UKbride Member Request 25 Jul 2017

Hi, can I have a post please I'm engaged. Want to be married in 2020. Do...

Hi, can I have a post please I'm engaged. Want to be married in 2020. Do you think it's fair that I just want a registry wedding between me and my partner and two witnesses. It's not about money but more to the fact his family don't bother and i dont talk to mine . I never wanted a big wedding but scared of the family arguing that they weren't invited. Any advice is welcome.We would prefer to just have a reception part where everyone is invited. But I don't want to disappoint anyone

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 25 Jul 2017

Do what u want

Stacey Hutchinson
Stacey Hutchinson 25 Jul 2017

It is completely up to you and your partner how you want your day. If you don't want a big wedding don't have one, get married just you and your witnesses, then tell everyone at a meal, that way no one can argue.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 25 Jul 2017

Hi I agree with Alys if both families don't bother with you they have no right to be disappointed. Good luck :)

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 25 Jul 2017

I think you should do what you want to do x

Donna Chiles
Donna Chiles 25 Jul 2017

just explain to your family you want a very intimate ceremony and yr having a reception to celebrate after. its yr wedding after all not theirs , good luck x

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 25 Jul 2017

It's your wedding do what makes you happy x

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 26 Jul 2017

Its your wedding and it should be about what makes you happy not other people. x

Alison Jarvis
Alison Jarvis 30 Jul 2017

Elope, get married abroad or go on a cruise and get married by the captain, just remember it's your special day and do something special. Then tell your families at a later date when they contact you

Andrea Tron
Andrea Tron 23 Aug 2017

As people have said, it's your wedding, but that doesn't really help you!

We're only inviting 5 family members to ours, our friends are our family aside from parents and my brothers.

The rest of the family will be invited to the evening do but that's all. Most of them are Christian too and won't like that we're having a heathen hand fasting ceremony. (We're having a separate registry office 'sign the paperwork' bit with just witnesses 1 week before our wedding).

If you do expect a backlash or arguments, you could always marry in secret, then tell people when you have your reception. Most 'well wishers' will put the pressure on before the wedding for you to change it or invite them, so if you believe they will cause you stress, don't tell them at all.

No matter what you do, seems therescalways someone else who's not happy - so do what it takes to make you happy first.


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