Hi there! I'd love to get some feedback from other brides. I was just wondering, has anyone not chosen a maid-of-honour? I ideally want four bridesmaids, but as they're all so close to me, I don't want to choose one, especially as I want them all to be equal in my decisions, and have all helped me individually? I also am unsure of what to do, as I am future maid-of-honour for one of them, but I just simply don't want anyone to feel left out? I'd love to hear other peoples' opinions :-). TIA
I haven't asked mine yet but know who I want to ask. I won't be having a maid of honour for the same reasons, I couldn't pick! Just be honest with them I'm sure they will understand, it comes from a place of love :) x
I'm having my 2 sisters and my h2bs best mans girlfriend as my bridesmaids and I'm not having a maid of honour as I couldn't choose which one to have so decided against it xx
I only have bridesmaids not a MOH forthe exact same reason xx
Hi I have four close friends as my bridesmaids but I chose my oldest friend to be my maid of honour and the others are not upset by it! like you they have all helped me in different ways they all have the same dresses and gifts as good friends are they are just happy to be a part of your special day x
I haven't chosen a maid of honour for this exact reason, my four bridesmaids are all individually incredible and I love them all! x
I have my sister as maid of honour an my h2b sister bridesmaid with my cuz only having a small wedding about 35 People xx
Ill be having 4 bridesmaids.... 1 of those will be 10 years old and is my bestie so she is my chief bridsemaid (ssshhh dont tell the others)😉
I'm not having a maid of honour as such but I've said to my two best friends I will toss a coin on the day and decide who will sign my marriage certificate!
Just do what they do in friends and make it a deal. To all swap it around.. Well that's if you are all the same. Group of friends 😊 xx
I do have a maid of honour but all my bridesmaids have equal say in everything that happens. We're all a very close group of friends but I've known my maid of honour for the longest. Noone has felt left out because it's just a title, they know i love them all the same :p
I have 4 bridesmaids that are all close friends so I have no maid of honour and no one has ever mentioned it
Initially I had my bestie as Matron of honour and my daughter as bridesmaid....then got back in touch with other bestie (who I have known for over 30years!) And asked her to be bridesmaid....now my other bestie has split with her husband and so didn't want to be Matron of honour...so I now have 3 bridesmaids....even tho my daughter, who is 20, keeps telling me she is chief bridesmaid...lol
They are all big parts of my life and didn't want to single any of them out so ALL the same xx
I have 4 bridesmaids and no maid of honor for the same reasons I grew up with 3 of them and the other is my SIL2B they have all been fab and I couldn't have done it without them. Im sure they will all be fine with your desision especially if you explain to then I get married in 2 days x
I didn't have a maid of honour, just my sister and a friend as my bridesmaids, I didn't feel either was more special than the other so left it as just bridesmaids x
I picked my niece as I didn't want to choose between the others.
I don't have one for exactly the same reasons as you and just have four bridesmaids who are all best friends of mine! I was maid of honour for one of them. Not sure if anyone of them weren't happy with my decision of not to have one. But I love them all and that was my decision xx
I was my sisters 'chief bridesmaid' (as I'm not married yet!) and I'm only having her and my best friend. They are both equal in my eyes. But I'm going to give them different jobs to do etc! I just haven't said it officially so I will let them think whatever they want! I doubt it will come up at this stage! Hey are also having he same dress in different shades but I will let them pick between themselves on the colours!
I have four bridesmaids as I was in same situation. All from different friendship groups who I'm equally close to. One of whom I was maid of honour for last year but I don't think she minds at all. I've found that naturally one of them has pretty much stepped up to doing more like organising hen do etc but think she is fine that she doesn't have a specific title xx
I don't have one for exactly the same reason, I love both mine equally and wouldn't want to seem like I'm favouring one over the other.. I'm sure if you keep them all just as bridesmaids that they'll just be over the moon that you've asked them to be apart of your wedding. X
I'm not having a maid
Of honour just me my two sisters and h2b cousin. I didn't want the extra pressure of having to choose xx
I asked my 2 best friends to be bridesmaids, neither is a maid of honour - why do you need to differentiate?
