I'm absolutely livid.my daughter who is also my cheif bridesmaid has been told by her employer she can't have the day off for my wedding.... They have given her half day off till 2pm !! My wedding is at 3 and 35 miles away my wedding is in just over a weeks time
I don't know what to say to that I think it's awful. Have the employer given a reason? It's an important day and I'm really surprised the employer is being like that x
That's appalling! Really sorry to hear that. Hope you can figure things out x
they have said because shes new , shes been working there jst over a month other people have already booked time off, and no one will swap with her x
I know it's a bit naughty but I would be calling in sick the day before with a tummy bug! I can't believe they have been so heartless. x
ive just said that to her, I doubt she will shes afraid she will loose her job
I'm pretty sure if she already had holidays booked before she started they have to honour those dates. Xx
I believe that if she had already booked the time off with a previous employer the new employer have to honour that agreement
Did she say at interview she would require the day off? If so they know about it & most employers will honour prior commitments.
I would be ringing in sick if it was my mothers wedding day. That's awful for them not to give her the day off. Xx
They should honour dates she has booked prior to her starting the job. Can she take it up with some higher management?
Failing that I'd call in sick. No way I'd miss my own mothers wedding.
Get her to go to the doctors a week before and get signed off sick for a week xx
If i were your daughter I'd just take the day off regardless.. It's an important family do and I think they're being really unfair!!
I'd tell her to phone In sick the day before
She needs to have told her new employer in her interview and on the paperwork she had holidays booked then they could honour it although depending on policies they have they don't need too, personally they are being very un staff friendly to not try.
I think companies have to honour previously booked holiday as long as they were informed before hand, if not then she may well lose her job by taking the time off without authorisation :-(
Screw that. Id tell them to shove their job cos family come first to me xxx
Any holiday already arranged at the time she was hired has to be honoured x
Could your daughter not go above the manager and take it higher in the chain...if there is anyone higher? There's no way id miss my mum's wedding either! Hope you work it out ☺
Ask them to pay back the money you have spent on her dress hair make up shoes jewelry also ask if she can have it as unpaid leave alternatively as someone else said go to the Dr's get her signed off for a week
If the company has a head office or area manager tell her to contact them and explain the situation x
Thats awful. I would call in sick the day before and the day after with a tummy bug x
She shouldn't call in sick as they know she's asked for it off previously. Also someone will see her in her bridesmaids dress on fb etc.
If she didn't told them at her interview or on the application form then they dont have to honour it.
Personally I would ask to speak to higher management and if a resolution isn't found then I would resign.
I would call them personally and explain as you have here. I can't believe they would say no. Alternatively- there are other jobs and she will seriously regret not being there for you on your special day. They have take. A lot of time to find someone to fit the role - I can't imagine they would want to lose her over it.
If shes booked an event before enployment begun she has to have it off.simple proof of hotel room booking will be enough
I'd tell her to quit her job! She doesn't want to be working for someone like that anyway
Did she tell them at the interview that she can not work this date
I would be calling in sick!! And if they say anything tell them to shove their job ☺️ xx
Most places ask if u have any holidays booked etc when at the interview or soon as u start, did your daughter tell them that she needed that day off before she started the job?
Phone her employer yourself. This happened to my sister for my wedding so I called her staff Sargent (or which ever rank it was) and explained that I needed my sister more than the army did they were very understanding, sometimes I just takes someone a bit more pushy.. like a bridezilla perhaps?
ive no idea if there is another branch, she wouldn't be happy if I go in and have a word with them which is what I'm tempted to do x
Sorry, I hope she manages to sort it x
What kind of job is it? Is this her dream job, or something she could easily do at a hundred other places??
Lots of people are saying to call in sick, but most employers will keep a record of all requested holidays, even rejected ones. So if she does call in sick, it will flag up the coincidence, and she'll be dragged into a formal meeting the minute she goes back in.
If you intend on putting any wedding photos on facebook & tagging her in them, they will see them & she will end up in even more trouble.
As she's still so new, legally they don't even have to give her a warning & could just outright fire her.
If the job is just sitting on a till in Asda (no offence to anybody who works in Asda) then if it were me, I would just quit & she go and sit on a till for Sainsbury's instead!
If this is a dream job, that she's not able to do anywhere else, then she needs to either do some serious grovelling with her new boss and/or colleagues to change her shift, or she needs to seriously reconsider if this is the kind of company she wants to work for....
I mean, denying somebody a day off for their own mothers wedding.... thats a dick move
me too. ill keep u posted x
I agree with you , shes in residential care, I cant believe a company would be so heartless x
Had the same problem for my sisters wedding it was on the Saturday and I was only contracted for Saturdays, so booked it off and was staying overnight @ her reception venue, during ceremony got a voicemail TELLING me matter of factly that I HAD to work the Sunday as everyone has to sometimes.
I called back as soon as I could and said sorry but I am at my sisters wedding and would not be coming in, the response was incredibly rude, was told I was letting everyone down and possible disciplinary action for unavailability. Of course was all total hogwash they just thought I was a pushover x
I'm sure every job I've started, they have honoured my pre booked holidays. Have a look on the government site and see what it says. Xx
They have to honour anything pre booked before starting as long as she had informed her employer before starting x
ive looked on gov sites yes it states that they should honour the day or give her in paid leave, my other daughter is taking in paid leave so is my son x
They are within their rights although it is heartless of them. It isnt a legal obligation to honour holidays of new staff and business needs come first but they should show some humanity. Best of luck, I'm not sure what she can do other than try to talk to her manager or just call in sick although that is a risk.
