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UKbride Member Request 17 Jul 2017

My h2b and I have found our dream venue but if we go for the Saturday it's...

My h2b and I have found our dream venue but if we go for the Saturday it's more expensive and we're not sure we'd be able to afford it all but if we go for a weekday wedding we should be able to afford everything we had planned. However my worry is that if we go weekday many people won't come however we are giving people a full year notice for a save the date. What are your thoughts on weekday weddings? TIA xXx

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Katy Robertson
Katy Robertson 17 Jul 2017

We was the same, we booked it for a Monday and I've given people the date to arrange time off and we are still 19 months away. People who want to be here will be!

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 17 Jul 2017

My wedding is a weekday and I havent had anyone say they wont be able to make it. If they want to come they will take the time off work dont worry x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Ours is a Friday and we gave 6 months notice- no complaints!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Hi . I'm getting married next June on a Friday. Didn't even cross my mind about people being there. They will come to enjoy your day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Ours is a Friday, people like 3 day weekends.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Friday and most people came xx

Emma Howe
Emma Howe 17 Jul 2017

Many Saturdays are now the same as any other weekday regarding work. Our wedding is on a Wednesday xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Ours is a Thursday. Those who want to be there will make the effort and be there.x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We had our wedding on a Friday. Everyone we wanted to come came. If people mean enough to you to be invited to your wedding,you should mean enough to.them to.book a.day off work. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Try a Friday woth a later ceremony 3/4/5pm people will take the whole day or half day off work if the venue isn't too far away this will save you a little from the Saturday and can guarantee most people will arrive

Jaki Green
Jaki Green 17 Jul 2017

Ours is booked for a Friday purely because of the specific date we wanted.
As much as I'd love everyone we invite to be there, if they can't come, they can't come, at least I'll be marrying my almost (🤣) perfect man on a special date.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Do whatever you want, if they don't want to take a day off for your happy day then they're not worth coming

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Booked Thursday in september and finding the people that aren't Comming are those we had to invite rather then wanted to invite so it shows people will come if they love you guys enough to make the effort. Also finding most suppliers are at least 25% cheeper

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

If you're guests are all reasonably close by, you give plenty of notice and you are properly close to them all then it should be fine, but bear in mind it will probably end earlier as people will likely have work the next day. If so many of our guests didn't live abroad we would have had a weekday wedding

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I'm having a Monday wedding. My theory is that if people want to make it they will - I've taken time off work for loved ones weekday weddings before and didn't mind.

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Wednesday. Only had 2 say they couldn't come as their other half couldn't get the time off (and 1 of those was just sour because I didn't invite her daughter who is my cousins step-daughter and who I've met about 6 times in 15 years) so 4 people in total unable to attend. The other 70 came, including 2 cousins who came up from Peterborough and 4 friends who paid to change their holiday to come back 2 days earlier so they didn't miss it. Those that mean the most to you will make the effort in any way they can to be there x

Megan Chaplen
Megan Chaplen 17 Jul 2017

We're doing a weekday simply because the package is £6000 cheaper and I'd rather pay for extra free drinks and canapés and stuff than pay more a venue but have less for the guests. Plus we can easily afford our honeymoon out of what we've saved, we were going to have to put it off a year otherwise

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Ours is a Thursday on a bank holiday weekend. Like you we wanted a weekend but it was £3k more for a Friday and £6k more for a Saturday!! We sent save the dates a year before and only one person has said they can't come. I had two other friends get married on a Thursday and they still had nearly everyone attend and stay till the end.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We are getting married on a Thursday. Those who are close enough to you to be at your wedding will take the time off. We have found that there is also some huge discounts from suppliers etc as it is a weekday.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We were in the exact same position and booked for a Thursday. Everyone who means anything to us will be there x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We're getting married the Sunday before bank holiday for 2 reasons. 1, people won't have work on the Monday so I'm getting all the benefits of a Saturday wedding for half the price and 2, it's our sons birthday on the Monday so my H2B will never forget our anniversary🤣

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Both Myself partner and son work weekends it is easier for us to get a weekday off we have missed many a party as we just can't get a Saturday night off xx so I think weekday weddings are brill

