in both cases I was completely happy.
In one case I was able to buy a dress I could reuse and like in the correct colour and in the other case we managed in come in waaay under budget (£55 for dress, shoes and bag) thanks to sales and discount.
If your bridesmaids are really kicking up a fuss I would say are you sure you want them to be a bridesmaid? X

Seems like a lot of commenters missed the point of this post! If you have said you are happy to pay for dresses up to £50 but they are being difficult and turning their noses up at your choices then tell them they can have a more expensive dress but they need to pay the difference...you could still pay 50 each, so if they chose a dress that was,say, 70 they would only have to pay £20

Our bridesmaids and ushers will be paying for their clothes themselves. We will pay for the girls hair though.. All are family, bridesmaids are sisters and both have recently got married and we did the same at their weddings. The dresses I like are £85 but I'll only ask for £50,as that's how much I paid for my dresses for each of their weddings. Alot of people think it's really cheeky and rude, but I don't. It's getting more common nowadays for bridesmaids to buy their own dresses. As long as whoever you're asking is happy with it, I don't see an issue xx

Don't have so many of them if you can't afford to dress them. If they come as guests they choose and pay for something that they can ultimately wear again, they can't exactly wear a bridesmaid dress (of your choice) again. If you ask them to pay for all these things for 'your' day then don't expect a wedding present. That's their present to you- helping you out with your costs

My bridesmaid dresses cost £17 each off eBay, vintage A-line, tea length ball gown dresses in deep red.
I bought 4 as I have 4 bridesmaids.

Their shoes cost a total of £10 from New Look in the sale.

Their nails will cost £20 each, hair, £20 each and makeup they are doing themselves.

£67 per bridesmaid in total.

Not including flowers which I haven't got round to organising yet. Or jewellery. Which I can organise for just as cheap I'm sure x

I think it's unreasonable to ask people to be maids and groomsmen and then ask them to pay for there own stuff .... yes they wud have bought an outfit if they were a guest but it wud be an outfit they could wear again .... I paid for everything for my maids dresses hair make up jewellery and all suits for the men becoz we wanted them to wear the stuff so if u can't afford it I think u should maybe re think ur wedding party

I gave mine the choice of paying for their dress or their hair and make up as I can't afford both, they seemed happy with that :)

My bridesmaids all paid for themselves I gave them the colour they did the rest and looked gorgeous xx

The only thing my bridesmaids are paying for is there shoes.

My bridesmaids have offered but I wouldn't let them pay for it. I'm choosing the dress and I asked them to be a bridesmaid so it seems to be harsh to ask them to pay xxx

Mmmm although it's a honour to be bridesmaid at weddings, I personally don't think you should have to pay for the honour , I was working on a tight budget when I got married , hence the reason I had a only 1 bridesmaid and my three flower girls , I wouldn't had expected her to pay for anything I paid for the dress shoes underwear hair and make up , because of my budget it meant I only had my best friend and had to have my two sisters who I'm really close too as guests ( and I was bridesmaid and their weddings ) x

If your asking people to buy their own, they need to be able to choose their own. If you want something specific you should pay. X

i have 2 moh who insisted on paying foe theirs & im paying for the other 3, my moh daughter is doing hair & make up.xx

I've got 4 bridesmaids and 3 flower girls, one being my daughter. 2 of my bridesmaids bought their own dresses and the other 2s daughter's are our flower girls so I bought their dresses and they bought their daughter's. My partners groomsmen just presumed they were buying their own anyway xxx

Tell them if they don't like their dresses and want to upgrade then they are welcome to participate to the funds if they are not happy with that then ask them if they really want to be your bridesmaid cos they can always come as guests!! X

I'm paying for my bridesmaid dresses and everything else they can pick and pay for. They are fine with it and I Want them to have their individualities shine through too ❤️ x

If you can't afford it but still want them as bridesmaids just let them wear what they want? It's not fair to ask someone to wear a particular outfit if you're not going to pay for it. You could have a uniform corsage or boutinniere, something smaller and cheaper to mark them out

I'm thinking of doing the same as we don't have much money.