I'm about to start a new job and they have said to have a extra week before starting as I told them at the interview x
I work in HR and if she'd advised of the date at interview then it would be honoured but if not then she wouldn't but it depends on the business.
If she is worried advise her to take it unpaid if they want to be funny about it. They should have asked if she had anything and honoured. If its a large company, if they try to take action against her to ring hr. They cant fire her for it. She can appeal and the hr department would go mad worrying over unfair dismissal. Good luck x
yes she told them at the interview, then said they will sort it, then they took on a new person who stuffed the rota up, they gave her the thu and fri off then changed it to her weekend off x
If she told them at the interview that she needed that day off and they said they would sort it, they have to honour it.
If she mentioned it at interview it has to be honoured. If it was me I'd go sick x
Call in sick, life's too short to miss your mothers wedding 🤗
That's really shit!!!! xxx
I start a new job September 1st but we are at a wedding that day, I told them when I was offered the job, my new employer has honoured it with pay, her new employers are being assholes, I would approach them again and remind them it was mentioned before their offer of a job good luck. X
I'd take it off if got sacked get another job fuck them
If she told them in her interview then they have to honor it
Get sent home sick the day before! Make sure they know your really sick!
I work in HR. My advice would be that she speaks to them. If she stated this at interview then it must be honoured unless they told her when offering her the job that the job offer was on the basis that she couldn't have the time off. Worst case scenario she would get unpaid leave but I'd definitely be telling her to speak to HR. We are humans too & nobody would agree its okay for her to miss her mothers wedding. I really hope you get it sorted xxx
Call in sick. If she told them at the interview then legally they cannot make her work. They have to honour all holiday already booked
Time off required declared at interview stage should be honoured
As an employer myself, the rule is that they offered her a job with the condition that she needs to have that day off. If it's written in her interview notes that she told them about this specific date, then it's like a binding contract and she can contact someone further up in the company!
Go to the doctors get a sick note for stress all this will have made her ill if she has a valid sick note there's nothing her employes can do obviously it will be for a couple of weeks and they don't have to pay her but that's what I would do xx
Is there anyway she can ask to take it as unpaid?! There's no way she can miss your wedding for a job! No job is ever worth it and memories either that or she rings in sick and deals with the consequences (if any) afterwards! X they sounds a bit heartless and don't deserve her
She should tell them they can put her down to work all they want but she won't be there as she has a more important event to be at and if they can't find someone to cover it's their problem. Even if it goes down as unpaid leave I'd be adamant I wasn't going in in this scenario...
All she needs to do is contact head office. Which company is she working for?
I'd call in sick. What a heartless boss she has
I work in HR in Care, and as we are so stretched we would be likely to do the same. However, this also means we are very unlikely to dismiss due to staff shortages.
I would recommend she look at other companies as a back up, get her recent DBS registered online for 13 quid (gov website) and she will walk straight into another job. We take new staff on with immediate starts with an online DBS. Hope this helps!
She cant miss your big day!!
What job does she work in if you don't mind me asking x
She should of given more notice to be fair. I've booked some days off for mine and mine isn't till 2nd September. At my work place you need to give 4 weeks notice. She'll just have to take a day off sick instead?
Go sick xx
Tell her to phone in sick x
I'd take the day off. It was mentioned at interview
My son has just started his job and told them at interview he had my wedding coming up and a holiday he's been there 2 weeks this week and I get married in 2 they have honoured them even though there are other people on leave
As a manager I find this statement horrifying there are always round this. If the company valued your sister then the day off would not be a problem. Did she not tell them at the interview before the job was offered? If she did and it is in writing then they have to honour this there is nothing they can do x
I'm certain most employers would honour a pre booked event if disclosed at interview stages, my hubby has just started a new job and told them he'd be needing 2 weeks off in September for our honeymoon and they are totally fine with it
Ring in sick
She needs to go to the wedding, then resign
I'd be ringing in sick
Just tell her to take the day off there is a disciplinary procedure they have to follow so she will get a verbal warning at most balls to them she deserves her mothers wedding day off xxxx
If she told them about this day before they employed her then they have to honour it by law. They don't have to pay her but they do have to let her have it off! Tell her to tell them she will be taking the day off and if they sack her she can have them done for unfair dismissal!!!
I'm horrified both by the fact your daughter's employers will not let her have the time off (if she gave them good notice) and also at the number of people who think it is OK for her to call in sick. If she calls in sick she will have marked herself up as a liar and will never believed in the future. I would speak to someone higher (I imagine it is her immediate boss that has said no as they may only be concerned about covering the shift) and if the worst comes to the worst she could just take the time off ... at least she would be being straight and honest.
I do hope she manages to persuade them to get the time off to be there for your special day.
It is unfair and her employer is in the wrong but tell her to speak to them about unpaid leave xx
If she told them at the interview that this day was pre planned and she needed to be off.. and they agreed to it her employer has to honour it..
Is it a job she really really wants? If not no show it and face the music later. Also, get as much info as you can regarding allowing pre booked holiday. I've got 2 weekends off in a row and I've only worked one shift. But they knew I'd made plans before I took the job so... if she has a union she needs to get involved asap. But yeah, be prepared for a shit storm and tell em where to go lmao :) xx