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UKbride Member Request 23 Jul 2017

My partner is ex service and is an above knee amputee and has very bad ptsd,...

My partner is ex service and is an above knee amputee and has very bad ptsd, I want to make the day so specially for him and to try and make it as stress free as possible, but I have no idea where to start on planning a wedding let alone my own!! Scary!

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Jul 2017

I'd start with finding your venue, then wether you want a church wedding or a registrar somewhere and a date , then seeing if both are free on the day you choose
Everything after that, are your dress, suites, and all the little details xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Jul 2017

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Lisa Brooks
Lisa Brooks 24 Jul 2017

Hi have you tried the website called bridebook bridebook.co.uk I found it very helpful giving ideas of what to do each month

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jul 2017

It might be worth involving him. Your wedding will be so special regardless, but see what he is comfortable with - in case there are any issues with surprises x

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 24 Jul 2017

My partner had mental health problems including severe PTSD. The venue we picked was the only one we visited that he actually felt comfortable and relaxed in so I think it's def worth involving your other half in that. Once you know where you want it and you get a few ideas from him in terms of other stuff he might like you can organise it and make it special for him xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jul 2017

First thing I did, if it helps you at all, is to Google one of those wedding checklists. Then I went through and crossed off all the things that weren't important to me or I didn't want. Also, sign yourself up to Pinterest and have a shufty about. Once you've seen some ideas, it's starts getting easier. Also, have a drive around the local area where you want to get married, look for pretty places and see if there are venues, sometimes the best places aren't advertised

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 24 Jul 2017

Definitely start with the venue and the date then everything else goes from there. Have a look for a few checklists that help to keep you on the right track. Good luck x

Katrina Anderson
Katrina Anderson 24 Jul 2017

My partner struggles with anxiety so we've booked a country house for the weekend. There'll be lots of people around to support him and help out as we've 30 people staying with us. There'll be no one but family and friends there as it's a private venue and we don't have to worry about transport or running late. It's a short walk across the courtyard. My partner is also going to go in after all the guests just before me so it's not as stressful waiting. I think the right venue will make all the difference and thinking about what's important for you two, not tradition.

Cara Henn
Cara Henn 24 Jul 2017

I'm an ex forces nearly wife too! If you wanna chat and swap tips please feel free to message me. We're both in the same boat 🚣☺️☺️ xxx

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 24 Jul 2017

Hi look for your venue first then see if your registrar has the date you want available then go from there good luck :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jul 2017

Me too I'd start with simply asking him to tell you what he doesn't want.
The list will be shorter and he'll feel less pressure than if he thinks he's saying no yo all your suggestions x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jul 2017

Some venues ( like ours ) do / provide everything for you , we only need to book a registrar and photographer , so it's worth looking around and finding what's best for you both .. good luck

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 26 Jul 2017

I would agree with Emma Gibson about involving him and ensuring he feels relaxed in the venue. Would also suggest that you avoid anything with sudden bangs, possibly smoke/dry ice or anywhere he would feel trapped by a crowd (i.e. dancing crowd blocking the door) etc, etc. Happy marriage.

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