We are getting married in November this year, we wasn't going to have a honeymoon as we have 2 children aged 7 and 3 and thought we could have a family holiday together the summer after and not sure how I would feel about leaving them behind whilst we went on holiday even though we have plenty of grandparents and aunts and uncles who would gladly look after the children. But the more I get asked about having a honeymoon and the more I think about it I quite like the idea of getting away for a week just the two of us. How do people feel about this and would they leave their kids behind for a honeymoon, are we being selfish even considering it?
Don't be daft.... it's a once in a lifetime opportunity... your children will go on holiday with you every year for the rest of your lives...
It's not selfish at all and they will have fun staying with family... that will be a little holiday in itself for them.
Go and enjoy yourselves
We're having a week in cyprus for our honeymoon just us two. Our 15 month old twins have never been away from us for more than 6 hours so it will be a welcome break! You are just as entitled to a traditional honeymoon as a childless couple :)
We went away on our 1st anniversary for our honeymoon. It's the one time you get to be just a couple. I wouldn't feel bad at all. Families are so different now and most couples have kids before marriage so if you have the support there to go away. Go. You only get one life and one holiday without the kids won't kill them. Xc
Hi I think it is great to get away for a short while but only if you are comfortable with it good luck :)
Go!! Run for the hills!!
Its one week... dont feel guilty or selfish... you have plenty of years for your family holidays... xx
get booking, kids will think it's terrific to go to grandparents n be spoilt
Why don't you try just a weekend away in this country than have a family holiday next year. I get married in November this year as well and we have booked a log cabin in mid Wales for a week. Two days after the wedding. Xx
I'm having a familymoon. I love my kids dearly but I would love a week holiday just me and my h2b haha. Our problem is not enough baby sitters so we went fo the family moon 9 days after wedding. I would go for it u have plenty of time to go on a family holiday later take the time for ur self and refuel xxx
Our baby will be 4/5 months old and they'll be coming on our honeymoon.
Can't stand the idea of sending them to grandparents (as much as both sets would love this!) for the week. We made a decision to have children so won't be leaving them behind ️
My husband and I have a 2 year old and we got married in May. We had a honeymoon and we were away for 10 days. I'm very glad we went because it was nice to have time for just the two of us, but 10 days was too long as we were really missing our son by the end and it's all I could think about! Maybe just go for a short break, have that alone time that you both deserve (and will really enjoy) and then have a familymoon in the summer x
Don't be daft. I left my 8 yr old with grand parents and we went to Cuba for a week. We spoke on Facebook nearly every day. Xx
Me and my husband 2b have 5 kids between us . And we are going away for 2 weeks . Without the children , going to be heaven after the stress of planning the big day . Xx
Don't be daft! We had a week away last year kid free and a long weekend away for our honeymoon and also went abroad for a wedding without the kiddies! As long as you have someone your happy to leave the kids with go for it, your relationship needs time together as well!
I got married in January 2017 and have two children aged 3 and 2 xx We couldn't afford both a honeymoon and then a family holiday so we all went on holiday in April xx
Me and my partner have 3 kids, we had children young and have never had the chance to go on holiday alone together or even stay in a hotel together so his parents booked a haven caravan holiday and took the kids away while we went and enjoyed a week in centre parcs because we didn't want to leave he country. It was honestly so good to get away. The kids had so much fun they wanted to do it again so for our 1st anniversary they went to their grandparents house again and my and my hubby went to Rome!! It was amazing and I'm so glad we have done it :)
It's once in a lifetime, do it they will be spoilt rotten while your gone and you'll miss them more than they miss you.....this is the only time people will offer to have your kids so you can have a holiday so grab it with both hands!
Yep happily left them to go to Mexico for a honeymoon. Kids thought it was great as got to spend lots of time with Nanny who spoilt them, they weren't even that fussed about speaking to us on the phone. You have to look after your relationship as much as your children and spending quality uninterrupted time together is the best way to do it.
