Debbie Watt
Debbie Watt 26 Jul 2017

I'm wondering about my wedding dj we're having a dj instead of a band as it...

I'm wondering about my wedding dj we're having a dj instead of a band as it was way cheaper and they can play anything really. But my dj told me she has already made our play list for the wedding but she hasnt even asked what type of music we like or if there is anything we would like played. I'm nervous as I've hired djs before for birthdays etc and they have always asked if there is a type of music i like. So is it normal for a wedding dj just to make a play list on what they decide..and or should I ask to see it? I don't want to be rude I'm just not sure what is normal or not. Thanks in advance x

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Amy B
Amy B 26 Jul 2017

I used to DJ, and never made a playlist before speaking to anyone.. nor have I heard of it! I would ask to see it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

My DJ did but we have used him loads before so he knows exactly what we do and don't like. He sent me a run down of what he was planning and it was spot on what we would of wanted anyway xx

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 26 Jul 2017

Hi I would get back to the Dj and ask to be able to listen to the play list:)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

My dj for my wedding has asked us to write a list of the songs we want and songs we don't want. The dj then runs through the list with u making suggestions and taking into account your taste. Should never just write a playlist without discussing with u want u want played. Is speak to them!

Debbie Watt
Debbie Watt 26 Jul 2017

Thank you Amy. .I think I will ask ..im pretty nervous about it x

Stephanie Evans
Stephanie Evans 26 Jul 2017

I'm having a DJ at our wedding and he asked us to ask some of our guest what music they would like to hear aswell as us, you should say something x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

I would ask to see it. We were asked to choose 30 songs we wanted. Guests could choose and he would slot in others around them from what we said we liked x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

Deffo not normal. Our DJ has asked what types of music we want. If you're worried ask them for a copy of the playlist, you can also insist on certain things to be played. They wont know your first dance song if you don't tell them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

How can she do a playlist until she has spoken to you and has an idea of what you want.
Maybe she has a generic playlist for weddings that she knows works well, but she should still be having that discussion to check it is what YOU want

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

Ours didn't ask us till on the day, We told him our first dance song then told him to just play a mix as we had older family members and young ones too.. I wasn't disappointed by his choices He also played requests when asked

Sarah Nicholls
Sarah Nicholls 26 Jul 2017

I would deffinatly ask for a copy of the playlist then if ur not happy change it. At the end of the day you are paying for them. Ive got a meeting with my dj closer to the wedding to discuss music. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

We're not having a dj or band on our wedding but I've had djs in the past for birthdays and they've always asked for play list or genre. I've been to weddings where you could go up to the dj and request music too

Lesley Smith
Lesley Smith 26 Jul 2017

I would make a list of songs you def want eg first dance father daughter if having and something if wanted for all to dance to.

They might mean a playlist which is the party songs eg dancing queen ymca etc.

But ask to see it if your not happy say so and say whay you know will be enjoyed

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

I sent a playlist to my dj and he took all into considerable and judged it on the day. He played some songs that wasn't on the list but it worked - as it's their job to keep the dance floor full and that's what he did. Definitely ask for it or send over a list of songs you want to be played. Good luck xx

Debbie Watt
Debbie Watt 26 Jul 2017

Thank you all ..I am Definitely asking to see the play list...I'm sure it is fine but I want it to be perfect 😍x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

You are paying them ask to see it and change what you want!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

I gave my DJ a full list of songs! Our RSVP had a cassette on the back for guests to write their chosen song! Ended up being a brilliant night because we had all picked the music! Good luck

Rebecca Bradley
Rebecca Bradley 26 Jul 2017

nope my do asked age range of guests ,amount of guests(so know the volume and equipment needed) type of music and any specific requested songs. i gave him an hour by hour theme to run by for example
1st hour chart music
2nd 80s floorfillers
3rd cheese
4th dance and let him fill the hours to my likes

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

You are supposed to have a meeting with them to discuss what you want played 6 weeks before date

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

They should of definitely asked for your opinions first. We're not having either, We're just downloading a load of songs onto an iPhone or iPad and play the music off of that. Much easier and cheaper

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

My partner is a dj and this isn't normal he meets up with the bride and groom to create the playlist of songs they want x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

Oh no, we haven't made a playlist as such, the dj we have hired for our wedding is the same person who did our engagement party and he has said if there's anything in particular we want played to let him know and he'll make sure he has it, but other than that he's more than happy to play what we and our guests want to hear xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

Hmmm I've never heard of that before! I'd tell her that you want to be able to request songs throughout the evening and also have some of your own favourite songs added!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

My DJ sent us a HUGE questionnaire asking everything about us, kur families and our tastes in music and asked about music for every aspect of event, from what we wanted playing whilst the guests were arriving (we had Big Band) to what to have playing during food (we chose a selection of our favourite love songs that we hadn't been able to incorporate into the ceremony), plus any songs/ genres we really wanted or didn't want, it was incredibly detailed and he was amazing how he managed to mix our electic choices kf songs into the evening seamlessly. He also asked us what we wanted for the penultimate and final song of the evening. I'd definitely ask to see the playlist before hand I can't understand why they'd make one without asking you first 🤔

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

We have hired a Dj and he has ask us for our play list. Defo ask to see it as it ur special day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

I think you should speak to them. Our wedding isn't for another year and we've already had an email from our DJ asking us to think about songs.

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 26 Jul 2017

I would fully expect that you either see that playlist or at least the dj talks to you about what you want. We have already started a list of songs we definitely don't want and there's no way I'm having them played x

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 26 Jul 2017

I would expect to give the DJ a playlist or at least a list of likes and dislikes x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

Our Dj asked what we liked to include it in playlist. His only stipulati was that he always finishes with the same song but we were happy with song he chose x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jul 2017

It's definitely your wedding therefore your say over what kind of music you would like to be played! Phone the dj up and discuss what you would like or not like played.

Amy Taylor
Amy Taylor 27 Jul 2017

I wouldn't be happy with this. The dj creates the atmosphere for the evening. It is the bit your evening guests are going to remember. Your wedding should be personal to you so having no control over the music seems crazy to me. What if there's a certain song that has a bad memory etc. I would definitely ask to see the playlist, no wedding should be the same so you can't just have a generic playlist. You're paying the dj for a service not something you can do on iTunes.

Jaki Green
Jaki Green 28 Jul 2017

Yeah that's weird and definitely not normal x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jul 2017

She should Defo ask what kind of music u both like I had a Dj at my wedding and I was asked to provide a list of songs we both like any self respecting Dj would ask u they would not just go and make a list up for u that's very rude if I were u I would shop around for another Dj that one don't sound very good at their job either ask what the play list is and change it or like I say go with ur gut u know it's wrong change Dj u will feel better x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 Jul 2017

I would expect to sit down with the dj and tell him/her my playlist, not the other way round. It's your day and your money. If she can't appreciate that maybe you should think about looking elsewhere

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 Jul 2017

Yes check the playlist and if you don't like it asked it to be changed. It'll be a crap night if the music is not what you like

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 Jul 2017

The dj should ask you what music you would like on the playlist ours rang the week before to ask what type of music decade etc, we just had a general mix of everything and everyone was on the dance floor and some point through the night and the music suited everyone. Xx

Shakira Badwal
Shakira Badwal 30 Jul 2017

Our dj asked us what we would like played but we told him to create the play list his self as we had no preference. It's their job so should know what works best.

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