I would not mind paying for my dress, I'm a MoH in September next year, I keep offering, as a newlywed my self, I know expensive weddings are! x

It's rude
If u ask them to be a bridesmaid for your wedding then u should pay

If you've asked them to be your bridesmaids then you should pay for the dress. You say if hey was a guest they'd buy their own outfit. That's true but they'd be choosing a dress that they actually want to wear rather than what you want em to wear. I think it's cheeky to ask someone to be part of your wedding then ask them to pay for it!

We are paying for the dresses and I've set a budget and colour for the shoes.. they can choose their own style of shoe.. but if it's above the budget they've all agreed they will make the difference up as it's their choice

You can get plenty of bridesmaids dresses from the high street for £50. If you're bridesmaids want another dress agree for you to pay £50 but anymore and they need to pay the difference.

I had a budget for dresses and to some extent let the girls have a say but I was paying so
My decision was final. Shoes I gave them the budget I was willing to pay and told them they had to be silver I didn't care about the style...if they went over budget they paid the difference xx

I just think if your asking them then you should pay

I picked my bridesmaids so I'll pay for the dresses but my moh has offered to pay for hers x

I only asked the bridesmaids to get shoes...but told them if they already have some that is fine.. they can wear whatever as they have long dresses and shoes won't be seen.....i didn't see the point of getting them all matching shoes that won't be seen and will never be worn again....everything else I have paid for xx

I can understand your point exactly and yes there are some good shops out there!! I recommend House of Fraser!!

I paid for the bridesmaid dresses as I figured they may not really be able to wear them again. They bought the shoes though as they were just a nude sandal and something they can wear again. In terms of groomsmen, we asked them to buy trousers and suit jacket and we paid for waistcoat, ties and pocket squares. Again, they can obviously wear the suit trousers and jacket again but everything else was very specific to our wedding. Don't get bogged down into thinking you have to pay for everything. Chances are your bridesmaids and groomsmen will be super chuffed to be part of your day and will be happy to pitch in for something small

I wouldn't consider asking bridesmaids to pay for dresses, nor groomsmen. For my BMs I paid for dress, hair and a necklace which teamed up as a gift to say thank you. They could choose shoes (we had long dresses so I let them be comfy in whatever style shoe they wanted) and so they paid for these. 2 brought new ones2 wore ones they had already. For GM we paid for suits, and then cuff links as a thank you.

I am doing this with my bridesmaids. But am letting them choose exactly what they want. As all my bridesmaids are all different shapes and sizes and not all got the same taste.
All i am bothered about is them being comfy and hopefully they can wear the outfut again x
They are all happy to do this. Xx

Why should the bride pay expensive enough

mine all bought their own.. i didnt ask.. they just did it. All I did was find colours and we all decided on length and material the rest was up to them. Ive got the best girls in the world I think!! 5k budget and still coming in under that... 4 weeks to go!

You shouldnt realy ask them to buy there own outfits after all its the bride that asked them to be part of your wedding so why should they pay its not there wedding if you cant afford out fits then dont have bridesmaids

I'm buying the dresses for the girls and if they want hair and make up they are paying for it and their accessories xx

If they don't like your choices tell them to step down simple as. It's your day and you make the decisions. You can get beautoful shop bought dresses for under £50. I bet if they had to pay themselves they wouldn't go to a bridal shop!

I was willing to pay for my bridesmaids dresses but each has said that they would have been paying for a new outfit anyway for the day so they will pay for it themselves..... hope this helps

Just tell them their budget is 50. If they go over they will have to add the differece to it. Thats not asking them to pay for their own its u giving them their budget and if they choose to go over they need to foot the bill xx

Is nobody reading the post. Shes said the budget is 50quid. If they arnt happy with that then they need to pay the difference. I 100% agree if u ask them to be in your wedding then you pay for EVERYTHING but her budget is 50 so they need to stick to that or pay for the difference themselves xx

I paid for my bridesmaids' dresses but all of the ushers and paid for the hire of their own kilts x

I think it is perfectly reasonable to ask your bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses if they want an expensive dress that you would struggle to afford. As long as you explain to them this is the reason and give plenty of notice for them to find the money themselves.

