Okay so one of my bridesmaids shes really begining to make me feel asthough...

Why don't you talk to her? If she is your best friend you should be able to talk. Maybe she didn't realise how important you thought the first Birthday was or for her to be there. See what she says then decide

Definitely talk to her like Jane said. See what she says and go from there x

I had this issue with certain guests.... who did let me down! If you have a gut feeling now, don't waste your time cos you don't want to be disappointed on the best day of your life! Maybe ask how they feel and give them the option if they want to step down?

A birthday party is very different to a wedding......

Ever thought she had a good reason for not coming ?

Spoken to her about being let down a few times and yes i know a wedding and a bday party are 2 different things but i have a gut instinct i will be let down at last min n i have her reasoning as to why but dont feel asthough it's the real reason bcoz its the same excuse as other times ive been let down by her

Hi I agree with the others talk to her ask her if she would rather come as a guest good luck :)

I've had to do a similar thing with my maid of honour recently. It is your day and you need to do what's best for. I agree you do need to talk to her but you don't want to be stressing about anyone else on your day.

I would talk to her about your concerns, because if you don't it will make you feel worse if you let it build up

I would tell her she is no longer a bridesmaid even if you have to make an excuse this is what I did xx

I agree with the other comments that I think it's worth talking to her. Ultimately though Hun it's your wedding and go with your gut instinct x

I agree with everyone about talking to her and maybe asking her if everything is ok in her world. There might be something going on that you're unaware of, if that's not the case then tell her how you're feeling (no-one can ever argue how you feel, it's personal to you) and ask if she'd still like to be a bridesmaid or if she'd rather be part of your special day as a guest. Whatever happens, just remember why she's a friend and why you asked her to begin with - and then relax and get back to enjoying the excitement of getting married. Best of luck :)

Talk to her! You need it sorted before she lets you down on the big day

Definitely try to talk to her - I tried to talk to one bridesmaid about my concerns re her behaviour at my 30th and how worried that made me about my wedding day - her response was to pull out citing my unreasonableness! If she's a true friend you'll be able to have a genuine conversation- if not at least you know!