Children at weddings, yay or nay?
Hi it depends on your point of view we have no children coming to ours but not because we don't want them there maybe 1 toddler if babysitter not available, We love children but most of our guests have children in their teens:)
It's a no for mine, children would be ok but no babies / toddlers, I don't want a screaming baby during my ceremony.
We have a limit of guests we can have in our chapel so we aren't inviting children due to this. I've been to weddings before where they've said no to children and it was nice to see the parents have a night off and have a drink!
We had over 40 kids so organised a lot by way of entertainment so parents could still enjoy themselves
Yay they're a part of the family!
Its a yes from me..... love kids... and if they scream during the ceremony so be it!! :D I'm a wedding Photographer I've seen it all... and I think seeing the little ones running around in their outfits makes a wedding! :D
I am having kids at mine if as both me n h2b have kids on each side and most of my familly and friend have kids xxx
Only niece and 2 nephews for us. Else we'd have 1/3 children!
Yes from me, but I have a baby and wouldn't attend a wedding if he wasn't able to come personally x
We're only having children of family members at ours xx
ive been to both weddings with and without children i say nay cz the parents cnt enjoy your big day and you have to rememeber to entertain the children as well then x
Personal choice but for us it was a definite yes. Everyone who had kids and was invited had their kids invited too! To us a wedding is a time for family which includes kids. :) Xxx
We had our wedding outside in tipis as we have four kids so it was very important to make them and their friends part of a very big part of our day. So we had bouncy castles football pitches. We had 40 kids in the day then 60 in the evening we didn't even see them as so busy also we had a magic mirror which they loved the best day ever and wouldn't have it any other way xx good luck
We're having the bridal parties children and our children only up until the reception then we all have baby sitters to take the children back to rooms or home so the adults can have some drinks and fun without having to be responsible parents for a couple of hours. They will be there for the ceremony and wedding breakfast ect
Totally depends on what you want
We had immediate family kids only because otherwise the guest list would have been immense!
We didn't apart from my step daughter which was our flower girl & two page boys. There are too many children in our family & friends so we had to draw the line somewhere. All our guests seemed very happy a no kids wedding, they could have a drink & be merry!
Thankfully there aren't any young children in my family so that's not an issue for us :P but tbh it'd probably be nay for us
We are only having siblings children and our own daughter as if we had more than that the wedding would be over run with kids. There needs to be a balance. If any friends have a very small baby when the wedding comes would make allowances then.
I don't mind either way
We had our own and nieces/nephew but no others as would have been an extra 40 guests plus all our friends loved not having their children there as could enjoy the day more. X
Yep wouldn't be the same without them x
it's a yay for me I want my kids niece's and nephews ECT to be a part of my big day I also have plenty friends who are single mum's so they will be bringing there kids. we have hired a bouncy castle face painters arts and crafts glitter tattoos ECT to keep the kids busy for a few hours xx
Not for us, but it depends on the couple. There's no right or wrong answer, just personal preference but I think immediate family children should be invited, the only child we are having is my fiances nephew, but no screaming babies or toddlers running around for us, it's just not what we want!
No for me. We dont have any and dont want chidren ourselves. I am having one flower girl who is eleven. If i knew lots of people with kids it might be different but only a couple so. I think its call about respecting the happy couples wishes for one day!
I think a wedding wouldn't be the same without children, but as everyone has said it's your day and your choice
We only had our daughter, niece & nephew to our ceremony, mainly because we were limited to seats, but all guests could pick up/have their children dropped off for hog roast/evening reception
Deffo a no i think its rude to invite people with young children & say no kids, ino i would say i wouldnt be going right away, we had kids of all ages at our wedding starting from 2 to 12 & it was fab
I think it's personal preference, I would love to invite all the kids in our family but we just can't afford it and the number are limited so only having neices and nephews (most of which are part of the bridal party ) x
Defiantly yay, we have 2 of own and a 3rd on the way so understand if people don't want to leave their little ones. We've got 36 other little people coming to our wedding next summer, so got a bouncy castle booked and face painting and lots of other things geared round the children, they're our life so it's got to be a good day for them too. Plus children make for lots of entertainment lol. We have a wedding this September where no children are invited and I think my other half is going to go on his own as our baby will only be a month old so won't be leaving her yet, makes it awkward but he'll have fun with his mates. Think it's easier if it's down to the parents choice if they want a night off or not, not everyone has baby sitters x
No screaming babies at our wedding (minus our own 4/5 month old). With an exception of a toddler whose parents are travelling from abroad ️
We had 9 kids at our wedding. They were our nieces and nephews and my 2 youngest cousins. Ages ranging from nearly 2 up to 13. Not a single peep was heard from any of them during the ceremony. Even during the professional photos they all stood without complaining. They were all so well behaved and then they had a great time at night during the evening reception. We had a photo booth and the kids were having an absolute ball posing for all the photos with everyone.