All of ours are happy to pay for themselves

Mine paid for their own everything x

I got Beautiful bridesmaid dressess of Amazon for 14.99

Ive said the same I'm going to buy the dress but any accessories they have to buy, going to for a fortune otherwise x

I be honest I offered to pay for mine dress at all 3 weddings I been too but no one would take the money.. personal I wouldn't mind if someone asked me to pay for my dress I've always bought my shoes. Try eBay for dresses I seen loads under 50 an good quality too x

Hire them it could be cheaper then they all wear the same x

They won't pay towards the dress but spend a fortune on hen party

I think if you have a budget and they are turning their nose up and want something more expensive it's not unreasonable to expect them to pay the difference as long as you actually like what they are picking out as well x

All my bridesmaids had there dresses, posies and hair paid. I wasnt fussy about matching shoes and they paid for the makeup artist to do there makeup. I wouldnt be someones bridesmaid if i had to pay for my own dress/hair/shoes as well as money for hen doo(s), wedding present, taxis or hotel room, money for drinks, kitting my family out with new outfits. I would buy the dress and give the option to buy there own shoes, hair, makeup. These potentially could be done between u all.

We have paid for MOH dress and Best Man suit. Everyone else has paid for their own. Only one person has moaned (to our face) so far, no1 else seems that bothered! My bridesmaids paid £75 for their dresses and Ushers £140 for suits xx

We are paying for the bridesmaids dresses but they have to buy their own shoes. The bridesmaides dresses I want were £125 on one website. I have found them in a different website for £15 each!!

If they aren't willing to wear what you chose then yes they should pay especially if they are keeping them. Not like it would hurt considering the prices a wedding costs and you'd obv paying for everything else!

Tell them.your purse isnt bottomless and £50.each is your budget. Good friends will.understand.
Its your day so have them in the dresses YOU want. If they don't like it ...tough.. if they want to put money to.dresses ..fine but have your say in style

If they are choosing dresses over the budget you've given them then they should pay the difference x

My bridesmaids bought thei own dresses but they also choose their own . I don't get why people think just becuase it's your wedding you have to pay for everything for everyone. If they don't like it then they really shouldn't be your bridesmaids.

My husband was best man at his friends wedding and we had to pay £185 to hire his suit and £75 to buy his shoes. Weddings are expensive site I don't see a problem with it. Loads of people do it now. One of our friends asked the bridesmaids to pay for their dresses and she did shoes hair and makeup

I paid for dresses and hair and make up for my bridesmaids and also I bought tiaras and the flower girls too but if they are happy to pay that's fine xx

My bridesmaids are paying for nothing I've bought dress, shoes, hair and make up the only thing they need to provide is undies lol - I asked them to be bridesmaids so I'm paying. You should stick to your budget and they should be happy to wear it or pay the difference if they want to go for something alternative, but to be honest I don't remember a single wedding where the bridal party choose their own dress, I hope this goes well for you

I have been a bridesmaid and I am getting married in 2019 I will pay for my bridesmaids outfits hair and make up I will leave the shoes to them hair an make up costs nothing in the grand scheme of things it's cheaper than a decent pair of shoes x
If been a bridesmaid and had to do my own hair and make up and pay for shoes my outfit was always paid for

You can get a decent dress for £50. My dress for y sister's wedding was £35 (from Lindy Bop). It sounds like some of your maids are happy with a high street dress and some aren't?If this is the case,tell the ones who are holding out that you will pay £50 towards a more expensive dress but they'll have to stump up the rest themselves. That,or they agree to finding a cheaper dress within your budget. You're not being unreasonable here

I would find it rude I think if you want them you should pay I do think you could pay for them even if it's 50 pound you could find something

A very clever way of getting round it is asking your bridesmaids to buy their dresses as their wedding gift to you! 🤓

I hot married a month ago and I got my bridesmaids dresses from chi chi London they cost me £27.99 each. My gorgeous bridesmaids bought their own shoes they picked what they liked so all three were different but I was happy that they were comfortable. Good luck with everything

I personally don't think they should pay for their own dress , my maids are paying for their own hair and make up . That being said they also shouldn't turn their nose up at ones you like within your budget. Bridesmaids need to remember it's not their day and go with the flow of what you've picked. Asos have some lovely bridesmaids dresses at a reasonable price . X

No way! It's all part of the budgeting to make sure your bridesmaids and groomsmen are dress in the best and looking great!

I'm asking my bridesmaids and maid of honour to pay for their dresses. I had to pay for my MOH dress for my friends so it's fair she pays for hers. Not meaning to be rude but you aren't wearing them and won't be afterwards, plus they can then choose to sell it after or keep it.