We went to centerparcs for our honeymoon with our kids. We put them in day care for a day so me and my husband could have a day to our selves. We loved our honeymoon/family holiday (rarely happens) x
We're also getting married in November, planning our honeymoon for next year though, our son won't be coming as it's a rare opportunity for us to get away just the 2 of us, but I am making sure we have a holiday as a family next year too and he totally understands as I've had a chat to him about it because I didn't want him to feel left out
Go for it, we get married in December and are going to Iceland in Feb for 4 nights as a honeymoon and leaving our 2 year old with grandparents. We have booked a 2 week summer holiday too so that we can go away as a family. Take the opportunity!
Hi we're getting married in nov this year and we gonna take our boys with us xx but gonna have a weekend away just the two of us xx
Do what you want to do. I love the idea of including your children but you and your partner should still have a week or two to yourselves. Whatever you decide have the best time ever. Xx
If you don't feel comfortable leaving them for too long then just go away for a long weekend and then have a bigger holiday next year with your children too.
We're currently on ours, we've a 7 and 2 year old. We've gone away for a week without them and it's been lovely, we've FaceTime and gotten pictures. We've missed them like mad but we deserved a break just us, same as you do. But do t feel pressured Into it, do what ever makes you happy and comfortable. Xx
100% do it! I think it's more selfish for family members not to offer to look after the kids so you can have a child free honeymoon lol. Me and my fiance make sure we get at least 1 childfree holiday a year plus weekends away, date nights etc. I think it is so important to have time for your partner and not just your kids otherwise you end up with nothing in common once the kids have left home xx
I refuse to take our kids on our honeymoon, my partner would love to but that isn't a honeymoon, it's a family holiday
Lucky, you have relatives who could look after your little ones use it and enjoy your honeymoon with your other half
It's not selfish... you'll need some 'you time' after it! And like you say, you have lots of family to look after them, they'll be having a holiday themselves with family so that's nice too! They'll enjoy that and you can enjoy a couples holiday!
We're leaving our kids behind and going for 2 weeks ... it's not selfish at all xx
We arent having a honeymoon were having a familymoon. 😍 (my daughters words) going to butlins or somewhere
i have 2 kids aged 7 and 4 and to be completely honest i can't wait for a week break i have been a full time mummy for 7 years and love them with all my heart but everyone deserves a break to be themselves as long as childcare is suitable and trustworthy then take the opportunity doesn't come
often in parenthood
Get it booked my kids are going to be 3 and 5 and we are going for a long weekend I can't wait xx
We're getting married in October and going on honeymoon to Warsaw for 4 days. Never left kids for more than 2 nights before but decided it's a one off and worth it x
we get married next year and We are doing a family holiday with my parents ours are 2 half and 9months old. They have offered to do day trip with the kids and an evening babysitting. But once the kids are older in school we will have a anniversary honeymoon away. If you dont want to do a week how about a weekend x
We are hoping to go to New York alone just for 4 days or so, then have a 2 week family honeymoon that our son will come on too.
We have a 6 (nearly 7) year old. We get married nexy july. We are having a honeymoon - with our son! I couldnt go away for a week or 2 without him! X
Why don't you do what me and my partner are doing go for 2 weeks but either the second week or half way through the first week get someone to meet you over where ever is it your going with the kids. Xxx
our son will be 3 when we get married next august and we are going to Mexico for 2 weeks without him. he will be staying at his nans for a few days then going to his grandads for the rest of the time. I do feel guilty (and also feel like a bad mum) but the way I see it is this is our only opportunity to go on holiday just the 2 of us. if you have people who are willing to look after them then make the most of it x
100% leaving our son at home. It's only a week. And they'll love the time with grandparents anyway. I know mine gets away with murder and is spoilt rotten .
Time as a couple is so important!