We only had three children at our wedding, kids of friends and they were also our page boy and flower girls. We don't have any children of our own or any in our families so it was an easy decision for us really, especially as other friends with kids indicated that they'd probably not bring the children anyway x
Yes , we have three children of our own to single out other family members children would be unkind.
Yes my son. It's a must children can really bring a wedding together.
My daughter will be 1 when we marry, plus my best friend will have a 1 year old and my sister will have a 3, a 2 and a 1 year old who me and my H2B are close with. Its kind of a no-brainer for us, but pre-baby I would have been close family kids only.
no. only bridesmaids or kids involved xx
You can tell who has kids and who doesn't by the posts. I couldn't imagine a wedding without kids. I'd feel offended if my kids weren't invited.
We wouldn't have had kids at ours if we didn't have our own child. We had 7 there in the end, family only x
My sister in law (to be) only had my kids at her wedding (her niece and nephew) and they were part of her wedding party. My partner and I are having any kids that want to come/parents want to bring. It is lovely when there are kids there dancing and playing
I agree its personal choice. We are having children at our wedding as we have four of our own and most of our family have children so wouldnt feel right without them. however as i parent i ahve been invited to weddigns where my children werent and i havnet minded in the least. just need to amke it clear up front to avoid misunderstandings.
Nope, only having our 2 nieces and our nephew as they are in the bridal party!
Definitely we are having them as weddings are for family as well x
We only had my nephews. But only because a lot of our friends have kids and it adds up so quick...half the wedding would have been kids. Xx
Yes definitely, my wedding will be full of children!
It's down to preference. We are having our own children there obviously, my son (9) will be a Paige boy and give the ring to my partner to give to me. Our eldest daughter (4) will be a flower girl and give me the ring to give to my partner. And our youngest (18months) will also be a flower girl.
I think it's very important to have your own children there as it's one thing they'll remember. If you have no children then maybe just have immediate children like nieces and nephews. For those who don't want children to attend I think it's absolutely fine...it can be difficult having children during the ceremony as they can be noisy and not sit still etc.
Maybe just invite the children to the evening party then they can run around any enjoy themselves. My friends are getting married next year and are having some guests children attend in the evening (ours too). We will also only be allowing the bridal parties children to attend the ceremony as there are too many young children in both our families. Xx
We are having children at ours as they are family and I wouldn't enjoy my day without them there but it's up to you as its your wedding x
We aren't having any. I'm a early years working so it's not to do with not liking children but more to do with the cost. We would have at least 14 children attending which would cost at least another £600 which we just can't afford. X
I'm only having my 2 boys and wedding party children. 8 kids in total, night time they won't be there because 7pm onwards is adults time. Xx
Yes from me they will be about twenty at mine x
Yes. .I'm even inviting my son and daughters friends. My son is 13 and daughter 11. 😊
We are having children at ours for the day and part of the night till bout 10/10.30 then have asked if could have them all left by then for the last few hours to be adults only
I'm not being funny but, it's your day why do strangers opinions matter? Yes fair enough ask advice on things like when to start looking for dresses etc but, leaving it upto strangers to help you decide whether to invite kids is abit strange
We don't have children so are only inviting a few children (4 in total) from very close family. I want everyone to be able to enjoy themselves and not worry about the kids. Also want to avoid any potential tantrums during ceremony or speeches! My friends will enjoy an adult day and evening where they can drink and have fun ☺️ personal preference though.
We are having kids at the wedding but the evening is adult only after 8pm (except for very young babies) , even our own kids are leaving at 8!
