Help im having grandma-in-law trouble!! My h2b's granny has been going on about how she'd like me to have his cousin as a bridesmaid since before we got engaged and I've always politely not really given an answer and just said well that's to sort out once we're actually engaged etc. I've already got 5, his sister, my sister and 3 friends, and I'm happy with this. I'm planning on asking them soon. However his grandma has said to him that she'd really like it if I would choose his cousin (she will be 12 when the wedding comes round) as she'd like to see her in a bridesmaid dress and the cousin would love it getting all dressed up and being a part of it, and she'd like to see both her granddaughters there at the aisle. I'm not close to her by any means and hardly ever see her nor does my h2b and I'm not going to be influenced into picking her. How do I avoid a kick off because I'm sure the next time I see her she will be bringing this up with me and I'll have to politely say no... My h2b said I'd just have to explain that she can still get dressed up and be a part of it, she'll be sat at the front and will still be involved in the big day, just not as a bridesmaid. I already have a flowergirl - our daughter who will be 4.
Hi I would tell her that you just can't afford it :)
For me it would really depend on how old is the grandma and would there be potentially another chance to see her granddaughter at the wedding as bm. If this was the only chance, I probably would give in. If not, would ask htb for help in this.
put your foot down & listen to your h2b. its your day.
Maybe you could find another "role" for her to try and keep granny happy? x
I would personally just be honest, my grandmother has been trying to tell me to invite an ex-wife of my mums cousin who she gets on well with but I just had to tell her bluntly my opinions on it, she wasn't happy but accepted it is our day and our choice.
I think the husband to be needs to talk to his grandmother and explain rather than you!
If it means that much to a 12 year old to be a bridesmaid make her dream come true