I didn't have one :) it worked out great and nobody was offended, everyone understood
Every one of them stepped up and had their own little part to play and it worked beautifully. X
Only had my nieces, so no maid of honour, as none really old enough.
I just had 6 flower girls this last weekend and it went perfectly, no maid of honour as like you I wouldn't know who from family and friends to choose.
I'm having 4 bridesmaids and no maid of honour. Couldn't choose.
I have been bridesmaid to both of my sister and neither of them had one maid of honour, all bridesmaids were equal. At least that's what they told me ;)
I'm not having a MOH as my adult bridesmaids are my daughters and neices. I will be assigning each of them an important task for the day, so they all get an equal role
I've got 2 adults and a child as bridesmaids. No maid of honour. Didnt see any point as my H2B hasn't got a best man either he's got 3 grooms men x
I had 2 bridesmaids no maid of honour x
I had 3 bridesmaids and none of them were maid of honour. In my eyes all 3 were equal and I made it clear to them that they were all equal. But one of my sisters was a nightmare. Claiming to be maid of honor every turn round and causing absolute drama and forgive my rudeness but all the drama her and her husband caused were bullshit. I am now not talking to her or her husband because of all the drama. I should have had 3 friends doing bridesmaid's instead
Hi I am only having 1 bridesmaid my H2B's Sister :)
Im only having 2 flower girls. No bridesmaids as did not want any.
You'll need to choose one as a witness, it's a legal requirement
I have asked 3 best friends and my daughter, no one will be M of H, all equal, with daughter being a witness.
I don't have one, but I have given them all special tasks on the day that are usually covered by the made of honor. That way they all feel involved
I had 4 put names in a hat in front of them and pulled one out at random x
I had my 2 sisters and 2 best friends I couldn't choose between them all so just had bridesmaids :)
I've had my best friend as maid of honour and then family as just bridesmaids x
I haven't got one as I wouldn't be able to choose between my 2 sisters! I can't see it causing any problems at all.
I'm not having a maid of honour, just 3 very special bridesmaids
I'm not having a maid of honour just 2 bridesmaids my sister and my sister in law, I didn't want a big bridal party
I'm yet to even save up yet and start planning. I have asked people before but I think everything is going to change as some of the ladies I asked before we've now become distant. So I think when the time comes I'm going to do a rethink. But for my maid of honour it will be my big sister as she has been there for me growing up and I have always looked up to her as my role model.
I didn't have a maid of honour for the same reason but it meant that my three bridesmaids didn't really know what they needed to do as I wasn't bothered but it did mean I missed out on someone wafting my dress for the aisle etc so if you do choose not to just let them all know what tasks you want them to do for you if any
No I didn't x
I haven't chosen a maid of honour because I'm close to all my bridesmaids in different ways and I don't wanna hurt any of their feelings
I am not having a maid of honour, do what you want its your day!
I'm just calling all three of mine bridesmaids not bothering with specific titles everyone is being treated the same only really need the titles if you have a ton of maids with some married and some children etc
I had this exact same problem. So I thought about who the one person who I absolutely couldn't be without on the day - my mum! So my mum is my maid of honour! She will be wearing a mother of the bride outfit but in the same colour as the bridesmaids
A matron or honour is usually a married friend that you want as bridesmaid, chief bridesmaid is someone special to the bride
I am not having a maid of honour as I want all my bridesmaids to be equal x
I though the Martron of honour got the title as she was married. If not married was then known as the Chief Bridesmaid. Which meant they walked with the best man in the bridal party .
I had no matron of honours and no groomsmen at our wedding. Simply because we didn't want to cause any upset and it wasn't a big deal to us to have them anyway. I wasn't having any bridesmaids either, until a few months before I decided on giving my 4 year old niece the role as she would never have the chance to do it as all others are married already. Plus at 4 she is old enough to remember the experience so we did that instead. TBH, the traditional way of doings is up for debate these days, you can change things around. We stripped lots of stuff out of ours as it pleased us more and did the things we wanted. None of it was out of place.
I had 3 bridesmaids and a junior btidesmaid. Was just easier not choosing a maid of honour and they all helped out equally.
I have four bridesmaids, and I haven't got a maid of honour. You don't really need one