We're thinking of no kids just purely because our first venue choice is Preston way and my family live in the Wirral so when the kids get tired it's not as simple as them popping home with a baby sitter & i'd be devastated if my cousins had to leave the party early x
We say yes. But thats because we have a lil boy ourselfs and hes best man. Having our family is one of many reasons we are getting married so it wouldnt seem right not having the kids included xx but ive been to plenty of wedding with no kids and that was just as enjoyable! X
My sister got married at a place where there was fire involved and a massive lake so she didn't have any whereas I got married in a countryside with a barn reception with garden games I must admit I was nervous of any children kicking off in the church if they got bored but they were all so well behaved we had 10 of all ages and walking out in the evening to see them all laughing and enjoying themselves on the garden games was fantastic and exactly how I pictured my day I think it depends on what you want
Totally Up To You. We're Having Kids, We Have Two & I Want All My Nieves & Nephews There. But If I Ever Got Invited To A Wedding With No Kids I Wouldn't Mind x
Not for us, but we don't have children nor are there many in our families x
We had no children at the ceremony but then they could join us after. We offered to pay for a childminder for the whole 15 minutes of the ceremony but the parents chose to wait in another room with them. Sucked but their choice I guess. Call me selfish, but for that 15 minutes, I didn't want any interruptions or disturbances... we'd been to a few wedding where children fuss and cry and it ruins the moment for me. It's how you want your day and people should respect your wishes
We had little ones at our wedding from tiny tots to younger kids.. it was lovely to have them there :-) we didn't have any of our own at the time but we now have a 1 year old who attended 2 weddings at 4 months old and one at 11 months old :-) it was lovely to have her there.. kids bring something great to weddings!
We're just having the grandkids
For me it's a no. I will have my 2 nephews there during the day because they are part of the wedding party but they are leaving in the evening. I just think that it's a lot to pay out for and for every child that comes it means someone else is cut from the guest list. Plus it's a night off for the parents! But everyone is entitled to their own opinion xxx
We are having no children
Personal choice, but I'm having 6 flower girls and 3 page boys we love all the children in our family and want them involved, and a lot of our guests also have children who will be invited! I'd hate to go to one without my son, so I'd happily have other people's children at mine! X
It depends how keen you are on children and what child relations you have. We have our 4 children and some others attending that range in age from 1-14 years. I would definitely ask myself are they well behaved or are they going to cause chaos?
I had about 20 kids at mine. I did have giant games outside and enclosed gardens where they could play safely without parents having to watch every move they made or worry about them. Everyone said how they barely new they were there and how well behaved they were. Some were family some were friends but they all played together. I love the sound of children laughing and playing. Got some lovely pics of them all doing a balloon release in my colour theme too. Was nice. Xxx
Yes as we have a little boy and our siblings have children and would not dream of not having them there
I had around 11 children at my wedding 2 of which were my own, I made little gift boxes for them and they had a blast, to me a wedding is a family celebration I loved having all the children dancing together at the after party. I have not been able to attend family weddings due to having children (and our only babysitters would of been attending the wedding themselves) each to their own of course it's their special day but it doesn't stop me feeling a little pushed out because I have children xx
I had my kids and others at mine its a personal choice but I think kids make a wedding
No from me too as we don't have any friends with small children now, they've all grown up xx
Depends on the child. If they are a close relation then yes, but I would let just everybody bring their children. X
My daughter was my flower girl, my nephews and my friends kids made the day complete by stealing cupcakes and decorations all over the venue lol
I love children though so I didn't mind dodging cupcake messes in my dress or the occasional child cry over a speech, up to your preference but they definitely added an element of hilarity and family to my day x
100% yea children make the day! Just make provisions for them we did activity packs got a toys and games corner and hired a play bus I wouldn't have had it any other way!
We had our children and my sister in laws children and found they made the day more special personally :) x
yeah I would got 4 young nieces don't want them missing out on watching their auntie and uncle getting married
Each to they're own, personally a no for me though bar my own
We just had close families kids as most guests have kids it would have doubled our cost and we just couldn't afford it.
The kids made our wedding day! Couldnt imagine a wedding without them tbh
Absolutely YES ! A wedding is a merger of 2 families & children are your family.
Yes we did they make the day plus our were as good as gold xxx
Anyone that attends our whole day can bring their children, but not for the evening guests x
We only wanted the children in the bridal party and nieces/nephews. Our invites say "children cannot be accommodated" yet people are telling us that they are bringing their children.
