UKbride Member Request 30 Jul 2017

I was a maid of honour for my friend and the planning of the hen so was so...

I was a maid of honour for my friend and the planning of the hen so was so stressful as no one wanted to do what the bride wanted to do. She wanted afternoon tea and a show they wanted strippers and clubbing. I chose what the bride wanted however it caused a lot of stress and anger with other. As a result of this I really don't think I want a hen do as I don't want more failings out. Would it be better to have a hen so which is more for friends and then a more private hen do for family members.

Jade Vincent
Jade Vincent 30 Jul 2017

Hi Hun! I'm worried about this too. All depends on how outgoing your family are really. Some of my family would mingle well with my friends then others I'm not so sure 🤔 But it's your hen do! You do what's right for you. Ignore everyone else! If they don't like it then stuff them! You could have a hen do and a bridal shower so ones relaxed and then the others abit more lively? X

Jaki Green
Jaki Green 30 Jul 2017

Do what you want to do, if they're not happy with your choice they don't have to be there x

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 31 Jul 2017

I'm having a separate ones but only because my step daughter and niece will be 15 and can't go out, plus my mum doesn't drink and has walking disabilities so is limited what she can do x

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 31 Jul 2017

I am planning on having separate ones as my sisters will be 13 and 16 at the time so wont be able to come out drinking. Plus it lets you have 2 partys and more likely to be able to keep the peace. However if they dont want what you wont then they dont have to come x

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 31 Jul 2017

Yes, I would say so especially if family and friends are very different and then you get to enjoy two x

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 2 Aug 2017

Our family's fell out over my hen do best thing to do is not ask what everyone wants tell them what's happening how much done . I got caught up in his family vs my family over trying to compromise with them


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