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Try a Sunday? We got married on a Sunday as it was much cheaper then a Saturday. Every one came and as far as I am aware no one moaned about it.... xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

If you go for a weekday then just be conscious that if you do it in term time and have friends that are teachers then they will not be able to attend even if notice is given. If you don't know many teachers and this isn't an issue then just ensure you provide people with notice.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We had ours on a Friday...we've been to another on a Friday...its not uncommon and you're giving lots of notice so people have chance to sort things out with work etc. Just book it and let everyone know...those who want to celebrate with you will make sure they're there xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I've been to several weekday weddings and haven't had an issue with them. As long as you've given them enough notice there really isn't a problem xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

As long as you give people plenty of notice it will be fine. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We were in the same situation an sent our save the dates out a year in advance so far no-one had made a fuss or said they won't come :) if they love you they will be there

Sarah Bond
Sarah Bond 17 Jul 2017

We've gone for a Thursday wedding cos it saved us over £3k and nearly everyone we've invited is coming. They've all pretty much done what we thought they would and booked the Friday off for a long weekend! We've been to a couple of weekday weddings as well and they were bigger than ours! Very much recommend. Im sure people will take time off for your big day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I think if it is a weekday you just have to accept that not everyone will be able to make it because if people are travelling it could be up to 3 days off work and be understanding of that however a lot of people will be able to come so shouldn't be a problem

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Those who want to be there will make sure they are, do what you want :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We are getting married on a Friday, so far no1 has complained x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Go for weekday give out save the dates weekends are expensive and not everyone has weekends off anyway

Emma Elliott
Emma Elliott 17 Jul 2017

We're getting married on a Wednesday and can't wait

Julia Sweetman
Julia Sweetman 17 Jul 2017

Mine is a Sunday and no one has said no yet x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Wednesday at end of July (was our anniversary). Think daytime wise we had 2/3 out of 80 say no due to work. Enough notice and they'll book the time off xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We are having ours on a weekday as it brings the money down a lot. We are sending invites out to all people coming to the whole day early so they can hopefully book it off :) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I'm having mine on a Thursday - 65 days

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Hi, we've arranged our wedding for a Friday as it offered the best value for money. We've opted for August as most families have the kids off from school and could work the wedding into holiday plans. Also accommodation cost for guests will be cheaper too.
You'll never please everyone with your plans, so focus on pleasing your self and the people that matter will make the effort to come regardless of the date.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We had same problem we went for friday so then people will book it off as its a long weekend for them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

If people want to come they will. Do what you want to do don't worry about guests.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Ours is a Thursday(because the date we wanted happened to be on a Thursday), (we have got ours half price for it being weekday!) we have just sent out our save the dates, the wedding is April next year and so far we have only had people say of course they will come, even though it's a Thursday. If people want to come they will make sure they can xxx

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UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Jay Rickard

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UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Friday of the May bank holiday weekend everyone made it. My friend is getting married on a Thursday, I can't stay over due to school but will definitely be going

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We are getting married this Friday and only had 2 people out of 84 decline and it was for reasons other than the day of the wedding. You should be fine if you're giving plenty of notice xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

i'm getting married on a Friday. We sent save the dates a year before so people could make any arrangements. 2 of my friends got married during the week, one a Monday and one on a Wednesday. As far as I know everyone they wanted was there. I think as long as you give enough notice people will be able to take holidays or get time off for it :) weekday weddings are becoming more popular

Sandra Tobolska
Sandra Tobolska 17 Jul 2017

We had the same problem. Check with your venue cause most of the time Sundays are cheaper too and thats what we went for x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Friday and it wasn't a problem for any of our guests. If people want to come then they will :) I'd go weekday, with enough notice and then you can spend the extra money on some extras/honeymoon!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Wednesday in half term week so that family with children were able to come and travel for it. Everyone we invited came along and they only had officially 5 months notice. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I'm having a Tuesday wedding. People are getting more than enough notice..If they don't make the effort then it's their loss...and cheaper for you!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We've been to plenty of weekday weddings and we are getting married on a Monday! It's worth it for the dream venue, and you're giving people plenty of notice - those who really want to be there will make the effort xxc

