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UKbride Member Request 28 Jul 2017

Anyone else get a hint of jealousy when someone books their wedding before...

Anyone else get a hint of jealousy when someone books their wedding before theirs? Not in a bad way, just as in you wish yours was sooner! I booked mine for 2019 because we need that long to save up, just really wish we could afford to do it sooner : ( !! Xx

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Kerry Stevens
Kerry Stevens 28 Jul 2017

But theirs will be over, and you'll still have yours to look forward to! It's not always a bad thing!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

u dont need to spend alot we only spent about £500 but was a special day :) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

We booked ours for 2019 and I felt like this after my mother got married for the fourth time last weekend! So we rethought things and after pulling in some favours from family member like cake making invites flowers and a car we can bring ours forward by a whole year. You really don't need to spend the earth. Simple is just as perfect. Good luck xxxxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Yes every time but now ours is 11 months away. Only one wedding before ours in our family and then it's us

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 28 Jul 2017

Hi I just would like to have met my Fiance 1-2 years earlier as I will be 34 when we marry next year . Good luck :)

Rebecca Sullivan
Rebecca Sullivan 28 Jul 2017

I feel the same, not in a bad way just wish I could have ours sooner but need to save up to ensure that we can have the day we have dreamed of. Could do it sooner and cheaper but really don't want to ..., catch 22 lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

At least you will have yours to look forward too when theirs is over. If you wanted to get married sooner I'm sure you can do little things to cut the cost down, but it all depends on the type of wedding your wanting and venue, our venue cost us £6,000 but you can get much cheaper, as not everyone likes to spend so much money just for one day, We booked ours last November and it's only 14 days away! Good luck xxx

Catriona White
Catriona White 28 Jul 2017

I get brief glimmers of envy. We had an 18 month engagement (1year to go now) but I could have done in sooner, just had to plan around family (a lot of mine are flying in from the USA and it's a big trip for them). When I get impatient with how long I have to wait I park planning for a week or more until I can enjoy it again.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

At least once theirs is over with you have yours to look forward too mines not until 2019 either and there's a few before mine but going to them just makes me more excited for my own...and you can get lots of ideas about what you like and don't like :)

Lily O'shaughnessy
Lily O'shaughnessy 28 Jul 2017

Im exactly the same! we're getting married in 2019 because we cant afford to do it sooner! 😔 just in hopes that the time will fly by! xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Yes I felt like this at times. Not in a bad way but just wished it was mine sooner. I still get that feeling now when people book their weddings and mine is over. I just wish I could do it all over again x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Yep. I know FOUR people who all got engaged after me... yet 1 of them is now already married, and the other 3 have all got their dates booked and will be married before me

It's frustrating, but it's just one of those things!
On the bright side, when it finally comes round to yours, they'll all be jealous & wishing they could re-live their days!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

I had a 2 year engagement, it killed me watching other people have their days but when mine came it was incredible. I know exactly how you feel, but when your time comes you won't care about anything else. I get envious now of people who still have their wedding to come!!! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Yes all the time. I've seen people get engaged and married since I first got engaged. We chose to wait 2 yrs from getting engaged to get married but how I wish time would move along. I'm trying to absorb every second of planning and dreaming about how our day will be, but can't beat the real thing

Amy B
Amy B 28 Jul 2017

I'm jealous of everyone who has theirs booked! We haven't even set a date!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

My daughter booked their two and a half years ago we would look on here and think the same but it goes so fast enjoy the planning they get married November x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Yes! I know someone who got engaged way after us, my fiancé jokingly said about not being allowed to marry before us after she was talking about a may wedding but this made me really annoyed. They were together for 6 years so I didn't see why they thought they had to rush in getting married in less than a year. We've been engaged for 2 years and don't get married for another 6 weeks.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Don't worry, it will absolutely fly by !!! Make the most of the planning time to stay calm & relaxed

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 28 Jul 2017

It allows you be excited for longer and you will still have yours to look forward to but I do get what you mean. I am so excited, I want mine to be now x

