So I'm having a little bit of bridesmaid trouble & need some advice. A few...

Wow it sounds like you've got a real school yard problem. If I were you I wouldn't bother with them and wait to see if any of them get in contact with you. If they do then they actually care if they don't good riddance.

I prefer to have a few close friends rather than a lot of people who are don't care.

If it was me I would ask them not to be involved in the wedding... it sounds like they don't really care and the last thing you need is to worry about how they are going to act at the weeding, you could explain to them how you feel and see if this helped but if it was me I would just tell them to come as a normal guest x

Drop them! Real friends wouldn't do that. It sounds like in years to come you could look back and regret having them if there's another more serious falling out!

You will have more friends than them drop them they are not good friends .you want your day to be special .add them to your normal guest list x

I think maybe you're over thinking it all. After all you are all adults and individuals, not joined at the hip, my friends go away with out me and i go away without them, i never feel the need to consult them about it. We also always do things with one of the other but not the rest all the time. We are a close group of 5 friends. There are much more important things to worry about other then being left out from a trip away. X

I think you need to all meet and air your feelings .... they have done things to annoy you and it will prob be you have done things to annoy them ..... if you do this and nothing is resolved that you have tried and can walk away knowing you tried.
Stop looking at you all a a 'group' and look at four grown women who can make plans without consulting each other.
As for it being 'un reasonable ' to not have them as bridesmaids .... ask yourself would I bitterly regret not having them at my wedding , I'm guessing no

I think you all need to grow up a bit! Sounds all very petty and you actually sound jealous that they've done things without you! No offence but no wonder they're ignoring your messages about dress shopping if things are as fraught as they sound since they're probably wondering whether or not they want to be involved in your day!

Hi I agree with Carla at least that way you will know where you stand good luck :)

i would book appointment to look at wedding dresses take your mum if you have a sister and your future mother in law text your bridesmaid giving them the date and time if they dont turn up then you know they not interested and when you go shopping for bridesmaid dresses do the same text them day and time and tell them they paying for there own dress shoes hair and make up as you on a tight budget and then you will know who is going to be a bridesmaid or not remember this is your wedding not theres dont let them make you feel like that you dont need that kind of hassle and trying to arrange a wedding think about you not them if u have a sister or your husband to be has a sister or close friend or cousin ask her to be bridesmaid incase they dont show on the big day you will still have a bridesmaid

They don't sound like mates to me they should be there supporting you whilst your stressed. Just seems like they agreed to be bridesmaids to keep the peace and to be faffed over for the day. If your heart isn't in it and your head is telling you otherwise do what you think is correct. What you have to think about is these people will be in alot of your wedding photos.

well to be honest if they can not be bothered to come dress shopping they don't sound like they will make very good bridesmaids

In my eyes bridemaids should be family members or friends you been friends for years and are there for you , but i would also do what Lynn Skivington said as if they want to be a bridemaid they would buy there own shoes ,hair and makeup

Ditch the lot of them you have enough to do without worrying about petty squabbles between the bridesmaids. You need reliable people around to help you plan your special day!

I'd just say to them unfortunately your budget won't stretch to having do many bridesmaids and therefore you have had no option but to cut back as you feel that this is the only thing that you feel you can compromise on. Then you can ask who you want to replace them. Personally, after joining this and seeing everyone else's issues around bridesmaids, I'd decided on none. Then when I was about 6 months away I relented and asked my 4 year old niece to be one do she would experience it as I was the last aunt to get married. It was bliss, no hassles, just one very cute young girl looking like a princess to accompany me down the aisle with my Dad. No hassles with matching clothes either as only 1 to deal with. Sorted.

I think you should talk it over as it would be sad for them not to be a part of your day of you are close. However if you do fall out having them as a part of your day may ruin it or spoil photos when looking back