Gemma Bosher
Gemma Bosher 17 Jul 2017

We're having a weekday wedding and so far people haven't said they can't come

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We booked ours for a Wednesday wanted the Thursday and the date is special to us but it was unavailable so opted for the nearest available. It's so much cheaper than the weekend and plus we fly on honeymoon at the weekend! We sent save the dates over a year in advance. We are little worried that people won't be able to make it but we know everyone will try to be there. So what's right for you!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

im getting married 2 weeks Wednesday and most of the people we invited are coming, a lot of people work weekends so i didn't make much difference x

Becky Briggs
Becky Briggs 17 Jul 2017

I'm getting married on a Friday next July and sent out save the dates nearly 2 years in advance, invites will be sent this Christmas. I think if you give people enough notice and they mean a lot to you, they'll make every effort to be there :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Friday, and everyone we invited made it. A lot more people work shifts/ weekends now, also if they've given plenty of notice people should be able to book time off :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We had a Friday wedding in October and everybody booked the day off and were glad for the long weekend. If people want to then they will x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

As long as you give plenty of notice for people to put in holidays at work you should be fine. If you know anyone working ina school they may not be able to take the time off but that depends on the head.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We're doing a weekday due to the cost, it's your day & if your giving people plenty of notice then people who want to come will make the effort and make arrangements to be there x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We are planning for a Thursday wedding cause of costs and most people will prop take a long weekend off xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Ours is a weekday too as like you say it's much cheaper. Friends who are Teachers are the main people who struggle but all the ones I've invited have been able to get a days unpaid leave. The people that want to be there will make the effort to come regardless of what day it's on

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

If you're going for a weekday try the school holidays. If you have friends or relatives who are teachers or work in a school they can't take time off in term time. Even if you give a years notice schools don't allow it. I'm sure most people would take the time off but be aware of those people who may work in a place who can only take time off in school holidays.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I got married on a Saturday and still had a couple of no shows! Do what's best for you, if people want to be there, they'll be there. My only suggestion would be that if you're inviting any school teachers, make the wedding during kids school holidays as they're only allowed time off to attend immediate families weddings x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We had the same problem! The company my fiancé works for is a small family business and all the staff will be invited to the wedding. But for us to have it on a weekday none of them would be able to come, and I was so worried that loads of other guests wouldn't be able to go so we ended up with the Saturday! I also didn't want to pressure people into booking a day or 2 off work but that's just me thinking about everyone else as usual!!! 🤣

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We've booked a weekday wedding during half term. The only guests we have that would struggle taking time off are those with kids and those who work in a school. During half term, they're all off :)

Tiffany Boot
Tiffany Boot 17 Jul 2017

Go for it. I was having a week day wedding before we moved the date. We had no complaints and everyone invited had given their work notice as soon as they found out the date. No one had an issue with it, even the NHS staff! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Our daughter and fiance got married on a Thursday. People were given plenty of notice and it was brilliant.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We had ours on the Tuesday after the Easter weekend and only 2 people weren't able to get time off x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We get married on a Tuesday as it's the date we wanted unfortunately it didn't save us a great deal at all but I didn't want to give up the venue I'd fell in love with we've had some say they can't make it as they can't get time off and they've had more than a year's notice so I think if they really want to be there they will mine obviously didn't xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We're getting married on a Friday and everyone is making a long weekend of it. Having a bit of a do at my house the following day too

Lauren Jones
Lauren Jones 17 Jul 2017

We thought about a weekday but there are enough teachers on our guest list that it wouldn't have been practical. Unfortunately, not everyone can take time off work no matter how much notice they've got. If you don't have any teachers then I'd say go for it, but it's something to bear in mind.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Go for Friday or Monday then at least they don't have to have too much time of work.enjoy.x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

What ever you do there will be those that can or can't take time off. Just ask those you really can't get married without if it is fine by them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Ours is a Sunday for this reason x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Should be fine. We married on the other side of the country from a lot of our guests and it was mid week and most people tried. Anyone who wants to go will!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

My daughter went to a wedding on a Wednesday. As it wasn't local to home she had to take 3 days off work to attend. One day to travel down, day of wedding then 3rd day to come home. Not everyone gets lots of annual leave that would give them days to play with to attend midweek.