Dee Seaton
Dee Seaton 28 Jul 2017

I know that feeling! We are having ours in 2020 and I know it will come around quickly but seems so far away! It's a nightmare watching other people get engaged and a year later they are married ! BUT I know that because we have more time to save and look around we will have the wedding we both dreamed of :-)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Yep! 2 people got engaged after me and both their weddings are before mine. Really happy for them but definitely wish mine was sooner! Although only 5 weeks to go now! Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

We are planning ours for 2019 as it will take us that long to save up. The found out friends of ours are having theirs in 2018 at the same venue we were planning! We will just have to make sure ours is better ;)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Lj its gonna b amazein xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Trust me, it will fly by and it's natural to be excited. I'm loving being engaged and am not wishing the time away. Loads of people are getting married before us and I'm really excited for their weddings. Try and enjoy everyone else's and be happy for them. Try to also remember it's about the marriage and the wedding is an added bonus! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

I know how you feel our wedding seemed so far away but it goes in a flash so enjoy the planning and excitement. Hope nice your married it's done x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

No, not really. I'm just enjoying the planning process. We got engaged March 2016 and aren't getting married until August 2018. Partly due to costs but also because I just wanted to enjoy the planning process. One of my friends got engaged the month after me and got married in March and another (my bridesmaid) got engaged 4 months after me and gets married the week before me. I don't mind as they way I see it is I want them to get married when they want and I'm happy for them. I don't control the dates. So long as they didn't book the same date or have it the day before or day after then that was ok with me. It's best just not to think about what others are doing and focus on your planning as you'll enjoy it. If you feel there is a long wait and not a lot to do then maybe make a wedding scrap book of ideas or something. It'll keep your mind occupied on your wedding and you'll have some great ideas by the end of it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Same! Waiting till 2020, I want it to happen sooner but never mind! Just gives us time to plan and save :) x

Charlotte Catt
Charlotte Catt 28 Jul 2017

Look on the bright side, you get more time to enjoy planning your wedding. I got engaged in May and probably won't be able to afford to get married until 2020, but I'm loving discussing all my ideas with my family and friends =)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

I get similar feelings about other things. Mainly buying my own home...
Its normal though.. I'm jealous of several friends but I am also very happy for them at the same time :)

As long as you acknowledge it it'll be fine.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Yeah I used to!!! We had been engaged 13 years sooo felt like it was never going to happen x

Charlotte Grant
Charlotte Grant 28 Jul 2017

I set my date and a few weeks later a girl I work with set hers for the week before. It makes me SO happy that we are organising everything together and get to speak about our arrangements! I have no envy at all, I'm still marrying the love of my life, it just happens to be a week after someone I know.

Scott Sanders
Scott Sanders 28 Jul 2017

yes I know this exact feeling! xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

My best friend booked hers two weeks after getting Engaged for 2018, I've been engaged 3 years and I still haven't booked a venue. I didn't get jealous but it definitely gave me a kick up the backside haha!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

This is like me Charlotte Elizabeth Hope when everyone gets engaged after me & are now married

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 28 Jul 2017

My sister and I got engaged same time she needed till 2019 to save up I could have had either 2018 or 2020 but didn't want to wait that long so went with 2018 as we already had funds for the wedding . What I think is great is that when all my wedding tasks are done hers will be starting now we just need our other sister to get engaged and married in 2020 and the wedding planning won't end

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Think you should delete this post or at least remove the idiots. I gave my opinion and now I'm getting abuse.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jul 2017

Once its over its over. You get extra time to imagine and daydream

Nicola Jones
Nicola Jones 28 Jul 2017

We had thought of 2013 but I lost my sister in the April so no one was in a mood for a wedding. so we though 2014 but my nephew got married in that year. So we thought 2015 but I had a baby in August! Yay we thought - 2016 will be us but nope - my cousin's daughter and my brother got married!! So Christmas 2016 we sent out Save The Dates for Nov 2017 before anyone or anything else hijacked our time!! And then my h2b's nephew went and set a date for next weekend :/ Kinda feel like my thunder's been knicked! But on the plus side for all those years I've been buying bits at a time so all we have left to pay for is the Church, the food after at the village gastro-pub and the party at the village hall the next day (there is no way we could have done the whole thing in one day!!)

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