I've just been a bridesmaid yesterday and paid for my own dress. I was happy to pay for it. The only thing I would suggest is sticking to budget as our dresses were more than we were originally told. Other than that I was glad to pay for it xxx

I don't think it's cheeky, I know a lot of women who've asked their maids to pay. If they don't want to then they can say no. Weddings are expensive!!

I think it's very fair for bridesmaids to pay for their own dress and shoes etc if they not happy to do that then obviously they not happy to share your day

People are misreading the question. The OP isn't asking if it's OK to ask the bridesmaids to pay completely. She's asking if it's OK to ask them about paying for a dress that is above her budget of £50 PER dress. You can get a nice,bridesmaid style dress from a highsteet store for that budget,and some of the bridesmaids are turning their nose up at the idea. If the maids want a more expensive dress,they should pay the extra on top

I'm paying for dresses, but will shop around for bargains and am also buying their tiara's (£1 off a website called Home) they will be wearing long dresses so they can wear what shoes they feel comfy in and I will buy jewellery again I will shop around and if they want hair and make-up doing they will pay for that them selves.

Men can hire suits at least its one colour & style from a reputable company? Bridesmaid dresses find a supplier ask for discount, see if the maids agree because its your big day hair styles need to be the same or similar according to face. The big question is are the maids taking the dresses after the wedding? From that will you determine whether they assist in paying for the dresses

Best man and grooms me usually hire their suits. Up to groom if he or they pay for that. My son is paying for his best men and ushers suits. Also the 2 fathers suits.
If either you or bridesmaids are paying for dresses you all need to shop together for them so.you get what you ALL like

I never knew people got their bridesmaids to pay for stuff! I found that really strange - we're paying for dresses, shoes, jewellery, even accommodation. And we don't have a big budget.

I'd feel guilty if I found dresses I loved but were out of their budget.. . And they each have different budgets so I took that element away and have my own budget for all of them.

You could always say you'll pay the first £50 towards things and anything they choose above that they supplement themselves.

Hi I also feel your pain. My Bridesmaid feel that I should pay for the dress & alterations hair make up and nails and accomadation the night before the wedding ..

If they can't understand why you would need help paying then should they even be a bridesmaid? I'm 19 and getting married and I'm having the tops especially made for the Bridesmaids and are asking them to pay for their skirts as 5he skirts are £37 just because some people are stuck up and can afford to pay for everything doesn't mean everyone can, alot of these comments are extremely stuck up and I'm actually quite shocked. Some people don't have as much money as others and if you can afford to pay then fine do it but dont judge those who can't afford it.

I'm not stuck up at all My husband and I worked and saved hard for our wedding but I do think that if ur asking people to be bridesmaids and groomsmen then u shud be paying for there outfits and if u can't afford it then maybe people should cut down the people and pay for wat they can afford .... that's just my opinion

I think it's wrong for people to say just ask less people to be bridesmaids. If you are from a big family you can't put one sister above another based on money! makes far more sense for them each to contribute. from a budget point of view hair makeup shoes accessories all added together are often cheaper than each dress so makes more sense for each girl to pay for the dress then the bride cover the rest. if you paid for one dress and not another, THAT would be rude.

You can cone from a big family doesn't mean you need to have a lot of bridesmaids. I am from a big family who are all close. None of us got offended if the others never asked us yo be bridesmaids. We chose our siblings over cousins.
The rest enjoyed the weddings we went to.
My sister took some persuading as she thought at 36 she was too old. Wouldn't have anyone else by me.

Tell them what your budget is and explain that dresses are expensive. Then suggest you would be willing to let them contribute into choosing more expensive dresses but they will have to pay price difference. If they don't want to contribute to the difference then you choose and stick with the original budget. It's your wedding not theirs!

Personally I don't think they should have to pay. If you ask someone to be bridesmaid then you should pay. You asked them to be part of your special day why should this cost them? My view is if you can't afford to pay for them don't have them as bridesmaid

We said we would pay until my sister in laws to be began turning their noses up at the "cheap" dresses we had chosen (£75 each) so we've said but your own but stick to this colour scheme. We'll buy the flower girl her outfit and my sister is making the cake so we will buy her daughter's dresses aside from that it's their duties and I don't feel bad

I got married last saturday heres a few photos

I got married lastvsaturday

I have royal blue dresses size 10 sellingbforc15 each