UKbride Member Request 16 Jul 2017

Need some advice. We have hired our venue for a few days and immediate...

Need some advice. We have hired our venue for a few days and immediate family and wedding party will be staying there. Should we ask for some money for their room and the food we'll be providing or is that cheeky as we've arranged it this way? Some people have been asking how much they owe us for it but some haven't asked anything so don't know how to bring it up if we are going to ask for money. I have said to a few extra friends who are staying the night of the wedding for £25 per person which they say is more than fair. Can't decide what to do and don't want to be rude!

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 16 Jul 2017

Hi its not rude but I would not have booked the extra rooms in the first place good luck :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

Do they have the option not to stay? If they do then it's not rude at all. I didn't pay for anyone to stay over at our wedding as that was their own choice. However if you want them to stay and it's not optional then I would say you should be paying. Xx

Gemma Riley
Gemma Riley 16 Jul 2017

Our venue price includes all of the rooms in property as we have exclusive use for 2 nights as standard. We were advised by the venue to sublet the rooms out as the people staying are people who woukd otherwise be booking a room anyway given a choice xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

Personally I wouldn't be asking anyone to pay anything towards staying unless you have mentioned they will have to contribute toward it before booking. Then it gives people the option to either accept or decline.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

People don't expect you to pay for their accommodation, no wedding I have ever been to has included my accommodation. I would (and am going to) offer the rooms available to my friends and family, I'll let them know the price and if they'd like to stay they are welcome. X

Vicky Scott
Vicky Scott 16 Jul 2017

I allocated rooms then put a wee note in the invite saying a room has been reserved for you and ..... at £ including full breakfast - please let us know if you wish to keep this reservation
No one has been offended and have either said yes thank you for the reservation or thank you but we don't need the room.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

It depends if you were planning to pay for it before people started asking you how much they owe you or not? You could possibly ask for half of you can afford to pay for the other half?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

I was a bridesmaid and was asked for money for a room, i think its fair to ask.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

my friend got married in a hotel and they had a certain amount of rooms allocated for wedding guests and they were discounted for those guests. all i had to do was phone up and quote their name which was their code and got the 25% off xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

Maybe if people ask what they owe you and you feel embarrassed to ask for the money maybe ask for a contribution whatever they can afford. Better to have booked the room rather than have people worrying about where they are gonna stay if the rooms are all booked up nearer the time. If the venue allow you to easier to cancel rooms then worry about where guests are gonna stay if the rooms at the venue are all booked.

Catriona White
Catriona White 16 Jul 2017

I think it's fair as long as 1. They have the option to book somewhere cheaper 2. It's transparent from the start. It sounds like (correct me if I'm wrong) rooms are already booked and allocated. If you didn't make it clear from the outset that they were paying it may be an unpleasant surprise for those who are short of money. Are you tied into the rooms? If lots of people don't want to pay and book elsewhere do you lose out? Do people who can't afford a hidden cost have time to book an alternative ?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

I would say there are some rooms available for the night of our wedding if you require a room please let us know and then ask the hotel if they can sell on rooms you don't need our venue did this for us if they want to book a room send them the cost of the room I did this for my wedding xx

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 17 Jul 2017

My wedding guests have to pay for their rooms they are booked under our name and then we allocate them . My sisters wedding venue the rooms are in the price of her venue she is going to ask for money for them

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 17 Jul 2017

I put on our guest information which we included in our invites, if you wish to reserve a room and then the details x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Jul 2017

My venue has rooms at a discount price ( due to us having exclusive deal) and were telling them to pay what ever the cost is ( obviously at discount price)


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