Do it xx
You won't regret it. You could always do a small mini familymoon too
You are not being selfish at all. I was 7 when my mum remarried and she didnt take me on her honeymoon. I had a great time spending a week with the grandparents and being spoilt so I am sure your kids wont mind at all x
I would defo say do it! We got married 2 weeks ago and had a honeymoon jist the 2 of us for three nights in the algarve! It's worth having some you time to relax we did a week in Newquay when we got back with the kids which was their honeymoon :)
My partner and I are planning to have a 'weekend' honeymoon ... may not be the weekend but it will just be 2/3 nights then it's just us and we're not leaving the kids for too long x
We're going away for a 3/4 day city break and then saving up for a fab family holiday the year after. I don't think it's selfish at all hun, you need the time together I think especially after all the craziness of planning a wedding. When will you ever get that time back? Xx
Am literally jetting off to Kos in my honeymoon today... our 11yr old has got two weeks in Florida with his grandparents, somehow I don't think he'll miss us!
We have compromised, my h2b wants a honeymoon just us two so we are taking her away 2 weeks later and she said she doesn't mind
Our children will be 5 and 3 when we get married and have our honeymoon. As out 5 year old will still be at school when we go away she can't come and we couldn't take one child without the other so me and my h2b are having a nice honeymoon just the 2 of us. I'm not sure if it will be easy to leave them but I know they will have fun with grandma
Why is this being selfish? From the other perspective, my mum and dad had a week's holiday without my sister and I every year when we we children. We used to go to my granny's with our other grandma and spend the week with them. I had a great time. I've never resented them for having a holiday to themselves. Just go and enjoy yourself and don't worry about what others think. I had a happy childhood and can't see why my parents wouldn't have deserved a holiday without us. We still went on other holidays with them.
Our daughter was 15m old when we went away for our honeymoon to Mauritius. My mum had her one week, my mil had her the other. Best decision ever. She ended up in A&E the night before we left which was agony for us but it was tonsillitis and she perked up by the time we got to the airport the next day! So glad we didn't cancel. And she had no idea we had gone! X
I don't have kids, but when I was little my parents went on a couple of holidays and left us with grandparents... we loved it, week being spoilt with nana!! We also had family holidays of course It's not selfish at all, you deserve some time just the two of you!! Go, enjoy!!
I know exactly how you feel as we're getting married in Dec and have children aged 13, 6 and 2! My other half wanted us to go away for a full week but I couldn't bring myself to leave the kids for that long, so we've negotiated a mini-break of 4 nights away just the two of us as our honeymoon and then will go away as a family for a bigger holiday later in the year. Xx
My kids were exact same age when I got married last year and we went away for a few days just the two of us. Was great just getting to enjoy us being newly weds. Plus my kids had an absolute ball at my parents house xx
I feel really selfish wanting a honeymoon, just me and my h2b but I did say we could have one just us two and then a little mini seaside holiday with my son.
Best of both worlds! x
I left mine with grandma, they loved it & it was good to have us time x
My sister in law goes on holiday for a week each year without the kids to remember what being a married couple is all about. My niece and nephew think is great as parents come back with presents and happiness x
We're going for 4 nights on our own as I didn't want to leave the kids either lol x
Me and my partner are also getting married in November and also have 2 boys! We are going to Malta for 4 days without the kids! But are planing a family holiday for summer next year x
Plenty of time for family holidays, if you get the opportunity to have a honeymoon, just you and your parter take it. It's not selfish.