We have 6 between us and my MOH has 4 so defo yes. Though the youngest will be my 6yo
Yeah :) was really disappointed that my cousins two boys aren't coming. Wanted a chocolate fountain but as there will be kids there I decided against it lol
NO! no under 18teens .
Yep they make it I think
I am a nursey nurses so children are my life we had around 10 kids but we had a bouncy castle candy cart and chocolate fountain as well as packs with colouring in sheets we hardly seen them
Definitely for us, they are s big part of our day. We have about 20 coming to the wedding and then a further 15 in the evening. We plan lots to keep them occupied x
Hell yes! Each to their own I know my auntie and uncle had no kids at there wedding but despite the fact we didn't have any kids at the time I had 2 little brothers and my hubs had lots of little cousins so our wedding was very child friendly we had a sweet shop, giant garden games and colouring activities for the kids, my brothers even walked down the aisle with me, my dad and the bridesmaids it was lovely to see them in their little suits they stole the show and all the other kids looked adorable too and they weren't a bit of trouble!
Yes when I got married I made the main event formal then it was more a giant fun party for the kids with bouncy castles, entertainment and games till the kids where tired then it was time for adults! I wouldn't dream of saying no children and I would never ever consider going somewhere where my children were not allowed!!!!!!
No we don't want kids at our wedding bar immediate family and any friends who live abroad and have kids.There would just be too many kids otherwise and we don't want a kids party! Also we don't think we want kids ourselves so it's not something we want at our wedding!
For us the more kids the more special the day, they're only kids for a short while, they should have these memories
Depends really we had our 2kids and children in the family but didn't invite friends kids otherwise we would of needed a bigger venue
I have two girls it's more their day than mine loads of kids . I wouldn't have it any other way
I let our guests decide whether they wanted to bring their children. Some did and some didn't :)
Children make a wedding!!
I think it's bloody horrible how most people are saying no because they want the adults to enjoy themselves! If me and my partner were invited to a wedding and not my children then I wouldn't personally go. I understand the baby sitting type thing think it's a lovely idea, but to not invite the children I think is horrible. You were all children once and weather you have children or not, they should be included in the special day. Maybe it's just me, but I don't agree with no children at a wedding. Children make a wedding in my eyes, not "ruin" it
We had children at ours Wouldn't have had it any other way. Love seeing the children. Dance and run around.
We are having the bridal party then around 3 extras so about 8 in total. But there are certain ones I'm not inviting as I know they will cause havoc
From a Celebrant's viewpoint children can be a wonderful addition to a ceremony. Children's literature is so beautiful when read by a child.
No children allowed to our ceremony or wedding breakfast, they are allowed to evening reception but a lot of our guests have decided to have the day/night off being mum and dad and come without their kids! xx
Our wedding was about completing our family ( we already have two boys) as much as anything else therefore all my friends who had kids who were important enough to be invited had invites for their kids too. They made the day to be honest. The funny things they do, the smiles and giggles! It was fab!
We haven't finalised our decision but at the moment are thinking no children, we want to have a relaxed day and think that all the guests we are inviting who have children will appreciate having a day child free where they can relax and enjoy themselves too.
Yes, I have kids so couldn't imagine them not being there
I couldn't not get married without my son, nephews, nieces and friends children.
We've booked a Wildlife Park and I can't wait to see all the kids enjoying themselves with the animals and the playgrounds! x
No way! Children and babies talking/crying through your vowels ruins your moment.
Defo yes...kids make the day special......im getting married on the 2nd of Sept this yr n we have 8 kids between us...from the age of 2yrs _26yrs .....i have involved them all on our special day n my granddaughter aswell ....
It's hard to say no to friends with kids if your family have them.
Besides you can invite them for the afternoon/evening part... Just make sure you have something to keep them occupied - colouring and puzzles or props for the photos booth to dress up with...
Yes... I have four children of my own so it would be hypocritical to say no. They are people's family so you could cause offence by not giving them the option of coming. Give people the option maybe? Some parents may not want to bring their children but giving them option makes it sound like you see them as a family. Its also not easy for some people to find babysitters, so you don't want to stop someone coming for this reason.
Yay got to have all my family there 😄
We have of granddaughter who will be 1.6 years and older nieces and nephews during the day...no one else can bring kids and there are no kids on the evening x
I think children make a wedding :) but doesn't mean it is for everyone