Just a quick question... me and my sister in law have NEVER really got on as...

Nope u go & enjoy it self

If she's being so petty forget her and go and enjoy your birthday. No point worrying over someone who doesn't like you even if she is your sister in law

Surely your husband wouldn't go without you?? Xx

She might be the type to generally make things about her, but a wedding generally is about the people getting married....

If you're not invited, then go ahead and do whatever you want that weekend, celebrating your birthday is perfect timing However, your husband really should be having a word with her, like it or not, you're his wife, she needs to deal with that, or risk losing her brother.

Part of me thinks you should go to support your husband and stick it to her. She probably wants her brother to choose between his wife and her xx

Hi, the post is mine. He is going to her wedding, but there's just been so many mixed messages like she Wanted him to respond to her without sending an invite she was then texting him saying that she wants him to do something special for her day even tho the two of them have never had a good relationship since I got with him 3 years ago it's all been about competition with her and she's basically telling everyone that I control him which is one of the reasons he is going because I've told her he can do what he wants it not my fault if he doesn't talk to her or anything she's been complaing because when we go and visit his mum one weekend she will talk to just him and then the next week she will ignore us both she's acting really silly and the reason for my birthday weekend is so that my husband doesn't have to worry about me being at home alone upset because he agrees my sister in law is trying to drive a wedge between me and him she has even said to him if he doesn't come to the wedding without me that he's no longer her brother.

Just do as you say..i wouldn't be bothered with the wedding esp when the invite is of and on..i wouldn't of went either ..enjoy your birthday

Tbf she was on and off about inviting you, so you should not feel bad by having some self respect and saying you're not going to the wedding, as she didn't make an effort herself to make you feel welcome. As for your husband he needs to grow a pair and not go to the wedding in respect of your decision and as a mark to his sister that it's not acceptable that she does not make you feel welcome. At the end of the day, you have dobe everything you can to be family with the girl, and she's thrown it back in your face. If you and your husband continue to pander to her by going to the wedding, then she'll never know her behaviour is unacceptable and she'll continue to be a selfish cow bag. Hope this helps! 😀

I would like to point out. Because she's getting married abroad that my husband is not going to the actuall ceremony because he doesn't have a passport. He was only going to the reception. In the uk when they got back from their wedding trip. So they would have already got married... the thing that. Upsets me is I'm a very quiet blend into the back kinda girl and she told someone who told me that the sister in law had said she didn't wanna invite me cause she didn't want me showing her up?? I laughed but also was quite offended as I have more respect then to do something as stupid as that. Even if she hates me which is another reason I'm not going because I don't want her to regret inviting me later if she "had to" she doesn't want to invite me but she said she will only do it for my husbands sake as I'm his wife but Then found out she just kept saying she does want to invite me then saying she doesn't know if she wants to which is why I made other plans

No, you are not wrong to want to make other plans if someone is indecisive as to whether or not they invite you, you deserve better than to be at someones beck and call. I'm sure that your husband wouldn't want you to attend the wedding if it makes you happy, but it is right that he attends x

Tbh id just go and enjoy your birthday weekend. Screw the sister in law and her petty childish ways. I was never invited to either of my sisters weddings and its never bothered me. I never knew my sisters were getting married until 1 was already married and i got a phone call inviting me to the reception which i declined and the my mother phoned me up 1hr before my others sisters wedding informing me my twin sister was getting married and i wasnt welcome to attend again my reply was i dont give a damn. Their reason for not inviting me was stupid as they thought i would show them up 1st by telling their groom what type of person the groom was marrying and 2ndly ruining their wedding video by calling guests names by getting my own back on them for what they did on my 1st wedding day. (Eldest sister slept with my groom weeks before our wedding while i was 7months pregnant and twin sister called my guest slags,whores,bastards and cunts in my wedding video and twin sister also wore a pure white suit ) so its no surprise that now im getting married 2nd time around none of my family are invited only friends.

Hi I say your husband should be supporting you he should tell his sister that if your not invited then he will not attend her wedding simple as good luck :)

Charlotte honey, family dramas and relationships can be so hard, but this particular sister in law sounds pretty sodding petty! If she's been on and off about inviting you then I wouldn't feel bad at all about going off and actually enjoying my birthday weekend! No one wants to be at a wedding where they don't like the person, especially when It happens to be the bride... There is no point, you would feel awkward, so just enjoy your own time. I know people say your hubby shouldn't go without you, but I think this is an exceptional circumstance and if you would rather he did go then I see no reason for him not to. Its only a problem if you don't want him to go. And remember, she might be your sis in law, but that doesn't mean you have to get on. She sounds like she is pretty jealous and is holding a grudge over a silly argument. One day she will grow up and she might even change. But for now, you do what makes you and hubby happy, no one else really matters. Xx

She sounds the control freak to me , enjoy your birthday, lets face it your husband wont be at actual wedding , if your husband wanted to be at wedding that badly he could of got a passport , if i was your husband i would show my face for a couple of hours then leave .lets just hope he tells the truth if people ask why you not there, go and enjoy your birthday and let her live her sad life

why isnt your husband supporting you? Your sister in law sounds very childish.
Tell him you would feel better celebrating your birthday with him if mot your friends.
Talk to him. Try and talk to his sister too to see what exactly her problem is with you.
she sounds very controlling and needs to grow up

Send her a beautiful card and well wishes, and then go and enjoy yourself with your friends! Familys can be awful and I found weddings bring out the worst in people, don't let her get to you if you and your husband are happy that is all that matters! Xx

Go and enjoy the birthday weekend...never mind her x