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UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

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UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

A week day really can work out more expensive go for Saturday and invite less day people and see if you can get a deal on eve guests I'm speaking from experience having chosen a weekday which has cost loads

Kate Harrison
Kate Harrison 17 Jul 2017

I'll be totally honest, I'm not digging the mid week wedding, as parents it's very very hard to juggle everything and take time off work even with notice. It does depend greatly on who you're inviting and whether they have kids or far to travel I guess.

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 17 Jul 2017

We thought about a Sunday or a Friday wedding which would have really cut the costs down. However we wanted a may wedding and it would have meant the kids couldn't be involved so we decided to have a Saturday wedding as the kids and our families kids are an important part of the wedding to us x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I always said I wanted a Saturday wedding, but only because 3 quartets of our guests live over 100 miles away or abroad. So for work purposes it had to be a Saturday to give them the travelling time. I know its your dream venue, but you can find cheaper ones that work just as well if you feel this will be a massive issue. Besides, gives you extra budget for other things then as added extras

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

My wedding is a week day, 2 weeks tomorrow in fact! All our close family and friends are all coming. We gave them 18 months notice but it didn't seem to matter. Don't worry and go for what you can afford. X x x

Amber Neat
Amber Neat 17 Jul 2017

We personally didn't want one. But if they matter they won't mind it being in the week

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

we got married on a Thurs just sent invites out early, everyone that mattered came xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We had a Wednesday wedding,it didn't affect the price for us,weekends were the same price,but still didn't change our decision,all guests that were invited still came,daytime & evening,everyone loves a good wedding,go for it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Book your wedding for whatever day you want. As you say, you are giving people plenty of notice and if they want to be there, they will book it off xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

We got married on a Tuesday and in the summer as my husbands a high school teacher and the place was our dream venue and it was offered to us for like £4000 cheaper than on a Friday, sat or even the Sunday. only a handful of ppl didn't come and I don't need to go there but if they want to come and you mean something to them they will come as long as you give them plenty notice :) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

If you give enough time there should not be a problem. Holiday can be booked if people work and if they don't not a problem at all. You enjoy your day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

It depends on the jobs of those you invite...such as,do they work term time etc. Me and my partner really struggle to get the same days off but we just accept that we pretty much have to say no to most invites now.he may not even get his sisters wedding day off!. He has worked every single weekend for years and though people don't believe us,he has really struggled to get a weekend off and I would only get a week day off if it was maybe a siblings wedding and that's it.I personally would go with a weekday wedding or a Sunday one though as it is cheaper.I would not mind if people could not make it due to work or childcare as that's life.I have missed a total of 5 weddings in the last few years due to not being able to get time off or due to childcare issues but it's not a problem to me unless someone moans at me for missing another event lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jul 2017

My h2b is a head chef, one of his groomsmen is also a chef at the same place. It would be impossible for them both to have a saturday off - we get married on a thursday! X

Patricia Hales
Patricia Hales 18 Jul 2017

Ours is on a Tuesday if the summer holidays, got good price for being start of the week and most things are included in our package. Send got save the dates and a lot of people had messages, they've had 2yrs notice. My theory is if someone doesn't want to come then you can invite off the reserved list.

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UKbride Administrator 18 Jul 2017

Kelly Talbot

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UKbride Administrator 18 Jul 2017

Mine is a Wednesday, didn't get it any cheaper though and everyone is attending x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jul 2017

Just make sure it's in the school holidays, any friends or family that are teachers/work in schools wouldn't be able to book the time off. Other than that, with plenty of notice I don't think it would be a problem xx

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 18 Jul 2017

I personally hate weekday weddings I would never have chose one as people may book day off for your wedding but they probably won't book the next day off so they won't be able to drink or stay up . It wouldn't ruin my wedding for me

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jul 2017

I've saved £300 on my venue having a Friday not a Saturday. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 18 Jul 2017

Ours is next Thursday and we've had no problems. Another great thing about weekday weddings is that you can normally get all the suppliers you want :) hope you have a fabulous day :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2017

My friend has her wedding on a Wednesday and it was fine. My advice is to give them plenty of notice and if they wanna be there then they'll sort it out x

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