My son came to florida with us x
Im going on holiday abroad for my 30th without my kids for a week (2&9) kids are staying with my mum at my house (for school and nursery) so I would definitely say no not selfish especially for a honeymoon x
We are looking at whether we try for a baby before or after the wedding as I'm not getting any younger. However if we do have a child before then they would have to come on honeymoon with us simply because we don't have anyone family to look after them. Both my mum and dad have walking problems and couldn't expect more than one night for them. I don't mind though, the only reasons we are considering waiting til after the wedding is money and I'm looking at new jobs etc x
No your not being selfish, but because I think I would miss mine too much, we are taking ours with us x
I get married in 3 weeks and were going away for 6 days straight after, we have a 21 month old who will be staying with my mum it will be hard as he has never stayed with anyone else although he will be fine as he loves being with nanny but we thought this will probably be the last time we will ever have a holiday on our own as we're planning to have another baby soon, don't feel guilty enjoy it
I don't like the thought of taking my son abroad so we're having a weeks caravan holiday then hopefully 4 days abroad while he's with his Nanny next year so it will be a late honeymoon x
Our wee girl was almost 2 when we got married and she stayed with my parents when we went on honeymoon for a week. I missed her like crazy but it was absolutely the best thing to do - she had a great time when we were away. We knew that it would be the one and only time we could get away ourselves and we had the most amazing time. Don't feel bad about it, you both deserve it x
It's not selfish at all. You need to celebrate becoming a married couple and that doesn't always have to include having the children with you. Book something up and have an amazing time your kids will be fine with family and will enjoy the adventure of staying over with family
Hi we had a 1 year old daughter and we went to poland for 3 nights. I was like you but we really enjoyed it. Its totally your shout x
Iv seen this many of times and an idea that's quite often put forward is..go on a honeymoon with the kids spend the first half with them and then let them go back home and you see the rest out with you and hubby to completely wind down x
Nope, last year we left our kids age 3 & 6 with their Nana for 6 days while we went off to New York for our honeymoon. Happy days!
We deserved it & totalled enjoyed it guilt free. We chose a break where knowing we didn't have kids so could make the most of it being a full on tourist break. We are having a big family holiday in a few weeks time. The kids didn't seem to care at all, only that we brought back decent gifts!!
It is not selfish. You aren't just mum and dad...you will be newly weds. You both deserve some time away for the kids to relax and enjoy each others company! Too many parents over parent their children and can't leave them!! Cut those ties for a week. X
We left our 2 year old and had a long weekend in Rome whilst he stayed with my mum and dad! He had the best time and so did we
We're having a mini moon straight after the wedding and taking the kids with us, a U.K. Break, then 6 months after we're having our private honeymoon me and my new husband abroad, also gives us time to rpec over finances after the big day!
i have a 14 and 2 year old and i cant leave them for a honeymoon so we are doing a family moon instead. the reason why is they are our children and with the little one beingso young i dont think its fair. i have said that when shes in full time school i might consider going monday to friday as youngest will only need watching for bit in morning then after school.
We left our four with their aunty they had a great time you need to relax after your wedding no mater how much you enjoy it and don't feel stressed you will need a rest. We went for 11 days we spoke to them everyday and they were so happy having fun with their cousins and we had a chilled relaxing time just the two of us. Do not feel guilty x
I am in the same boat atm. I get married this november and we said we couldnt afford a honeymoon and a family holiday next summer. So what we are doing is booking a late getaway for the 2 of us for 4 days so we still get to have that time together after the wedding but still get to book a family holiday in summer next year =) ...hope this helps xx
I have no shame in admitting that my bestie will have my son so I can go off with my OH when we get married. Kids probably won't even notice you're gone,they'll get spoilt. Go and have some time as newly weds
We are planning a mini moon for us and a family moon later in the year. Do whatever you feel is right for you and enjoy
I would feel majorly guilty and I would never leave them longer than a night anyway
We are just back our honeymoon. I gave two kids 9 & 4. I felt the same so I invited my parents along too. It meant we got our family holiday and also a bit of time just us. X
My 2 girls were 3&5 when we got married. We decided to have a honeymoon just the 2 of us although I felt guilty about leaving them they really enjoyed their "holiday" (they spent the time with their grandparents who only live about 10 minutes from where we live. But they enjoyed the break as much as we did and loved all the presents we brought them back